21 weeks and still so worried.

[LegoHouse]

After 2 and a half years of TTC and 2 losses I'm really struggling with my pregnancy this time. I would say I didn't really attach myself to my baby until 15-16 weeks, and even now I'm scared that he will be taken away from me. Every time he doesn't move as strong, or I feel funny, or something just isn't right, I'm scared he will get taken away.

Pregnancy is not so fun when you're not naive. I was so naive when I was pregnant with my daughter. I thought it was all so easy, = baby. I thought miscarriages were extremely uncommon. I didn't know so many babies died.

Ugh. I want to go back to not knowing.

 

[SabrinaKat]

Oh, honey -- how you feel is normal! I still feel the same and he arrived last week!

Just try and take it one day at a time....you can feel the baby now, so that helps. Think in terms of 'milestones', e.g. in a few weeks, he could survive outside with specialised care (24wks), then at 28wks, his major systems are a-go and he's just getting bigger, etc. Take it one appointment at a time as well, and try to relax (e.g. not think of baby sometimes), get a pedicure (because soon you won't be able to reach your toes!), start singing to the baby, etc. and if you are feeling really uneasy, speak to your MW, somebody recommended pregnancy yoga to me, but I was too lazy....

best wishes

 

[mamaduke]

I'm with SabrinaKat on this. Take the approach of milestones, and it makes it a little easier to deal with.

For me, my milestones were:

- See baby's heartbeat (as we didn't with our m/c)
- Get over fear of ultrasounds (as that's how we found out about our m/c)
- Make it through the first trimester
- Make it through the 20w anomaly scan
- Viable at 24w!!!
- Feel regular movements from LO

Tracking it milestone by milestone has made this less scary.

 

[LegoHouse]

Mine were have scan where baby was implanted, see heartbeat, get past 12 weeks, everything be OK at 20 weeks... Now I guess I am waiting for 24 weeks!

 

[Jox]

lots of love

PAL is so difficult sometimes seems such a long way till our rainbows arrive xxx

 

[3xscharmer]

So far, I agree with everyone else...and let me say, when I was pregnant with DD even though I'd only had 2 first tri losses at that time, I was worried all the way up until I had her...and still worried about her now that she's 1 lol!! I worried about everything, I actually called the doc b/c she had only moved like a handfull of times one day and I was so freaked out b/c she was very active normally, the doc had me come in and they listened to the hb and then she asked me if I thought maybe DD wasn't moving around so much b/c she was cramped...DUHHH, I should have known that lol! I was like 30? some odd weeks at that time lol! It's normal to worry and to obsess but like everyone else, counting milestones helped...my biggest was 35 weeks, after 35 weeks they will not stop your labor as your baby has a really high chance of survival! Once I hit that milestone I was able to relax a little! Good luck honey, and I'm sure everything will be fine just try and focus on positive things and count kicks/listen to HB or do whatever it is that helps reasure you!