25 week appt has me feeling down...

[kmichelle]

I had my 25 week appointment this morning and I left wanting to cry. It's nothing major, but I thought I had been doing so well with everything, so getting a lecture this morning upset me. I was going to do my glucose screening today, but when they sent me to give a urine sample I all of a sudden got sick and threw up for ten minutes. Now I have to go back on Monday to try and do it then. Then they took my blood pressure right after I had thrown up and it was too high. Then they weighed me I have now gained 14 lbs total. She only wants me to gain six more pounds, but how is that possible when the baby needs to gain at least six more pounds himself? UGH. She told me I have to start watching what I eat and exercising. I understand that I need to exercise, but I don't eat that bad to begin with.

Sorry for the pity party. I usually love my doctor, but today was discouraging. Just needed to rant a little...

 

[Claire788]

I have a high BMI and I was only supposed to put on 14lbs total... I'm at 15 so far !!! Its rubbish isn't it. I feel your pain *Hugs*

 

[Nikko88]

sounds like an upsetting appointment all around. But at least it's over. Hopefully the next one will go better. There are some things in life that you can control and a vast majority that you can't. Try not to stress about the latter.

Nothing will take away the extra pounds (above max for my starting BMI) that I've gained. I just try to think about being as healthy as I can reasonably be to limit the amount gained.

I don't envy people starting pregnancy with a high BMI. It's hard enough for me to stay at 1 pound a week right now. Just got to accept that my hunger levels aren't an accurate indication of caloric need. Healthy substitutes help.

But being super stressed out isn't going to help either. Hope you can find the right balance for you

 

[kmichelle]

In the beginning she told me I could gain 25 to 30 lbs, so I'm not understanding why it's 20 lbs total all of a sudden? I was a little overweight to begin with, but not obese by any means. I am 5' 6'' and was 176 to start, now 190. Am I really a cow? Geez. Sorry, I will get over myself by lunchtime. I'm just emotional today I guess.

 

[RcdM]

Aww sorry you feel this way. Just keep in mind your doctor has your best interest in mind, she's not trying to "lecture" you like a mother would. She just wants to help keep you healthy because that's her job. I know it's hard but try not to take it so personally.

As another poster said, if you're trying to keep the weight gain down, try healthy snacks. Surround yourself with them so that when you do feel like snacking on something, you have choices and they're nearby (like bring them to work or something) so you're not tempted to get chips or something. Carrots and low fat ranch, celery and peanut butter, dried fruit, stuff like that. It's hard, I'm not saying I'm doing very well with this either, but just offering a suggestion Hang in there I'm sure you will be fine!

 

[Elodie]

Don't worry - I started out at only 130lbs, by 16 weeks I had put on 13lbs and my midwife called me fat! I told her to mind her manners Try not to worry about it, this stuff is just guidelines for an ideal world and really hard to stick to, regardless of how healthily you are eating.

 

[pLadyBug]

Sorry about your appointment. I would not be sad rather irritated. But as stated before the weight thing is just a guideline to follow. Yes, sometimes more weight gain leads to other issues, but that is not always the case. If you're eating healthy and doing what you're supposed to I wouldn't think another thought about it. Besides your baby may be a little bigger, you may have a little more fluid...etc. I have yet to have a pregnancy in which I gained less than 35lbs. Yet, I never had gestational diabetes, high BP, or have had any other health issues as a result during any pregnancy.

 

[kmichelle]

Thanks everyone. I am over myself now. My husband agreed to start going to the park with me for at least an hour every day and we are both going to start eating healthier, although we don't eat all that badly now. I guess I'll have to cut out starches or something. I do eat healthy snacks now, but I guess I could do a little better. I've been eating rice cakes, granola bars, bananas, watermelon, celery...I think I just need to be more active. I was pretty active until I got pregnant and had a hellish first tri. The morning sickness didn't subside until almost 18 weeks, and I was so tired and had headaches all the time, so I basically just laid around for four months not feeling well!

I may or may not gain more than 6 more lbs, but I'll at least try!

 

[Dinah93]

I can't believe how much emphasis they put on weight gain in the states, really glad for the most part they don't do that in the UK. I was 136lbs pre pregnancy, at 26 weeks I was 165lbs so I stopped weighing myself - I did the exact same thing with DD and by 14 days after birth I was only 6lbs more than I had been before falling pregnant, so clearly it was almost all baby weight and my body was gaining for a reason.

 

[Nikko88]

... but I'll at least try!

That's the way to think about it. Try but don't beat yourself up if things don't go according to plan.