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pavementfan
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hi there, i just wanted to say i'm sorry AF came. I hope you get your BFP soon. AF also got me today and this is my second Xmas TTC too, I'm about to start clomid tomorrow. All the very best of luck for the future and sending lots of baby dust your way.
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Hi, I understand what you are saying. We have been trying for 3 years 4 months and never had a BFP. Top it all off, my younger sister didn't want children till she was at least 30 has a beautiful little girl. She turns 23 on the 9th (my sister, not her daughter, lol).
After speaking to my FS before starting my seventh cycle of clomid, he told me that only 80% o women ovulate on Clomid and only a third of them will get a BFP. If Clomid doesn't work for you, there are other treatments you can try. I am on the waitng list for injections which is why I am continuing with the Clomid. Never give up hope.
The way I see it is it doesn't matter how long it takes for me to get my BFP, just so long as I do.
What do I think is meant by my infertility?
I think it is so my husband and I grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. I think we are meant to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think it is meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, create procedures and protocols. I think it is meant for us to find a cure for infertility.
No, it is not that we are never meant for to not have children. That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on. I've been placed on the road less traveled, and, like it or not, I'm a better person for it. Clearly, I am meant to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let myself down.
Frankly, if the truth be known, I think I have been singled out for a special treatment. I think I am meant to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.
While I would never choose infertility, I can not deny that a fertile woman could never know the joy that awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice I'll say, "Don't tell me why I have been handed infertility. I already know."
After speaking to my FS before starting my seventh cycle of clomid, he told me that only 80% o women ovulate on Clomid and only a third of them will get a BFP. If Clomid doesn't work for you, there are other treatments you can try. I am on the waitng list for injections which is why I am continuing with the Clomid. Never give up hope.
The way I see it is it doesn't matter how long it takes for me to get my BFP, just so long as I do.
What do I think is meant by my infertility?
I think it is so my husband and I grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. I think we are meant to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think it is meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, create procedures and protocols. I think it is meant for us to find a cure for infertility.
No, it is not that we are never meant for to not have children. That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on. I've been placed on the road less traveled, and, like it or not, I'm a better person for it. Clearly, I am meant to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let myself down.
Frankly, if the truth be known, I think I have been singled out for a special treatment. I think I am meant to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.
While I would never choose infertility, I can not deny that a fertile woman could never know the joy that awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice I'll say, "Don't tell me why I have been handed infertility. I already know."
zimmy
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Princess Lou, I just have to say - that was fantastic. beautiful. It lifted my heart and gave me strength. You are right on the money, that is exactly right. 
MrsG 1980 - I feel your pain, BFN here too, too many Christmases to count. hugs.
MrsG 1980 - I feel your pain, BFN here too, too many Christmases to count. hugs.
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Oh MrsG, I'm so sorry. 
Hang in there, it'll happen. I'd say be positive but frankly there are times that one is just too pissed off to be positive.
We definitely know how you feel though.
Hang in there, it'll happen. I'd say be positive but frankly there are times that one is just too pissed off to be positive.
We definitely know how you feel though.
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Mrs G - I just read your post and this thread - sounded just like me this morning. I am on 4th cycle of clomid and AF came today. We have been trying now 2 and1/2 yrs. It is nearly a year since we conceived ( naturally) but sadly that ended in mc.
I have been really positive recently and then this morning it was like I had been punched.
This journey is so so hard at times.
Without thsi forum I dont know what I would do - I really dont.
Congrats on your new job and good luck with the IUI. I have thought about trying to do the same privately - but at 41 with one ovary - I just dont know if I could get my hopes up enough to even try it. The chance of success is so low. You are very brave.
Keep believing honey - we all on here know the despair. I try to remember the following words - I can't remember where I found them - but it helps to think that our babies are waiting for us - just as we are waiting for them -
With every tear that falls, there is a lost heart that calls.
It calls to say, ' I am here, dont despair, I will come to you when the time is right.There is hope and light.
YOur wait may be long, you may get frustrated by the whole ordeal,but in the end, I will be real.
While others around you are succeeding, I know your heart goes on bleeding.
I thank you for your patience and your great persistence,
If it weren't for this I may not get the chance of my existence.
I know you have tried for many long years, but have never given up and simply dried your tears.
I know you dread each month for that hollow feeling in your tummy, but just know one day soon you will hear me call you mummy.
You wonder most days if I will ever arrive and I know you and daddy try hard to keep that dream alive.
You will be the mother you long to be,just please, if you can
Keep waiting for me.'
I dont know who wrote it - but its a beautiful thought.
and Princess Lou - thank you too for your words - about infertility. I think it is very true - when our baby comes - we will truly be ready
I have been really positive recently and then this morning it was like I had been punched.
This journey is so so hard at times.
Without thsi forum I dont know what I would do - I really dont.
Congrats on your new job and good luck with the IUI. I have thought about trying to do the same privately - but at 41 with one ovary - I just dont know if I could get my hopes up enough to even try it. The chance of success is so low. You are very brave.
Keep believing honey - we all on here know the despair. I try to remember the following words - I can't remember where I found them - but it helps to think that our babies are waiting for us - just as we are waiting for them -
With every tear that falls, there is a lost heart that calls.
It calls to say, ' I am here, dont despair, I will come to you when the time is right.There is hope and light.
YOur wait may be long, you may get frustrated by the whole ordeal,but in the end, I will be real.
While others around you are succeeding, I know your heart goes on bleeding.
I thank you for your patience and your great persistence,
If it weren't for this I may not get the chance of my existence.
I know you have tried for many long years, but have never given up and simply dried your tears.
I know you dread each month for that hollow feeling in your tummy, but just know one day soon you will hear me call you mummy.
You wonder most days if I will ever arrive and I know you and daddy try hard to keep that dream alive.
You will be the mother you long to be,just please, if you can
Keep waiting for me.'
I dont know who wrote it - but its a beautiful thought.
and Princess Lou - thank you too for your words - about infertility. I think it is very true - when our baby comes - we will truly be ready
I'm like you Mrs G, been ttc number 1 since august 2010. I am on cd13 and my first cycle of chlomid. I had a faint line on an opk on days 10 and 11, then yesterday..... nothing! I am convinced it hasnt' worked, I havent' o'd and like you said another christmas with no special present. It sucks!
I was in tears yesterday with it all, i think I was expecting a 'real positive' opk and when I didn't get it, it felt like my heart broke. But today is another day..... i'm trying to be positive, and I think that's all you can do. I know i'ts hard.... believe me, I know.
I just keep telling myself that Santa brings presents on December 25th..... so we still have a bit of time before he's supposed to deliver!
Good luck hun. x
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Mrs G - I am on 50mg days 2-6. I was taking my chlomid around 6 in the evening. I was scared of the hot flushes and thought that I was then more likely to have them at night as opposed to at work!
I must admit, I don't know huge amounts about waht the progesterone levels should be. I will be having my day 21 bloods done on day 20, 9th of December (as day 21 falls on a saturday). How long did it take you to get the results? What mg are you on?
All of my tests have come back good, as has dh's. The only thing is that was wrong is the thing saying about me ovulating. My periods are all over the place. I have to admit though, I kind of want to ring the fs and say I want more attention as I'm not happy and I don't feel like this is working (I know I'm only on cycle 1 of chlomid, and I know I am probably being impatient, but still). I think i'm being a bit selfish though. It's just hard.
I must admit, I don't know huge amounts about waht the progesterone levels should be. I will be having my day 21 bloods done on day 20, 9th of December (as day 21 falls on a saturday). How long did it take you to get the results? What mg are you on?
All of my tests have come back good, as has dh's. The only thing is that was wrong is the thing saying about me ovulating. My periods are all over the place. I have to admit though, I kind of want to ring the fs and say I want more attention as I'm not happy and I don't feel like this is working (I know I'm only on cycle 1 of chlomid, and I know I am probably being impatient, but still). I think i'm being a bit selfish though. It's just hard.
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MrsG not sure about IUI specifically. It can only help - as you say - with getting the best sperm and getting them nearer the target. My post was maybe a bit misleading - I had looked at IVF as an option - but over 40 the chances of success are dreadful. Havent looked in detail at IUI success rates. But I think at the end of the day you have to do whats right for you and if you want to fund an IUI cycle then thats brill. We have savings we can draw on - hence why I have previously looked at IVf and such like. But at over 40 and with a BMI over 35 I dont think they would touch me with a barge pole! My consultant quoted an IVF success rate of 5% once you are over 40. Like you I have been owndering if IUI is a halfway house that may improve our chances
All these assisted conception things- success rates are dictated by age, bmi and who knows what else.
AT the end of the day luv- it only takes one egg and one sperm and luck of course - if IUI gets you nearer to that - then go for it.
With the IUI - what do they do? - or wont you know until your first appointment. Will they track a follicle and then do the iui at optimum time?
Sending you lot sof baby dust
All these assisted conception things- success rates are dictated by age, bmi and who knows what else.
AT the end of the day luv- it only takes one egg and one sperm and luck of course - if IUI gets you nearer to that - then go for it.
With the IUI - what do they do? - or wont you know until your first appointment. Will they track a follicle and then do the iui at optimum time?
Sending you lot sof baby dust
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