3 under 3 and a half

[BethHx]

Hi. Just found out im pregnant. I have a 2.5 year old and a 7 month old.
is this going to be really hard? My fiance works away four days a week so I am on my own often.
Am I crazy?!

 

[george83]

Congratulations!! I have 3 under 3 and a half (my youngest two will have the same age gap as your two) except my youngest is only 4 weeks old so I'm not sure I can give you much advice.

so far it's going better than I expected but ds3 spent his first 2 weeks in hospital so I've only really had the 3 of them at home for 2 weeks. I'm also recovering from a c section so we can't get out as much as used to which is the trickiest part - ds1 is incredibly bored at home. I've tried having simple things at home todo with him while the other two are asleep works well but I'm constantly on edge that ds2 will wake up and we'll have to stop what we're doing. They both love their little brother though and even ds2 has already learnt to be gentle with him - he quite often comes over to pat his back when I'm winding him which is so cute.

 

[TTC First]

I am a foster parent and I have an 8 months old and a 3 month old and I am expecting one of my own. We don't take kids over 1 because they are a lot of work. I do find it draining and I have DH to help.

It's hard to say how you will feel. We are not used to the toddler age so we find it work, you have already been dealing with that age so you have gotten used to it. I would say that make sure you are organized and have things to keep the kids busy. In Canada we have a place run by the government where we can take the kids and they can play and do activities, it's free. These are great because although you have to be there, it keeps the kids busy, the mess is outside of the house, and gives you a little bit of a break.

People think we are crazy for having 2 under 1 but it's really all what you get used to. I am sure you will find your way and get through the tougher younger days.

 

[CaptainMummy]

My eldest was 3.5 when dd3 was born. Dd2 was 13 months at the time.
I am a single mum, so have been on my own with them the whole time (they do see their dad, but he doesnt help much!)
I will say, the first 3/4 months I found really hard. I was exhausted. Dd3 was sick constantly, she cried and whinged and didnt sleep during the day. It is so much better now. still lots of work, but I enjoy it Now.

You are not crazy, you will love it

 

[BethHx]

Eliza still wakes twice a night atm and is impossible to get too sleep during the day unless outside in her pushchair. She has 8 months too improve!
Im extremely excites but nervous about my eldest losing out on me even more. X

 

[george83]

Eliza still wakes twice a night atm and is impossible to get too sleep during the day unless outside in her pushchair. She has 8 months too improve!
Im extremely excites but nervous about my eldest losing out on me even more. X

I've found I've put extra effort into my eldest and have made a special effort to entertain him each day so although I'm sure he feels pushed out he has had extra attention, I'm sure it will be the same for you

 

[Larkspur]

Friends of mine had 4 under 3 at one point and they're still alive and married, so I'm sure it can be done!!

 

[Amy2701]

Ask me in 4 weeks! Lol. I'm due #3 in three and a half weeks.. Youngest will be 2yrs 4 months and eldest will be 3yrs 5 months. We planned to have them all so close, but the last few weeks of this pregnancy has been exhausting with the other two to run around after. I'm hoping life with a new baby and two toddlers can only be easier than being pregnant with two toddlers! Lol

 

[going_crazy]

I've just answered a similar thread! I've not been on BnB for a while, but thought I'd see if I can help anyone!

Basically, I was in a similar situation and I had a 2.5yr old, a 1yr old and a newborn. Fast forward 11 years and they are now 13, 12 & 11yrs (plus I've also got a 4.5yr old)

I personally enjoyed every minute of it... although it's now with hormones flying around that things are... erm.... interesting (plus having to have a schedule for bathroom time is quite funny!!)

There are positives and negatives to each age gap

My husband works shifts and long hours too, so I often felt like I was on my own for a few days each week.

I'm not saying it was easy easy, but I've survived and I look back with only happy memories


congratulations and good luck xxxx