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[LOZANDEVIE]

If he wanted to see his daughter so bad,Wouldn't he be begging and be on my door step? He says he cares, but i fail to see this. They wanted the cot and Lillies blankets back. They have punished Lillie not ME. I think that is really sick. If they cared, wouldn't they be begging to see her? Surely they wouldn't be taking her stuff away. Don't get me wrong, I'm going to buy her a cot when she needs one.And she has several blankets,but that just isn't the point.They bought that cot as a gift to his daughter and his mums grand-daughter,And they've took their grandaughter and daughters bed away for when she's older,to me as a parent, that's appauling.What do you think? They would beg right? If i was a father and i wanted to see my baby.. I'd set a camp up outside there door until theylet me see he/she. Opinions on this please girls. And please no negativity, It has broke my heart enough that they would take her stuff away from her.

 

[billy2mm]

some people are just so cold hearted hun.

you dont know what he has been saying to them though do you? he could be making up some total load of bollocks hence them taking the stuff back.

you are your daughter are worth so much more than them!!! if that is how they are going to be then its their loss! you have your daughter all to yourself while they have an empty cot and an empty blanket!

 

[purpledahlia]

Yeah i agree he could of lied to them and made you out to be bad and so theyve said they want the stuff back.

If he really wanted to see her, yes, he'd be at your door. Some guys think that by saying things like this will make it ok, but it doesnt. we need to see actions not words, which are usually meaningless!

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Thank you very much ladies, They are very cold-hearted self-centered people. Made me feel sick how they could take her cot away. Not that she needs it right now but when she's older she will, but I will buy her a brand new one Apprently i am vindictive lol? Very rich coming from an idiot like him.Lillie will always know who her dad is, and If when she's older she questions why he hasn't been, I wish i could tell her. Only he can say, but then he'd probably blame me anyway. Typical males. x

 

[kglo]

I think they are trying to spite you but have not considered the fact they are spiting the child.

They seem very wicked people; how could you take back a gift to a child or spite a child by taking back something you brought them.

This is very upsetting; even if he had lied to the grandparents, they are adults and should know right from wrong; however it was them that taught him when he was growing up.

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

He always told me and my mum he had what he called a " F'd up childhood " So i guess you're right.. they taught him when he was growing up so no doubt filled them with crap! Never mind.. At least she has her mummy who cares for her more than anything or anyone in the world! Love her so much x

 

[scottishgal89]

Im not sure what to say, i cant believe they took their gifts back thats just rude.
Agree with what the other girls have said. I think the same that if he really cared he would try harder, if it was me, i wouldnt be sitting doing nothing but i'll never understand the way he thinks or his reasons for acting the way he does

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Agh I know exactly what you mean. My baby's father is acting all poorly done to atm, like I've taken his child away, yet he knows where we are and has been once in five weeks to visit. They've not taken any gifts back (because they didn't buy any tbh), but he's changed the locks on our flat so I can't go back and get the baby's things, and he's given his mother the key so he doesn't have to face me if I try to.

Actions speak louder than words at the end of the day hun, if he gave a crap he wouldn't be so apathetic, he'd get off his arse and do something about it.

 

[Aidedhoney]

Huge hugs hun xx

Words fail me as to what would posses someone to take away a babies bed!!!!!!!

xxx

 

[aob1013]

Hun i am so sorry you and your daughter are being treated like that .. it's sick .. it's just so appauling xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Words are failing me....... I can't believe anyone would be sick enough to do that

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

I'm sorry myself for their actions,I feel in a way responsible.I'm so sorrry for her having such a horrible father.

 

[LilBean2010]

I am so sorry, hun. I truly cannot believe anyone would be that low - but I don't know why things surprise me anymore!

My ex has bought a few packs of newborn diapers and a pack of wipes in the entirety of my pregnancy. He is keeping them at his house now that we are seperated because "he bought them." I have news for him - the baby won't be at his house when any of that will fit so he wasted his money!

I would keep any documentation you have about them asking to take her bed back. If he ever tried to show up and say he wants to be involved - that would show his true character.

All I can say is I am truly sorry, but know that if that is who he is, your daughter is better off without him in the picture. I don't say that lightly, but it is a fact! Please don't feel bad...many a "sperm donor" are complete jerks but as long as you love and adore your daughter she will grow up to be a beautiful person.

 

[Ju_bubbs]

Omg, that is disgraceful! Even IF you were the worst mother/person in the entire world (not saying you are in any way at all btw) taking away things from their daughter/grand daughter is appualing! I really hate people who use poor innocent children as a weapon! If you ask me, the fact that they can take a cot away from a baby, shows how little they care!
'm sorry you have to deal with such heartless people

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Thanks for you support and kind words ladies.She is alot better off without the heartless people in her lives, she has me and my family who care more than anyone in the whole wde world,and Love her more than anything. X

 

[expecting09]

Agree with everyone else, it's disgusting! What's she ever done wrong!!

 

[Laura2919]

I'm sorry if this sounds rude but I am offended by this post.
I was a single mum regardless for how long and people want to help so I dont see why just single mums can reply to this thread. There are plenty parents who used to be single mums that could help you out by telling you their situation. Cos your a single mum thats all you want to hear from??
You said no negativity but surely your asking for peoples genuine reaction there is going to be negativity in what people write just simply cos that side of your childs family seem like a bunch of w**kers!

 

[scottishgal89]

I'm sorry if this sounds rude but I am offended by this post.
I was a single mum regardless for how long and people want to help so I dont see why just single mums can reply to this thread. There are plenty parents who used to be single mums that could help you out by telling you their situation. Cos your a single mum thats all you want to hear from??
You said no negativity but surely your asking for peoples genuine reaction there is going to be negativity in what people write just simply cos that side of your childs family seem like a bunch of w**kers!

well said hun
i wondered why the title of thread was for single mums only. didnt really make sense when you read the question.

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

I meant no negativity towards me,not towards that side of the family.

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

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