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Hi ladies,
I'm sure I'm not the only one here who is feeling this way, so feel free to vent your own stories about husbands or other family members.
I love my husband, but at this point I think that his destruction would be best for me. We got into an argument last week in which he told me that I have ruined the pregnancy for him because I have been so miserable. He then had the audacity to turn around and tell me how understanding he has been. Well, call me crazy, but I don't really feel like not understanding someone's physical pain is very understanding, but who am I to judge?
I don't think I've got much more going on than the typical woman, but I think it's pretty common to feel kind of miserable during pregnancy. I mean... the first trimester you're sick. I was sick up until 20 weeks, but I was lucky that Unisom worked so well for me. It didn't stop me from feeling bad if I didn't eat frequently enough, but it kept me from being so sick I couldn't function. Second trimester was ok, until about 24 weeks when I started to show and my guts got shoved up into my lungs so I couldn't get comfortable. I'm now 35 weeks, and I've been having all of the 3rd trimester woes that we all do. Some days I can't find my ankle bones, I struggle to breathe, stairs are just... hard, pelvic pressure, lightning crotch, cramps, sore boobs (especially lefty), headaches but can't use anything but Tylenol, sciatic pain, shoulder/arm pain, back pain, rib pain, heartburn, etc. Now, when I say breast pain, it was impossible to describe breast pain. When it started off, it was tingling, which was annoying, but manageable. I didn't complain about it until it turned into feeling like I was having breast implants without anesthesia. It felt like someone was taking a scalpel and just cutting me in the same place all day, every day for WEEKS. I was so exhausted from it and I started getting really snippy at people because of how much pain I was in. It's dissipated mostly, but if I move wrong it still sends a sharp, ripping pain.
All of that considered, I've only been pissy over the breast pain. I've complained a bit about the other things, but only the breast pain got to me in a bad, bad way.
Meanwhile, I had posted a few weeks ago about the sex life issues we were having, which I guess is normal. I am feeling so incredibly unattractive, and half of the reason for that is because our sex life is pretty much nonexistent since I started showing around 24 weeks. He has said it's not because I'm unattractive and just that his libido is suddenly gone, which... I mean, come on. I won't dwell too long on this part, because I'm at the point where I just accept that I might end up living a life with a dead bedroom. The point of this is that he said I seem embarrassed to be pregnant. Well, honestly, I am. I am embarrassed about how I look because the way he treats me has changed since I started to look like I was pregnant. I can't even fathom how he can think I would feel proud to look like a blimp when he can't even manage to DTD. And sure, we can go on about the hormones and psychology of it all, but the reality is that it makes me feel really bad about myself and how I look, yet I'm expected to fart rainbows and glitter all over the place because I'm pregnant.
I don't really need any advice, but I did need to get this off my chest. I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read, and I'd enjoy hearing other stories... maybe I won't feel as alone.
I'm sure I'm not the only one here who is feeling this way, so feel free to vent your own stories about husbands or other family members.
I love my husband, but at this point I think that his destruction would be best for me. We got into an argument last week in which he told me that I have ruined the pregnancy for him because I have been so miserable. He then had the audacity to turn around and tell me how understanding he has been. Well, call me crazy, but I don't really feel like not understanding someone's physical pain is very understanding, but who am I to judge?
I don't think I've got much more going on than the typical woman, but I think it's pretty common to feel kind of miserable during pregnancy. I mean... the first trimester you're sick. I was sick up until 20 weeks, but I was lucky that Unisom worked so well for me. It didn't stop me from feeling bad if I didn't eat frequently enough, but it kept me from being so sick I couldn't function. Second trimester was ok, until about 24 weeks when I started to show and my guts got shoved up into my lungs so I couldn't get comfortable. I'm now 35 weeks, and I've been having all of the 3rd trimester woes that we all do. Some days I can't find my ankle bones, I struggle to breathe, stairs are just... hard, pelvic pressure, lightning crotch, cramps, sore boobs (especially lefty), headaches but can't use anything but Tylenol, sciatic pain, shoulder/arm pain, back pain, rib pain, heartburn, etc. Now, when I say breast pain, it was impossible to describe breast pain. When it started off, it was tingling, which was annoying, but manageable. I didn't complain about it until it turned into feeling like I was having breast implants without anesthesia. It felt like someone was taking a scalpel and just cutting me in the same place all day, every day for WEEKS. I was so exhausted from it and I started getting really snippy at people because of how much pain I was in. It's dissipated mostly, but if I move wrong it still sends a sharp, ripping pain.
All of that considered, I've only been pissy over the breast pain. I've complained a bit about the other things, but only the breast pain got to me in a bad, bad way.
Meanwhile, I had posted a few weeks ago about the sex life issues we were having, which I guess is normal. I am feeling so incredibly unattractive, and half of the reason for that is because our sex life is pretty much nonexistent since I started showing around 24 weeks. He has said it's not because I'm unattractive and just that his libido is suddenly gone, which... I mean, come on. I won't dwell too long on this part, because I'm at the point where I just accept that I might end up living a life with a dead bedroom. The point of this is that he said I seem embarrassed to be pregnant. Well, honestly, I am. I am embarrassed about how I look because the way he treats me has changed since I started to look like I was pregnant. I can't even fathom how he can think I would feel proud to look like a blimp when he can't even manage to DTD. And sure, we can go on about the hormones and psychology of it all, but the reality is that it makes me feel really bad about myself and how I look, yet I'm expected to fart rainbows and glitter all over the place because I'm pregnant.
I don't really need any advice, but I did need to get this off my chest. I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read, and I'd enjoy hearing other stories... maybe I won't feel as alone.
xo
