4 months unsuccessful. trying something different :)

[xPH03N1Xx]

11 April 2011

So its been 4 months, and we've had nothing but BFNs.

Both OH and I have been on our best behavior since TTC... no caffeine, no alcohol, no electric blanket, no hot baths... no baby.

A friend recently fell pregnant "accidently" and I just want to smack her

So we thought this month, instead of doing everything right, we went and bought a bottle of vodka, unpacked the electric blanket, and had a wonderful weekend, warm tipsy and happy

13 days until testing, and if I could work with my fingers crossed, id be doing just that.

Is anyone else tired of doing everything right with no results?

UPDATE!! 1 May 2011 - 19dpo
so im now 5 days late, give or take a day... BFNs, slightly crampy, huge, sore itchy boobs... just feel stuck!! one or the other would be great right now! *sighs*

 

[StranjeGirl]

YES!!! I have been taking vitex, drinking red raspberry leaf tea, taking prenatals, drinking green tea and grapefruit juice, avoiding caffeine, being careful with alcohol, temping, opks, fertility monitor, acupuncture, have dh on fertilaid and maca and 4 months of nothing!!! Not even a chemical pregnancy! What the heck??? This month I am trying to relax a little, but not really. I am praying more lol, and hoping that will help. If you get your bfp in two weeks I am going to follow your footsteps and throw everything out the window! I hope this is your month! Keep us posted!

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

We decided to stay on our vitamins, its the only good thingwe are doing. I chucked in the yucky green tea haha...
Hopefully we get a BFP soon! And hopefully you get yours!

 

[Indigo77]

Haha...That sounds good to me right about now...

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

Do it! I feel so much better... not stressed about it this month

 

[Indigo77]

My OH did not have his coffee and he was in such a crappy mood...I was like..."have your freaking coffee...PLEASE..."

Sometimes I wonder...

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

Lol mines been going crazy without his daily beers... I think letting him drink is a small price to pay if it makes us less crazy and stressed...

 

[Indigo77]

You know what? F it! This is one of my peak days and we're both so grumpy we don't even want to BD...Going to go change that right now! Thanks!

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

Your very welcome! Enjoy! And good luck

 

[RedStar57]

Oh man I know how you feel about friends just accidently becoming pregnant! I have 6 people in my life right now that are pregnant with unplanned babies. This is our first month actually trying, but we've been having unprotected off and on for the last 5 years, lol. Have fun and it's definitely a good thing to let loose! Stress imo is worse then having some wine, coffee .. lol or vodka This is supposed to be a happy thing thats happening, you shouldn't have to limit yourself completely of things that make you happy while TTC!

Good Luck!!!

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

Iv gotten to the stage where I don't even believe they actually got pregnant by acciden lol. Why do some of us have so much trouble when we are desperate to have a LO! Thanks redstar

 

[RedStar57]

Haha... right! Both of my sisters are so fertile! I swear they could just look at a man and become pregnant! I have soooo many nieces and nephews, and I swear they are almost pressuring me to have a baby!

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

My mother in law is the worst for the pressure... both of my brother in laws are also very fertile, and both had children young (one was only 13 when his now wife concieved). My OH is the oldest of 3 boys and the only one without babies, so I have them all on my back, its about time they say! Well I'm working on it!

 

[RedStar57]

well, My mother in law doesn't really care for me lol... but she has hinted that she would love a grand daughter. My hubby is actually the middle child of 5 boys. I'm unsure about the older three because he's never met them, but his younger brother is just 18. I'm a little uneasy about him having 4 other brothers and his father only having brothers, I would really want one of each and not all boys! Although I know gender selection isn't determined by the women I have all girls in my family so my dad really wants a little guy. Oh well, what happens, happens!

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

Ahh I'm in the same boat
OH comes from a family full of boys.. and his father can't produce girls. I'm betting its just my luck that OH can't either.. haha. Not that id mind a beautiful little boy

 

[MarcsMrs]

I know how you feel.....its so bloody frustrating when you are doing EVERYTHING that you should be doing & still no baby!!!! GGGGGRRRRRRRRR! We are now into month 5 TTC#1 & we decided that this month we are just going to BD as much as we want & take are vitamins & see what happens!!! We got CBFM but we arent going to use it til next cycle.....Hoping we wont have to use it at all!!!!!

FX'd for all of us!

 

[Wanna_BA_mom]

I know how you feel. My hubby and I have also been trying for four months with no luck. I am tired of doing everything right no alcohol not a drop of caffeine taking prenatal and folic acid monitor my mucus have sex when we are supposed to even bought ovulation prediction kits and had sex at the right time then. Every time I turn around I see babies and pregnant woman on TV or on the street happy as can b but not for me... I have prayed pleaded and done ever thing I can to just bfp but god apparently enjoys watching me be frustrated. I even had spotting a couple weeks ago but I think I am getting ready to start again I just cannot take much more of this.. I want this so bad and if I could I would go inside my own body and take that egg and that sperm and force them together.. I just want a baby is the so much to ask for...

 

[KahluaCupcake]

OH and I were talking, and we're so ready to be done with this, and just get on to our planning for becoming a family. He'll know in a couple days if he got his new job (knock on wood), I'm seeking alternate employment.....we made our house all clean and newly rearranged this weekend and I felt like I was nesting.
While it's something we want so insanely and badly, I'm not doing EVERYTHING to a "tee." I'm not temping...I know me and I'll get obsessed with it. Last weekend, I was smack in the middle of my non-fertile period, and I had two of my favorite alcoholic drinks at a friend's party and got pretty tipsy. It felt nice. We had sex the other day and it was nice and spontaneous and very fun. I just inseminated and gave myself an amazing, explosive, body-convulsing orgasm (sorry if TMI). Then I took all my positive thoughts and placed them where they need to be. And now I'm going to forget about it until tomorrow's insemination. And then do my best to forget about it, treat myself right, and think positive.
The past few days I've also had sweets. Yesterday I made cookies for us and bought brownies and cupcakes. I ate a damned cupcake and said, screw the baby-healthy diet for today...I'm not going to gain 10lbs and become infertile from one day of eating what I want. Or even three days.
I'm going to take it easy this TWW. I'm NOT going to symptom-spot unless I find myself praying to the porcelain god.
One of the girls I used to BABYSIT got pregnant. WHILE using a condom. I'm tired of doing things perfectly and not getting my BFP.

Sorry if this post was a little jumpy.

 

[mooncake76]

I've done 5 cycles of 'trying' with just about every supplement/tip/food/alternative therapy/guide book I could throw at it plus charting and ov sticks ( plus 6 months of sporadic NTNP). After a sad sad visit from AF last month I've ditched the lot bar folic acid, EPO and acupuncture. All books in the loft along with thermometer etc. And I've enjoyed wine again. I just thought, stuff it. I've been puritan with no results - I mean how long can I realistically keep that up with nothing to show for it? It's been ov weekend (I think) and we have dtd a fair bit. Now if I can just stop myself from symptom spotting, I'll be really proud of myself. Any tips?!

 

[Indigo77]

I've done 5 cycles of 'trying' with just about every supplement/tip/food/alternative therapy/guide book I could throw at it plus charting and ov sticks ( plus 6 months of sporadic NTNP). After a sad sad visit from AF last month I've ditched the lot bar folic acid, EPO and acupuncture. All books in the loft along with thermometer etc. And I've enjoyed wine again. I just thought, stuff it. I've been puritan with no results - I mean how long can I realistically keep that up with nothing to show for it? It's been ov weekend (I think) and we have dtd a fair bit. Now if I can just stop myself from symptom spotting, I'll be really proud of myself. Any tips?!

I would strongly advise that you not skip the folic acid...