6yr old started being mardy

[LaughOutLoud]

DD is usually very sensible but recently she is always mardy. Nothing triggers it or there isn't a reason I can see, just wants to be mardy and pull a face about everything. I end up reacting or shouting at her for being stroppy for no reason and today she told me to not shout at her. I know it's my fault that I was wrong there but I guess that's why I'm here to understand and handle it better. What should I do?

 

[OmarsMum]

Omar is the same, no matter what we do for him he ends up sulking for no reason.

I try not to shout, I just move away and tell him firmly that I will not talk to him until he gets out of this mood or talk about it & explains his reasons for pulling a face.

I struggle with it, my cousin is 9 but he's always like this & it is exhausting to his whole family as it ruins their day.

I can handle it in the right way most of the time & hubby is helpful, but my issue is not with how to handle it, my concern is with the behavior itself & how to end it.

I wouldn't mind it when he's tired or sleepy or when there is a valid reason but when it starts out of nowhere or for silly reasons it annoys me.

On Saturday we took him out to the mall, he played & ate there, then we went to another mall to let him choose the bedding & accesories for his new room & to buy some books, he was fine and having fun, but once we went to the car & he noticed the time he sulked & started to blame us for "wasting" his time as there is no time left to play at home. His attitude ruined the whole nice day!

 

[Nibblenic]

We have a rule in this house that we dont shout at eachother. Zoe HATES me shouting at her, far more than I would care if she shouted at me, it makes a good rule though.

I also watch how I talk to her, so for example she came out of school the other day and used a really nasty sarcastic tone to me. I firmly said, do I talk to you like that 'no' do you want me to start talking to you like that, im happy to make it a two way street 'no mummy im sorry' and she wound her neck in.

I think they try things, see their peers doing stuff and try to see what they can get away with. I wont have a bad attitude in my house. Its okay for her to be frustrated, to be angry even but she needs to express that in a way that I dont find offensive and that is a two way relationship

Sit down with her say for example im going to try and change that I shout, but I want you to try and change X about how you behave. Make it a mutual thing and youll have a happier house

 

[alibaba24]

My 6 year old is the exact same

 

[LaughOutLoud]

Thanks for the tip guys. It really is moody over nothing that bothers me so I can't tell her to discuss it out but my plan was that today after school we both sit down and I apologise an explain I want her to not just be mardy too.

I felt awful but this was last night an no time to chat in morning. I don't want her parting from me an know that relationships need to continue to be built on. I may also need to be more tolerant? Up till now we used to have discussions about emotions an how we felt but the moodiness over nothing has hit my nerve!