7 month old - nursery full time - advice plz!

[cmccar15]

Hi Everyone,

Im a new member, really just looking for a bit of advice/feedback from other members please.

My wee girl Eva is starting her "settling in" at nursery next week, for 2 hour slots twice a week until mid December. I then go back to work full time in January.

I am really anxious about leaving her full time but needs must, my mum is watching her one day a week so she will be in nursery 4 full days 8-6 (eeek!)

My main concern is a few negative comments made my family members about me giving her too much "one-to-one" contact since i have been off on mat leave. I did go to a mother and toddler group for about one month when Eva was 5 months, but stopped going since i found it cliquey(sp!). I dont have any friends who are off work and have children to spend time with and noew im paranoid that she wont settle at all at nursery cos she has been with me or DH 24/7

Im really really upset (as im writing this) and feeling sick at the thought of goin back to work in the New Year and leaving her everyday. I know everyone is in the same boat, i think i just need some reassurances. Im worrying that she is still quite young to be left full time in a nursery, but unfortunately she has too.

Any tips/advice would be really appreciated.

Many thanks

Claire

 

[LankyDoodle]

She is only 7 months and will be fine. She has had time to build a really secure attachment with you over those months of her life, which are really key, and now she can go and build attachments with other key adults and socialise with other children (so become socially intelligent) while feeling secure that her mummy and daddy are still there for her and still love her.

Ignore negative comments; we all have things we have to do to get by. Some people make negative comments about putting children in nursery, but at the end of the day nursery is a great place for your child to go to learn so much other stuff that you can't teach them (not meant in a bad way - I am talking about social skills with other adults and children here).

 

[Blah11]

She'll be fine hun. She might cry for the first few days but as soon as she starts to recognise the nursery staff she'll be fine. Amelie really enjoys nursery and I was super worried about it. She goes 4 days a week, 8-2.30pm. She started going when she was almost 10 months old and she did have seperation anxiety but she's so much better now socially. apparently babies under 1 year don't have the same attachement to mummy that toddlers do so they settle in easier. Good luck