9 month old cries for me from about 10pm onwards because I co slept on holiday !

[fuschia]

Hi

Baby has been a great sleeper till now .

We went to Mexico and when he woke in night at 2am (which would have been 8am uk time ) I was putting him in bed with me to keep him happy and then we just got into a habit of this over 2 weeks holiday .

But obviously now we are back, he's going to bed fine on his own at 8pm but then screaming and screaming for me from about 10pm - I can all but hear him shouting ' it's time for me to come in your bed now!!'

How do I stop this ?

It's not feeding related , he just prefers sleeping with me now !

Any tips ?

 

[Kiwiberry]

My daughter also prefers to sleep with me. We only put her in her own crib because we don't want to go to bed at 8 p.m. when she does. So what I do if she starts crying when I put her to bed is I sleep with her for a little bit on the couch in her nursery and then once she's asleep I put her back in the crib. I sometimes have to do this 2 to 3 times a night. It's the only thing I found for my daughter that works. My daughter still likes her bottle so what I do is I put some water with a tiny bit of juice in it to comfort her while she goes to bed. It's because she was breastfed so it's really comforting to her to have something to suckle on.

 

[Button#]

It could also be an age thing. Between 8 and 12 months sleep gets a bit tricky for a lot of babies. Especially with things like teething thrown into the mix and learning new skills like walking, plus a dose of seperation anxiety when they realise you could go off and leave them.

I would try cuddles back to sleep and popping him back in his cot when he's in deep sleep or just letting him for a bit and wait for him to get past this tough phase. Mine is coming out of it now after a particularly bad couple of weeks.

 

[MindUtopia]

I would just go in and soothe him back to sleep in his own bed. Of course he would like sleeping with you because it's much nicer. That should be a testament to your bond and not a bad thing. But if you aren't keen to keep doing it, just go in and put him back to sleep as you normally would. Very likely, it's also a degree of jet lag, if you've only gotten back in the past couple weeks, and like someone else said, the period between 8-12 months is rough on sleep and it could also just be a normal response to separation anxiety, which develops around that time. Best thing you can do is just to find ways to help him fall back asleep until it passes.

 

[fuschia]

Thank you ladies for your responses !

I will have to play this by ear a little and see how I can sort it out .

I spent a long time last night going into his room and settling him but soothing in his cot or picking him up if that didn't work- I didn't put him in my bed . I think it will take a bit of selling nights doing this but I want to avoid putting him in my bed because that will only re enforce the fact that he can't eventually get in there if he screams loud enough !

It's getting the right balance of showing him that it's not going to happen but also not making him feel like I don't love him !

When my husband went into soothe instead of me he just kept crying- even when he picked him up ! So he was making it pretty clear what his expectation was !

Eventually though it paid off and he slept most of the night through - in the morning I went to his cot and showed him just how pleased i was and he was all smiles .

Xx