9 month old will not nap

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So he used to cat nap as a newborn whilst breastfeeding and fed to sleep for the night. He still wakes at night for feeds but we co-sleep and I had to sleep train him a few weeks ago because he wouldn't even let me put him down for the night and it was getting silly. However, no matter what I do he won't nap! If we go out in the car, he might nap for 15 mins. Or if I'm lucky, for half an hour or an hour, on rare occasions in his swing, but though I've tried to establish naps in his routine it's not happening. I don't now if I'm coming or going!!

Today as an example, I tried putting him down at noon as any earlier he didn't look tired at all. He just cried so I took him out half hr later and then another half hr later we went out. He stayed awake in the car, whilst out and fell asleep when we were nearly home at 3pm, for a measly 15mins. Then he wakes up but obviously not happy. I tried again at 5pm an he cried for 45mins whilst I tried settling him. He then slept half an hour. Few hours later he went down for the night at 9pm.

Is anyone else in this situation and what can I do? I have my older 2 and although they were terrible sleepers (still not great), the thing is I need him to let me get on with doing things for them. Otherwise he's just crying!

 

[LaughOutLoud]

Anyone?

 

[misspriss]

I was trying to remember what DD was like at that age, but I can't. She was, and is, a terrible napper. My first was a dream napper. I wish I could remember better what we did, but it was such a struggle! It has gotten better now (she is almost 2 and takes a nap every day, might be 15 minutes or might be 2 hours)

Are you still trying to separate nursing from sleep for naps too? We still nurse to sleep, it was the only way. It is much harder to nap during the day than sleep at night, different light, different sound patterns, etc. Maybe nursing would help?

 

[LaughOutLoud]

I was trying to remember what DD was like at that age, but I can't. She was, and is, a terrible napper. My first was a dream napper. I wish I could remember better what we did, but it was such a struggle! It has gotten better now (she is almost 2 and takes a nap every day, might be 15 minutes or might be 2 hours)

Are you still trying to separate nursing from sleep for naps too? We still nurse to sleep, it was the only way. It is much harder to nap during the day than sleep at night, different light, different sound patterns, etc. Maybe nursing would help?

I do nurse him still. Before bedtime and also before a nap. I'm just not succeeding with naps, like he really don't need it.

 

[Kazy]

2 of my 4 went down to just 1 nap by 9 months. they would stay awake from morning til about 1 or 2 and then go down for a nap. The hour before they would lay down would be exhausting because they were grumpy.but it worked better than trying to get multiple nap times.
what did you do to sleep.train during the night?

 

[xdxxtx]

Allllllllllllllll of my little ones went through this stage at around that age. FOMO - fear of missing out. They're at this age where they realize there's so much going on all the time, and they wanna see everything and take part in everything and don't wanna miss out on ANY fun. I keep my little ones on a strict schedule, especially at that stage, and I am not above forcing a nap or letting my LO have "quiet time" instead of napping, but I WILL NOT sit around holding the baby during that entire time (none of my babies were happy about that, lol). I need an hour of "me time". I'll use my time to do whatever I want to do alone (no tasks or chores, just fun and hobbies). Otherwise, I feel like a servant and get really cranky.