A Love Letter to C-Section Moms

[Ozzieshunni]

https://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/131563/a_love_letter_to_csection

 

[mouse_chicky]

Love this.

 

[addy1]

Thank you so much for posting that! I really needed to read that right now!

Sometimes what others say can be so hurtful, even though not intentional. We all will give birth one way or another, and not all of us have a choice or the birth we wanted.

 

[ImmysMom]

Thanks for posting that

Even though LO is now 10 weeks I still think daily about my c-section and grieve (I can't think of another word to describe it) for the natural birth I couldn't have.

I've had a lot of support over my c-section, and only really received one negative comment, but that one negative comment is the one I think over most.

Big hugs to all you c-section mommies

 

[JASMAK]

thanks hon...loved it. x x

I posted it on my FB wall, and some people (who probably didn't have sections) said some boneheaded things...about WHY people have sections...exactly what this poem is about, and they didn't even see it!!! Gah!

 

[urchin]

I knew I would have to have a c-section, long before I even fell pregnant. In June 2010 I had open surgery to have a mahoosive fibroid removed. In effect, this was a c-section for my 'roid, and my scar is exactly the same as a cs one

At my follow-up appointment, my consultant told me that if I do manage to get pregnant, it will have to be a cs .......and tbh, given the huge amount of interventions I have had to have in order to get this far, a cs really is no big thing!
And by that, I don't mean to trivialise it - the myomectomy gave me a good taste of what a cs will be like

My goal is, and always has been, to have a baby of my own, and emotionally I have had to come to terms with needing IVF to achieve it, then needing donor eggs to achieve it - so really, a cs for me is just part of the journey I am on

People can try and judge me if they want, but that says a lot more about them than it does about me.

Yes, I will be having a scheduled cs - because that is what is needed for both me and my baby to get through the experience in one piece... and when I hold my baby in my arms, with stitches in my belly, I will be every bit as much a mother as the woman in the bed next to me with stitches in her chuff!

 

[LucyJ]

Thank you for posting this I had to have a c-section it was not what I wanted I wanted a natrual birth but the only safe way to deliver my little boy was by c-section (or through the sun roof as my hubby says)I have found it hard to deal with and dont think peope really understand why.

My little boy was breech they wouldnt do the manual manipulation due to concerns over his size as they thought it could be to distressing for him. It was discovered that my placenta wss failing so he was delivered at 36 weeks by c-section he also had the cord round his neck and I was told by the surgeon that he would never have been anything but a c-section baby.

I never experienced labour which makes me sad and although his safety was the only thing I cared about its not how I had planned it and was a very stressful time. We went from having 4 weeks left to 48 hrs. Hes 6 and half months and doing really well and I love him with all my heart hes the best thing to happen to me my little miracle.

 

[scaredmmy2b]

Thanks for this im 2 days postpartum a emergency c section where i got put to sleep and didnt get to see my baby for 4 hrs. Everybody else saw him first. I wanted a pain med free all natural birth but had to be induced overdue and got infection and tachycardia when my waters were broke. I tried to push at 9cm and couldnt get him to move. I feel like a failure and this post helped me

 

[Lise2901]

That is lovley! Thank you! Even tho I had my secton over a year ago, I still hate the fact i wasnt able to give birth naturally.

 

[Kahlan83]

That is lovley! Thank you! Even tho I had my secton over a year ago, I still hate the fact i wasnt able to give birth naturally.

I'm with you on that one. I had to have a cs with my son almost 2.5 years ago and it's taken me a long time to come to grips with it. I did feel like a failure but I realize now that it doesn't matter how he came into the world, only that he came here safely.

My son was stuck at 6 cm for over 4 hours so they didn't want to wait because my water was already broken. He's almost perfect 2.5 year old (I say almost because he's in the 'terrible two's') but I love him to death and wouldn't trade anything about him.

Congrats to all the new moms. Whether it was natural or surgical you succeeded in bringing a beautiful new life into the world and for that, you should be celebrated for your hard work.

 

[arj]

This is cool. Im wanting a C sec because of two bad births and also Im having twins this time, and am justifying it over and over to myself and to others.

 

[DJ987]

Thank you for posting this

 

[suzimc]

I'm about to have baby number 4 and have never experienced a "natural birth" as my first baby was 10lb 4oz and failed to engage even after 36 hours of labour! Since then I have had to have elective c-sections. I myself was born by c-section as was my dad so we're a family of top-loaders! I refuse to feel guilty or disapointed giving birth by c-section makes you just as much of a mummy as squeezing one out. Please don't grieve for natural births ladies, your baby loves you no matter what way he/she emerged into the world! xxx