Advice on how to tell our parents???

[Blonde_Mommy]

kay so im pregnant but the thing is im only 15. my boyfriend is 17. we have no idea how to tell our parents...
any ideas???

 

[jocatolo]

I think the only way you can do this is to just be totally honest hun, know what you want to say and do together with your bf. If she's anything like my mum when i was preg with my first aand you don't tell her soon enough she'll guess....my mums responce was ' I was wondering when you were going to tell me!' Good Luck hun x

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

we are just really scared cause in the last couple months both of our lives have been going downhill...his parents dont like me mine dont like him a lot. his dad has been yelling at him alot cuz of me..and all i have been trying to do is please his parents and everytime i try harder they seem to hate me more...
my boyfriend and i have both got kicked outta school this year and are going back in september. im not sure what school to go to and he is going to the learning store. we are moving in together soon...
we just dont know how to tell the parents...and i think they are gunna start to notice soon cuz ive already started to show((i used to be kinda small)) a little and i pee like a million times a day...

 

[jocatolo]

All I can say stay strong for each other and you know you will always have someone there to support you. It will be hard and if your parents are upset they will gradually get used to the idea, I know mine wanted me to have an abortion but as soon as they realised i wasn't backing down they supported me 110%. Alot of things will probably be said in the heat of the moment i imagine but don't take any of it to heart...you never know you may get a reaction you're not expecting and be winding yourself up for nothing. Easier said than done but try not to stress as it's not good for you or the baby

 

[lauraperrysan]

Hey hun, a little older than you but I had to tell my rents when I was just 18 (which still felt quite young then) now i'm 20. I wrote everything I wanted to tell them down in a letter, that way they would listen / read everything without shouting / interupting or walking out....it gives them an idea of how u feel, where you plan to go from here etc..... I left the letter somewhere I knew they would find it - in my case the telephone table, lol.
Then I went to my b/f for a couple of nights while they had some time to get used to it and calm down.....
I went home, yes, they were upset, dissapointed (always the worst) but there wasn't much they could ask me as I had already answered / told them everything in the letter.
I ope you find a way which makes it a bit easier for you. I know it's not easy but the sooner they know the less worry for you and baby.
Good luck hun xxx

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

thanx so much...
my boyfriend and i have talked about the whole letter/email thing but...he thinks it will be better to tell them face to face
i dont agree with him cuz i know about my dads anger...
and well i dont know which approach to take cuz my parents cant like shun me((or at least anymore then they already have)) cuz they were teen parents with me...

 

[leeanne]

Honey, the best way is just to tell them. I don't think there is an easy way but the best thing to do is tell them right away.

I hope it all goes well for you!

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

i think we will tell them somtime this coming week...not sure ill have to talk to the boyfriend....
im really scared but i cant run away from this...

 

[leedsforever]

yeah tell them sooner rather than later hun!!! They might be full of negativity to begin with (mine were and Im 22) but now my mum cannot wait!!! At the end of the day its your parents grandson or grandaughter!!! Good luck with it all sweetie... and keep us updated!! This forum will become like your best friend xx

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

it kinda already is...
lol the last site forum i was in wasnt very supportive at all...

 

[AppleBlossom]

hey hun, i was 18 when i had to tell my parents. My mum guessed but i still had to tell my dad. The best thing I think is just tell them outright. They might be angry/upset at first but as long as they know what your decisions are. They'll come round eventually. They're your parents and I'm sure they'll back you up on whatever you choose =] good luck x

 

[Diggy]

You're going to get that a lot of places, online and offline but ignore it the best you can and you will be alright.

As far as telling your parents maybe you and your boyfriend could sit down together and take the letter idea, just the both of you write down what you plan to do, how you plan to raise your child, how you plan to support your child financially, that you both plan to finish edcuations. And then when you both go before your parents face to face you can read off of the letter to keep yourself in tract and also show your parents that this is something you have thought about and discussed seriously.

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

thanks so much...

 

[lauraperrysan]

Or even if you dont give them a letter take some notes with you, lol.....pregnancy brain isnt the best time to remember everything you want to say, lol. Just choose a time when they are not busy (ie cooking dinner or going to work lol), maybe in the evening when they are relaxed..... I'm sure you will be fine, as you said they were teen parents with you so hopefully they will remember everything they felt and will understand what you are going thro and that you need support not negativity.
Good luck hun, keep us posted xxx

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

i will definatly keep you posted

 

[alice&bump]

When I told my parents it wasn't the ideal time, I wanted to tell them one night with the OH, but my sister had friends round so it obvs wasn't the best time. On my way out I said to them were they gona be in the next day so I could have a chat. Not the best thing to say as I then had to tell them on my own. Mum said she wouldnt sleep if she didnt know. Just sat down and came out with it. We'd been trying for ages, but had been through a bit of a rough patch with me moving back in with my parents etc. They kinda knew anyway, so they weren't that suprised, more worried about me and how i was gona bring up a baby. They wouldnt speak to my OH and he had the front door slammed in his face a few times, basically they couldnt handle their little girl growing up (I'm 20 in july).

They've come round to it now and they're still worried, you're parents will worry about you for the whole of your life!!

Good luck with it all and with telling them, it wont be as bad as you think!

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

yeah well they already dont like him...so i guess its okay..

 

[nikky0907]

Get them really really really drunk,maybe they'll even promise to buy the baby's pram...
Kidding.
There is no best way,you just tell them and they react the way they do,you put up with the initial reaction and then all you guys can look forward to your new addition(not exactly how it happened in my case,but I'm being an optimist)...
Good luck!xxx

 

[Blonde_Mommy]

lol thnx everyone....
btw i will be in thorill for a week so i probably wont be on...
i might be able to come on once or twice though....

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

just tell them hun i know its hard but im sure they will support you
xx