advice please....

[kristy87]

hi girls, i posted here a few days ago, but only had very few replies.


i have my first ivf consultation in 6 days, and im getting nervous.

bit of background, im 22 oh is 27, unexplained infertility. oh has very high sperm count, but high number of non functional sperm which can cancel it out.

i just want to know what happens in this first consultation please. i hate not knowing..... ive had a hsg, oh had sperm analysis and had bloods. i defo ovulate.

please can anyone share what their first consultation was like. x

 

[hayley2]

Sorry i can't help hun but didn't want to read and run. We will be having our FS appt on Monday to discuss our next step as it seems IUI might be our best option.

Good luck and I hope you get your miracle soon xxx

 

[kristy87]

thanks hun, i guess im feeling like this because our gyn was not very helpful at all. says they arent really doing iui anymore because of success rates, but id rather try anything than ivf.

look at arcanegirl, she had iui and now has her wonderful little man!!

i want to ask for clomid, i just want to try anything, i feel like im just being pushed into ivf, when really there is other things we can try x

 

[jeanettekaren]

i want to ask for clomid, i just want to try anything, i feel like im just being pushed into ivf, when really there is other things we can try x

I feel the same, although I ovulate fine I'm going to be put onto Clomid in September because I didn't want to go straight to ivf without exhausting all the other options first. I have even given myself another three months to try naturally before clomid. I think I'm probably putting too much faith in my body but I can't help feeling that I can do it without assistance, after 2 years you would have thought I'd have woken up and smelt the coffee by now!!

Good luck with your appointment

 

[rbaker]

Hi Kristy

I am in the US and so things here are probably different, but I don't think the Clomid would help you if the problem is with OH's sperm count. That is mostly if you didn't ovulate or had problems with your cycle. I can't believe they wouldn't let you go with an IUI first to see if that works. That does help with people who have problems with sperm. The IVF works best because they can actually fertilize the egg for you and it doesn't have to work so hard. On our first visit we just spoke with the Dr. He told us our options and told us what he thought we should do. He asked what tests we had done and the results. Nothing too scarey since it was just the consultation. We decided to go with IVF this time, we have tried IUI 2 times and it didn't work. This is all due to my age though, I am 40 and OH is 39, It was our best bet. Hope this helps!

 

[hayley2]

I must admit that i feel the same as you and don't feel ready for IVF yet. I have PCOS and had to have a op to remove the cysts on my ovaries and then Clomid to get my 2 sons.

Now i have a wonderful new partner we are trying to complete our family but we got my OH SA results today and he has a good sperm/motility count but a very high percentage of Antisperm Antibodies which means that from reading up on the net that IUI/IVF will prob be our only option.

I am on my second cycle of Clomid and last month did not O on 50mg but i'm on 100mg this cycle and so far on CD14 i have not O'd yet.

I do think from trying to get my sons and the time that took that the more information you have before your appt the better. Sometimes i'm sure the FS goes for the easy option - just to refer you for IVF. It means they haven't got to do any work.

If i were you i would be going to your appt knowing what you want. If you feel you would like to try Clomid or IUI first then ask for it and stick to your guns unless they can give you some major reason why it wouldn't work.

Will your OH be going with you? Can give you some back up to tell them what you need

xx

 

[auntcarrie]

Clomid can help if OH's swimmers are low/poor. It increases the chances of multiple eggs, so the healthy swimmers have more targets to hit. It is kind of a backward way of trying to fix the swimmer problem, but they use Clomid regularly for this. I have been on it 3 months now, with IUI each time. DH's counts are consistently low.

Our next step will most likely be IVF with ICSI, but we wanted to give 3 - 4 months worth of IUI a try. IUI is also covered on my insurance. IVF, nope.

Good luck to everyone.

 

[kristy87]

hi girls, thanks so much, any more advice keep it coming!!! they say we should be able to concieve and that oh's sperm is not a problem, i guess it just makes things harder.

yeah he will be going with me, and ive said to oh about clomid n he seems pretty keen. why not try it, imo, its better than nothing surely. and m going to push for iui while we are waiting, its just so much less invasive. i think its the invasiveness of ivf thats worrying me.

and yes, i think the gynae just thought right, ivf. and thats us punted out the door, i hope fs will be more helpful, im sure they will. how long does it usually take to get the ball rolling? like when will i get a 2nd appt ect xx

 

[Beckic]

hi hun
we had been treated by our fs beforehand to have tests etc and then were referred to a different hospital for ivf.
at our first ivf consultation we literally signed the forms for funding and treatment, got weighed, had a scan to check ovaries accessable and went home.
and one month later have started drugs.

we had to have been ttc for three years before we could get treatment cos we are unexplianed.

i think each pct is different though.

b x

 

[hayley2]

with my FS they gave me clomid 3 months ago enough for 3 cycles and my apptis next week to tell them they aren't working. I will be making sure my next appt isn't a 3 month wait again. Every area is different Hun with time a scales.

I must admit that IVF scares me for the same reason as you. It seems to be a very tough process to go through. I wish I was one of the lucky ones that fell within 2 weeks of stopping BC.

Let's hope we both get good news at our FS!

Xxx

 

[kristy87]

hi hun
we had been treated by our fs beforehand to have tests etc and then were referred to a different hospital for ivf.
at our first ivf consultation we literally signed the forms for funding and treatment, got weighed, had a scan to check ovaries accessable and went home.
and one month later have started drugs.

we had to have been ttc for three years before we could get treatment cos we are unexplianed.

i think each pct is different though.

b x

wow thats fast!!! we have also been trying 3.5 years, and have been transferred to a different hospital.

are you private or nhs? we are nhs.

xx

 

[kristy87]

with my FS they gave me clomid 3 months ago enough for 3 cycles and my apptis next week to tell them they aren't working. I will be making sure my next appt isn't a 3 month wait again. Every area is different Hun with time a scales.

I must admit that IVF scares me for the same reason as you. It seems to be a very tough process to go through. I wish I was one of the lucky ones that fell within 2 weeks of stopping BC.

Let's hope we both get good news at our FS!

Xxx

i wish i was one of those too!!!! all i can picture is being on the chair with legs in stirrups feeling embarrassed. i really hope they are more helpful.

at least we have each other on here huh, i dunno where id be without this place!x

 

[hayley2]

I have never had to be checked out down there in all my FS appts over the last 8 years. lol. Generally they have always gone by my scan and blood results.

You don't need to be embrassed hun - when you are pg the world and this wife will be seeing everything you have on a regular basis!

I agree - i would be lost without BnB! Failing that i'd be single as i'd have driven my OH mad with my constant questions and ramblings

 

[kristy87]

I have never had to be checked out down there in all my FS appts over the last 8 years. lol. Generally they have always gone by my scan and blood results.

You don't need to be embrassed hun - when you are pg the world and this wife will be seeing everything you have on a regular basis!

I agree - i would be lost without BnB! Failing that i'd be single as i'd have driven my OH mad with my constant questions and ramblings

yes! my oh doesnt moan about me being on here till silly o clock, coz i think to him its a relief!!!

i know, i think i just need to stop being so shy, i mean i had my hsg, so it will just be pretty similar to that, and hey its nothing they havent seen before!!!!!

 

[Beckic]

hi hun
we had been treated by our fs beforehand to have tests etc and then were referred to a different hospital for ivf.
at our first ivf consultation we literally signed the forms for funding and treatment, got weighed, had a scan to check ovaries accessable and went home.
and one month later have started drugs.

we had to have been ttc for three years before we could get treatment cos we are unexplianed.

i think each pct is different though.

b x

wow thats fast!!! we have also been trying 3.5 years, and have been transferred to a different hospital.

are you private or nhs? we are nhs.

xx

I am NHS - i am really really blessed as I fall under went hertfordshire PCT and they started offering three free goes of IVF plus three free FET's from April this year - which conveniently was when I reached the three year TTC mark. They are really trying to push people through as quickly as possible as soon as they get referred for the IVF - its the referral that takes the time - but sound's like you have been referred hun - and are on the IVF road now.
I know you are scared about it sweetie - but I promise you knowing that I am doing something and working towards my goal is far far far better than the horrible waiting and hoping of TTC - i thank god every morning when have to give myself an injection cos its better than spending the day thinking am i arent i pregnant and then the disappointment of getting another AF and finding out that yet another friend got pregnant on the first try.
I have reached the point where i just want this journey to be over - and so IVF is a godsend for me - cos once i have had the three and they dont work then i pretty much know that nothing else is going to get me pregannt and I can move on with adoption.


Bx x

 

[kristy87]

wow, thats brilliant hun, im chuffed for you!!! so fast..... wow. im sure ill be fine, i think most people will prob go through the stage of thinking omg am i really ready for this etc.....

i guess its all became real now that we have been ttc for so long with nothing to show iykwim x