Advice please...

[louise85]

I text FOB earlier to tell him I had a midwife appt at 2 and if he wanted to know how I got on to text me as I would appreciate a bit of support now.......well guess what NOTHING!!! I know its still early but still!!!

I'm really losing my patience with him, I have my scan Dec 2nd I just wanna know where I stand and if he's coming to appts or not, its no good just being involved once the baby's born is it???!!

 

[tinkabells]

Just txt him and sya look, tell me whether you wanna come and no about my scans etc, just say all i need is one txt then i know whether to txt you when i have them etc

i did that with mine and he said he did and then said no, but i then heard he was aksing friends, its best to ask him everything outright, then nothing holding you back, hope i've helped xxx

 

[louise85]

I think thats gonna be the best option although I'm not expecting a straight answer!!

The main reason I wanna know if he's coming to scans is so I can ask someone else if not...don't wanna go on my own! The not knowing is driving me mad all I get out of him is I'll be involved with the baby!!

Ggrrrrrrr!!

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Mine was the same, i invited him to all the appointments and scans, when i asked him if he wanted to come to the scan he said no, and with the midwife appointments he just didnt bother to show up, so now i dont bother asking, as i know what will happen.

If i were you id just text him when your next scan/ appointment is, and say this is gunna be the last time your gunna bother to ask him, so if he wants to come he'd better let you no now, because he wont have the option again.

 

[louise85]

I can't believe how many men are like this!!

The main bit I don't understand with him is that he says hes gonna be involved with the baby!! So I'm not gonna see him 4 7months then hes just gonna swan back in??!!! lol They are a strange lot!!

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Yeah sounds like mine, he says he's gunna see her, but too me its all bull, if they cant be bothered now, i dont see how their gunna manage when the babies are here and its gunna be ten times harder.

Tell him if he wants to be a father he should be acting like one now and supporting you, otherwise why is he bothering? He cant just decide when to be a dad, he needs to act like one now.

 

[purpledahlia]

yep, i agree with lou!! sorry have a migrane will write more later x

 

[lou_w34]

Awww feel better soon!

 

[fantastica]

Not a single mum yet, although close! But my partner was similar, why aremen like that?

If he wants to be involved with the baby, then he has to start now, the baby's life has started. If he's going to carry on being like this, take someone else to the scan. Scans are such amazing things, and i'm sure there are lots of people who would be made up if you asked them.

Hope it works out for you xx

 

[KaeRit21]

just text him and say look, one way or another i need to know because this is the last time im going to bother even asking you.

they dont deserve us handing out chance after chance after chance...because they think that everytime they do it, there just gna get off with it.

if they cant be bothered being involved now, then they dont deserve to be involved at all.
as i said to fob, call me a haeartless bitch, but you refuse to pay for anything or even care where their next feed is coming from, never mind if theres carseat paid for to bring them safely home...but you expect to show up at my door, be let in and sit there holding a baby you've done nothing for as if your the father of the year...NO WAY.

i would give him the chance, the LAST chance. you deserve better than to be sitting around waiting on him...at least you'd know one way or another.

xxx

 

[louise85]

Thanx girls..
Still not heard nothing from him haven't even bothered texting him, at the end of the day he's got my number and he knows I'm carrying his baby so he can get in touch with me!!
I'm getting past caring now, I know he won't even bother texting me back unless HE feels like it so screw him, I'll get the last laugh in the end when he wants to see his baby and I hope he'll feel guilty and ashamed that he didn't make more effort as I'm sure they all will in the end!!
xx

 

[purpledahlia]

i took a friend to my 20week scan and she said she felt so honoured that i had asked her and she loved it, she is the one who bought me a cot, honestly take a friend or family member, someone who will appreciate it. scans are amazing, men are not. x