After a miscarriage question. Please give feedback.

[sassy_tiger]

I got a call from my doctor after asking to see my doctor sooner because I have been spotting for 3 days. Doctor calls back and says there is nothing you can do about it. I didn't want to do anything about it I just was tired of being stuck in limbo not knowing what was going on with my body. While she was busy explaining something I already knew. I was telling her I don't want to do anything about it I just want to know whats going on. If its a miscarriage I'll like to know so I can move on from it and go at it again. She mention that I should wait at least 3 months. I was still stuck on telling her I just want to know whats going on. So at the time I was concern about her telling me I should wait.

So here is my question....
If any of you have gone threw a miscairge did your doctor tell you to wait some time after a miscarriage before getting pregnant again?

I had miscarriage in 2011 and got pregnant again right after my miscarriage and had no problems with that pregnancy.

 

[minties]

I don't bother seeing doctors during/after miscarriage, but I'm currently pregnant after miscarriage and it's going great!

 

[MumToEva]

I've had 2 miscarriages. Wasn't told to wait after either. Got pregnant within 2 cycles of the first one (healthy 4 year old, though complicated pregnancy), and on next cycle after 2nd miscarriage (healthy 3 year old, no problems during pregnancy).

 

[sassy_tiger]

I've had 2 miscarriages. Wasn't told to wait after either. Got pregnant within 2 cycles of the first one (healthy 4 year old, though complicated pregnancy), and on next cycle after 2nd miscarriage (healthy 3 year old, no problems during pregnancy).

Thank you for sharing that.

 

[Rhiannon137]

Im sorry you find yourself in your current situation. I agree that uncertainty is the worst. My current pregnancy (29 weeks now) was conceived exactly two weeks after I started bleeding with a MC at 6 weeks. That MC went to completion w/o any medications or other intervention, and my doctor advised me to wait for one normal cycle before TTC again.

Well, DH and I drowned our sadness in tequila one night, didn't have any condoms in the house, and figured "oh yeah - I'm almost 40, just had a miscarriage, better be careful we don't get pregnant again right away...sure." It was a little challenging figuring out the dates early in the pregnancy (my doctor told me later that's the main reason he advised waiting), but things have gone well otherwise. I've been extra stressed being pregnant after the loss, but I think that would have been true no matter how long we waited.

 

[sassy_tiger]

Im sorry you find yourself in your current situation. I agree that uncertainty is the worst. My current pregnancy (29 weeks now) was conceived exactly two weeks after I started bleeding with a MC at 6 weeks. That MC went to completion w/o any medications or other intervention, and my doctor advised me to wait for one normal cycle before TTC again.

Well, DH and I drowned our sadness in tequila one night, didn't have any condoms in the house, and figured "oh yeah - I'm almost 40, just had a miscarriage, better be careful we don't get pregnant again right away...sure." It was a little challenging figuring out the dates early in the pregnancy (my doctor told me later that's the main reason he advised waiting), but things have gone well otherwise. I've been extra stressed being pregnant after the loss, but I think that would have been true no matter how long we waited.

Wow thank you for sharing that with me. That makes me feel a whole lot better. I'm sorry for your loss. The not knowing got to me more than the actual miscarriage. I feel like nature said. Hey this isn't going to work out (nature took too long for my liking. I also didn't have any procedures or anything). But uncertainty was just really getting to me.

Well my last pregnancy was after a miscarriage and they didn't do anything special for me. They went with my miscarriage date. I was doing opk's anyway so I was pretty sure when I got pregnant. They were thinking of inducing me because my last appointment I still didn't have our son and I was ready to have a battle with them. I don't want to be induced. And i was positive when I conceived. It turned out okay though. I had him a day or two after his due date.

Since I've already gone threw it once and from the advice that I've gotten I think its okay to keep trying right away. I'm thinking I'll ovulate really soon. This week. I'm sorry for your loss and I know what its like to worry that it will happen again. You've made it this far I'm sure you'll make it all the way. Again thank you.

 

[lesondemavie]

My ob told us to wait until AF arrived, but I'm pretty sure that was just for dating purposes. My cycles have been a bit wacko since then and we're still trying for our first little bundle of joy.

 

[sassy_tiger]

My ob told us to wait until AF arrived, but I'm pretty sure that was just for dating purposes. My cycles have been a bit wacko since then and we're still trying for our first little bundle of joy.

Thanks for the reply. I'm starting to think doctors say to wait because they don't know that some of us are actually trying not just winging it. I've been tracking my period for over a year and I have been tracking my ovulation since November to get a pretty good idea on my ovulation pattern.

Wishing you luck!

 

[mrs.green2015]

I had a mc at 8 weeks and was told to wait one cycle and to even use protection! I thought "oh no way. Well just ntnp" which we did. Joke was on me though, turns out I stopped ovulating on my own. Lol I guess that's wha I get for ignoring the doctor. Anyway, with my cp (5weeks) doc said no need to wait as it was so early. Good luck! I've heard so many stories about bfp after mc.

 

[mrs unicorn]

So sorry for your loss. I had an ERPC at 11 weeks and was told we could try as soon as the bleeding had stopped. There was very little, just spotting for a couple of days. We went with NTNP as I wasn't sure when I'd O. We are now on our second proper cycle TTC. Good luck xx

 

[lakotachris]

I think they always tell people to wait either for one period or 3 months, but from what I read and know of personal friends, countless women become pregnant immediately and have very healthy pregnancies and babies. As far as I can tell it seems like women are extremely fertile following a miscarriage!

 

[Destiny08]

I tried 3 years for the baby i miscarried (my second) I havent had my first period after the mc yet (going on 5 weeks since it happened) but we're back on the TTC train lol. I have heard women are often MORE fertile after a mc. and im not missing that opportunity. it took so long to get pregnant that if there's even a chance I'm more fertile, I'm not missing any part of that window lol.

i was told to wait until a week after the bleeding stopped (which I'm honest, i didnt totally do. I waited about 3 days after the spotting stopped) and they said they advise women to wait until at least the first period after (which is apparently between 4 and 6 weeks after) but purely for dating purposes.

There are some places that do tell you to wait 3 months to give the hormones time to rebalance, but that's not necessary. there's no scientific proof that waiting is necessary

good luck

 

[sassy_tiger]

I think they always tell people to wait either for one period or 3 months, but from what I read and know of personal friends, countless women become pregnant immediately and have very healthy pregnancies and babies. As far as I can tell it seems like women are extremely fertile following a miscarriage!

After some time I was thinking to myself are women extremely fertile after a miscarriage (I did get pregnant right after my first miscarriage in 2011). I've looked into it and allot positive feed back. Thanks for the reply.

 

[sassy_tiger]

I tried 3 years for the baby i miscarried (my second) I havent had my first period after the mc yet (going on 5 weeks since it happened) but we're back on the TTC train lol. I have heard women are often MORE fertile after a mc. and im not missing that opportunity. it took so long to get pregnant that if there's even a chance I'm more fertile, I'm not missing any part of that window lol.

i was told to wait until a week after the bleeding stopped (which I'm honest, i didnt totally do. I waited about 3 days after the spotting stopped) and they said they advise women to wait until at least the first period after (which is apparently between 4 and 6 weeks after) but purely for dating purposes.

There are some places that do tell you to wait 3 months to give the hormones time to rebalance, but that's not necessary. there's no scientific proof that waiting is necessary

good luck

Good luck to you too as well!

I'm not waiting either. My doctor wasn't even really listening to me. It was a one sided conversation. I'm thinking I'm gong to be researching on a new doctor.

Anyway tons of luck to you. I hope you get that

 

[Sophiejash]

I'm 30 weeks pregnant with a baby boy which we concieved first cycle after a miscarriage at 10 weeks. My doctor advised waiting until I'd had my first period, she said its nothing to do with dating as technology is so good now they can date easily but (if it's a natural miscarriage) any material that may be left inside would definately get flushed out during that first period. So more of a health benefit. Anyhow it clearly worked as we fell pregnant straight away after that. I definately do think that being more fertile after a mc is true. All the best hon and sorry for your recent loss.

 

[Starlight288]

I miscarried at 14 weeks and had a d&e. I was first told to wait 3 cycles and then 2. I think one will be all we'll wait. I'm 4.5 weeks out and am waiting for my period soon. I ovulated a week ago so we'll go from there. She basically said to make sure everything has healed. I'd think one cycle would be enough.

 

[glong88]

I wondered this too.

I've just had a miscarriage between 5-6 weeks gone , happened natural.

Advised to wait 1 cycle but don't want too

 

[lakotachris]

I've actually never known anyone told to wait three months but I do know they always suggest waiting till after the first period. I asked my two doctor friends about this both who deliver babies. They told me if it is a first trimester loss it's 100 percent for dating purposes and that getting pregnant immediately doesn't carry any greater risk of miscarriage or pregnancy complications nor does it hurt the mothers health. It's just easier to monitor a pregnancy if you have had a period because they can better date it.

I'm referencing first trimester miscarriages.

 

[jessmke]

I got pregnant the cycle immediately after a miscarriage and I now have a perfectly healthy 5 month old.

 

[Starlight288]

I really have read nothing that supports waiting these days. My m/c was not natural but I just got my first AF so in my eyes I feel like it would be okay. I think overall you decide what's best for you and your family.