Age appropriate disipline

[storm4mozza]

Hi guys.

I have a 6 year old (year 1 at school) just found out he was screaming at another child today and slapped the other child, which is obviously shocking behavior especially since he usually so timid and kind I don't know whats got into him, I plan to have a chat to him when he comes home but unsure on what punishment to give out, if grounding how long would you say is fair?

 

[DJJ]

How did the school handle it? Has he had a punishment/consequence there? If he's had a punishment at school I wouldn't punish him again.i would talk about it to make sure nothings bothering him and get the whole story and set out what behaviour you expect from him while he's at school.

 

[Natasha2605]

It all depends on if the school handled it. If it was dealt with in school then I'd just have a good chat about actions and feelings.

 

[storm4mozza]

Hey guys.
He is saying it was an accident they were playing and he didn't mean to hurt his friend, another friend apparently told him to do it and then went and told teacher he did it on purpose, the kids have a reward starts at yellow then either goes up (if they are good) or down (if they are naughty) he got moved down to red (which is second from bottom) and nothing else was done :/

 

[Wobbles]

You say he is quite timid - I would trust your instinct on what happened and TBH that scenario is common among children. Is he upset by this? I'd also talk to the school if I felt my child wasn't heard out and they were just being children.

 

[storm4mozza]

Thanks so much aswell Wobbles, I remember you when I was here last time when I was pregnant with my Daughter

I have spoken to him, he said that his friend (girl) told him to do it as a joke and then she went and told the teacher and got him in trouble (some friend in my opinion) the school have not approached me about it and he seems ok now so I will just keep an eye on him

Thanks again guys

 

[WackyMumof2]

Leave the punishment if school has dealt with it. But I'd have a gentle word with him and let him know that hurts others. Encourage him to make a sorry card for the other child. I've found this often allows them to think of how they have hurt someone else's feelings when they are passing it over.

 

[storm4mozza]

Leave the punishment if school has dealt with it. But I'd have a gentle word with him and let him know that hurts others. Encourage him to make a sorry card for the other child. I've found this often allows them to think of how they have hurt someone else's feelings when they are passing it over.

Thankyou so much this is an excellent idea

 

[WackyMumof2]

Thankyou so much this is an excellent idea

No worries. It can be a powerful learning tool too as it's setting them up for when it's their turn to venture out into the world.

 

[Vickie]

We had a similar issue with our son. Who isn't necessarily timid but he doesn't generally hit (although he will if he's been hit first!). Anyways on the bus a neighbors kid told him to hit him and then got off the bus and told his mom that Rhys hit him Rhys apologized but when we got him I asked him the full story and he said T made it a game "you hit me, I'll hit you". I explained to him that hitting games are not something we do/play and that we don't hit.