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[WhiteGeisha]

I've had some issues with my vagina since having my daughter almost 2 yrs ago.

My sex life was ruined (still is) partner cheated and left and told me it was like having sex with the euro tunnel.

I knew I had problems and saw dr. She was young and I don't think had much experience in women's gyny health.

I've stayed single after the humiliatin I suffered at the
Hands of my ex but that was over a year ago and don't want to spend the rest of my life like this.

Things have felt different lately which lead me to take a look. My cervix is at the opening of my vagina.

I've not seen my regular dr yet but have looked online. I can't see how pelvic floor exercises will help me as I had no luck with them
Before the prolapse but read I probably won't get anything more from my dr given my stage of prolapse.

Any one had this? I'm 26 and severely depressed over all this. Now to see my cervix hanging at my opening I am at breaking point. I can't live my life like this.

 

[Lottieloux]

Oh hun.

I didnt want to read & run
but *hugs*
I dont really have no advice, but you shouldent have to feel like this, please see youre doctor Xx

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Oh hun.

I didnt want to read & run
but *hugs*
I dont really have no advice, but you shouldent have to feel like this, please see youre doctor Xx

I will go Monday. I just wanted to hear similar stories/experiences as I'm not too hopeful with the info given online regarding treatment. Thanks for your message x

 

[laurajo24]

Big hugs hun.

I was diagnosed with a slight prolapse last week and I was devastated. It's something I associated with older women but similar to you, I am only 27!! I was suffering for months but was too embarrased to go to the GP. I'm so glad I did because she was really lovely.

She told me to try more plevic floor exercises but I've been doing these since before Harry was born so not really much chance they're gonna help now! If there is no iimprovement in a few months, I need to go back and discuss what can be done. She said talked about something you have inserted, like a ring, to hold things in place. As mine is slight, I won't likely need an operation if things stay as they are. She also found cysts on my cervix so the thought of any man going near me is vile!

I haven't been with anyone since my ex, 18 months ago, and can't imagine being with any else after this.

What your ex said was absolutely vile and I know how much this must've hurt you.

I think you should get to your GP hun. There are lots of ways they can help you. It might be that they can help with more than just pelvic floor exercises. I'm just sorry I put it off so long and suffered in silence.

xxx

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Big hugs hun.

I was diagnosed with a slight prolapse last week and I was devastated. It's something I associated with older women but similar to you, I am only 27!! I was suffering for months but was too embarrased to go to the GP. I'm so glad I did because she was really lovely.

She told me to try more plevic floor exercises but I've been doing these since before Harry was born so not really much chance they're gonna help now! If there is no iimprovement in a few months, I need to go back and discuss what can be done. She said talked about something you have inserted, like a ring, to hold things in place. As mine is slight, I won't likely need an operation if things stay as they are. She also found cysts on my cervix so the thought of any man going near me is vile!

I haven't been with anyone since my ex, 18 months ago, and can't imagine being with any else after this.

What your ex said was absolutely vile and I know how much this must've hurt you.

I think you should get to your GP hun. There are lots of ways they can help you. It might be that they can help with more than just pelvic floor exercises. I'm just sorry I put it off so long and suffered in silence.

xxx

Hi Hun

Thanks for taking time to respond.

I don't see how any one can be left with a prolapse! Slight or not. The thought for me is unbearable. I'm too squeamish to put up with inserting things like the rings inside me. It would be very stressful and make me feel ill. Anything like that. Plus I am prone to BV so think messing about inserting things down there would just cause me more problems.

I just know in my heart when I go I'll be told to do the exercises but I was doing them after I saw the young dr and bought the vaginal weighted cones but couldn't get on with them and since had the prolapse. I def didn't have it then so my problem has just got worse. I can't bear the thought of living like this knowing my cervix is right there at my opening. How can I ever get intimate with a guy after everything let alone knowing I know have a prolapse. It's making me feel so down and inferior. I look at all the girls I know who are still with their men after 2-3 kids. I couldn't keep my man after 1 because I'm so huge down there now let alone huge with my insides hanging out! What future have I got! Single, lonely, and having to live with this. It's not right.

What symptoms did u have to make u feel u needed a dr? My list is so long. It's so embarrassing. I knew I had issues down there when the sex started going down hill and I knew it was me but for ages my partner said it was fine til I caught him cheating and it all came out. Deep down I knew it all along but he kept saying it was fine so I just let it be not wanting to face reality.

Part of me thinks why go through the humiliation of telling and showing the dr just to be given another print out of exercises.

 

[laurajo24]

Oh hun, I really feel for you. I think your ex has done a good job of kicking you when you're down and beating the confidence out of you. What a complete knob! Did he know you were feeling self conscious about it or that it was worrying you? He may have said that just because he knew it would hurt you.

As for my symptoms, I've been having pain and pressure, leaking urine, feeling like I need to go for a wee all the time and just feeling likes omething wasn't right. I'd had a bit of a feel but I'm a bit squeamish about doing that and I haven't felt properly, even after being diagnosed. I don't know if mine is visible - I'm too scared to look!

I've been reading about the rings and they seem quite bad for introducing infections so I'd definitely say that was a no-no for you if you get BV. The can be painful and cause sores as well so it's not exactly an appealing treatment. I know you can have surgery if it's bad enough but I don't know how bad it has to get???

Maybe, if you visit your GP, you could expalin that you have been doing the exercises and things have still gotten worse and that you need to discuss other options because it is affecting you physically as well as mentally. You sound so down in your posts that I can tell it's severely affecting you so a Dr will surely see that too. My GP's are a bit hit and miss so I specifically asked for one I knew would be understanding and take me seriously. Maybe you could do the same? It may mean waiting a litle longer for an appointment but it may make all the difference.

xxx

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Oh hun, I really feel for you. I think your ex has done a good job of kicking you when you're down and beating the confidence out of you. What a complete knob! Did he know you were feeling self conscious about it or that it was worrying you? He may have said that just because he knew it would hurt you.

As for my symptoms, I've been having pain and pressure, leaking urine, feeling like I need to go for a wee all the time and just feeling likes omething wasn't right. I'd had a bit of a feel but I'm a bit squeamish about doing that and I haven't felt properly, even after being diagnosed. I don't know if mine is visible - I'm too scared to look!

I've been reading about the rings and they seem quite bad for introducing infections so I'd definitely say that was a no-no for you if you get BV. The can be painful and cause sores as well so it's not exactly an appealing treatment. I know you can have surgery if it's bad enough but I don't know how bad it has to get???

Maybe, if you visit your GP, you could expalin that you have been doing the exercises and things have still gotten worse and that you need to discuss other options because it is affecting you physically as well as mentally. You sound so down in your posts that I can tell it's severely affecting you so a Dr will surely see that too. My GP's are a bit hit and miss so I specifically asked for one I knew would be understanding and take me seriously. Maybe you could do the same? It may mean waiting a litle longer for an appointment but it may make all the difference.

xxx

I just felt things were getting worse when I could feel like I had a heavy ball inside me when going to the toilet so decided to see how bad it looked. There is a large looking bulky bulgy thing with a hole in it and I have never seen that there before so know its not normal. I googled it and along with the description and my symptoms know for sure I have a prolapse. I think it's serious as on some sites it says I have a stage 3 out of 4.

I have IBS too which can make it a lot worse quickly apparently.

When I have a bath I fill up with water. I can't go more than 1 hour without needing the toilet. At night I go 5+ times and when I need to go there's no waiting. It's there and then. Split second sort of urgency. I've started to ache a lot in my groin area too and my bladder always feels full like I need a wee.

Part of mr just really wants a diagnosis and solution but part of me really wants to bury my head in the sand.

My ex was very apologetic after what he said and did say sorry. But he said he was sorry for how he put it to me not sorry he told me because it was the truth!!! I think the dr just thought he was immature and trying to make me have a complex when really I did have an issue...which has now got worse.

I really struggle to find anyone to watch my daughter so will have to take her. God knows who will watch her if I need any sort of op. it's not a quick recovery with a few days stay in hospital. X

 

[laurajo24]

Everything you've described is the same as me, except yours sounds much worse. You really need to get to the GP and get the ball rolling on getting you referred or something. You can't live like this. I know if mine got any worse, I would struggle to cope with my LO on my own. The fact that you can see your cervix from the outside makes me think you could be eligible for surgery or at the very least, a referral to gynaecology or something.

When the GP examined me, it took just a minute for her to diagnose. I didn't have LO with me but I'm sure he would've been fine with some sweets or something while it was happening.

I totally understand about burying your head in the sand. I did it for months. But I'm so glad I know I'm not imagining it now and that I can hopefully stop it getting any worse.

Let us know how you get on hun. xxxx

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Everything you've described is the same as me, except yours sounds much worse. You really need to get to the GP and get the ball rolling on getting you referred or something. You can't live like this. I know if mine got any worse, I would struggle to cope with my LO on my own. The fact that you can see your cervix from the outside makes me think you could be eligible for surgery or at the very least, a referral to gynaecology or something.

When the GP examined me, it took just a minute for her to diagnose. I didn't have LO with me but I'm sure he would've been fine with some sweets or something while it was happening.

I totally understand about burying your head in the sand. I did it for months. But I'm so glad I know I'm not imagining it now and that I can hopefully stop it getting any worse.

Let us know how you get on hun. xxxx

I will try and get in with my normal dr on Monday and see what she says. Even though she didn't see me initially when I went to see her not long after with an infected nose lining she asked me about down there which surprised me that she'd bothered to look at my notes first. I said I'd bought the cones and giving them a go and she seemed ok with that. I stopped using them after a few weeks as I couldn't get on with them. I think she specialises in women's health anyway so hopefully she will be able to tell me what she thinks. She was really good with my moles and getting me seen to have op to remove. I hardly waited a week or 2. Then had the op the week after. I'm laying in bed now and can feel all things down there pressure wise. Very uncomfortable. Will let you know once I've been seen x

 

[Mummy2B21]

Oh hun im so sorry your ex treated you like that i have no advice but seeing the doc is the best place to start ihope it gets better for you having this at the age of 24/26 must be devasting but it can be fixed before it gets evan worse xxx