am i being mardy??

[Mummytoobeexx]

Im nearly 7 month pregnant n feel like crap not sleeping proper either and sooo dizzy Thing is my sister and her partner keep asking me to watch my nephew he's 14 month, its fine but i get to sit in house all night on my own while they get to go out enjoy their selfs my nephew wakes so i go to check on him he see's me and then dont stop crying till i have to get him up he likes his mum n dad there i think but they come in early hrs and then i get the blame for him crying/being awake, i cant go home after cos im living with parents at the min so i have to stay on their sofa. im not sure if im being mardy/ hormones etc but ive had him 3 days this week already. and now i feel bad am i being mardy??

 

[vampybear]

at 7 months pregnant you should not be sleeping on ur mums sofa, why hasnt she let u sleep in her bed!?!!!
can u not go somewhere with a bed or at least get a blow up bed/fold up bed to use whilst ur there? thats half the reason youre feeling so tired and unwell i imagine.

You also need to tell ur sister that you feel really bad so you can no longer babysit. Surely she has friends who can help and they do not need to be going out 3 times a wk, they need to be with their son keeping his routine! most parents are lucky if they get one night out a month, so i think they need to open their eyes and realise they are parents who have responsibilities!

If you cant tell them, just show them my response lol

 

[Mummytoobeexx]

Thanks, i just feel bad saying no, maybe im a pushover Its my sisters sofa i have to sleep on when i baby sit because no other bed to sleep in.

 

[vampybear]

u need to put ur own baby first right now, so no more sofa sleeping and stop the babysitting! its not mean to put ur own health and child first over her having a night out, so if she has a problem then you need to rethink how much support u offer her in the future.

Just turn it around- would you expect her to babysit for you when she is 7 months pregnant and not feeling brilliant?

 

[MaybBaby]

at 7 months pregnant you should not be sleeping on ur mums sofa, why hasnt she let u sleep in her bed!?!!!
can u not go somewhere with a bed or at least get a blow up bed/fold up bed to use whilst ur there? thats half the reason youre feeling so tired and unwell i imagine.

You also need to tell ur sister that you feel really bad so you can no longer babysit. Surely she has friends who can help and they do not need to be going out 3 times a wk, they need to be with their son keeping his routine! most parents are lucky if they get one night out a month, so i think they need to open their eyes and realise they are parents who have responsibilities!

If you cant tell them, just show them my response lol

totally agree with this poster hun, you need proper bed rest and they shouldn't expect you to be able to look after their child whilst heavilly pregnant,its just unfair xxxx

 

[Sonyalouise]

I agree with vampybear.

At 7 months sleep is so important and rest not to be stressed out and up all nite till early hours looking after screaming child

Hun you got to look after you and your baby I know it's hard to say no but sounds like your sister and partner need to act like parents (I can't remember last time I had a night out). When you have a child you put your like on hold not ask someone to step in 3 times a week, maybe once a month

It isn't fair them using u let alone using u cause they know u wont say no and worst of all with you being pregnant too

 

[disney doll]

Blimey!! think your sister needs to stop being so selfish and pay for a babysitter and not expect you to do it at 7 months and sleep on her sofa!!! This has made me cross!!

 

[the why bird]

You're not being mardy. If they needed you to babysit and spend a night on the sofa in an emergency, that's one thing. But asking any relative, never mind one that's seven months pregnant to babysit until the early hours 3 times a week is taking you for granted. No wonder the little one won't settle, he is probably confused because his routine is all over the place.

If you feel guilty, say your midwife has given you strict instructions to rest. She tells you that you need a proper supportive bed to stop hip/back pain and that you absolutely must be tucked up in bed at 10pm every night, for baby's sake. That way it's not you saying no, so you don't need to worry about upsetting her.

Edited to add: if it's your fault the baby is awake and crying when they get home (according to them) then surely they need to find a new babysitter!

 

[Wallflower]

I also agree, you definitely need to be taking things easy and getting a proper nights sleep. Dizziness can be blood pressure related - you need to put your feet up xx