Another chemical? please help

[spiritbear]

Hi everyone,

I'm having what seems to be my 3rd chemical. My period was 6 days late (the problem is I was out of town trying not to stress about it so I didn't test until my period was 4 days late and the test was negative)

then I started spotting and having cramps only when I'd pass huge clots. The clots had grew tissue, which was very strange to see.

I still haven't started a normal period, just the intermittent painful clots.

My doctos suspects another chemical pregnancy but does not have any advice on what to do about it. I do not want this to keep happening.

My question is, what was your doctor done in these situations? They do not want me to take baby asprine, progesterone (days I don't need it) and they do not to immune testing.

any help would be much appreciated. thank you

 

[spiritbear]

should say *gray clots

 

[Dill]

I'm so sorry, spiritbear. Most doctors do not count chemicals as miscarriages, so they don't count towards the "problematic" tally they keep before they start taking measures. They are considered very common; most women just aren't aware of them and think they're simply late or heavy periods.

I would personally get a second opinion from a different doctor. At the very least, another doc might have something helpful to suggest in terms of getting you through this one.

 

[spiritbear]

Thank you, I really appreciate your input

Yes, that makes sense. It seems to me like something would be wrong and I don't want it to keep happening. I should seek out another doctor's opinion.

thanks again- what a difficult journey this can be.

 

[Dill]

I understand completely! Some of us just weren't destined to be the "first try" ladies. It'll happen, though. Just hang in there. Fingers crossed that your second opinion visit goes well.

 

[spiritbear]

I understand completely! Some of us just weren't destined to be the "first try" ladies. It'll happen, though. Just hang in there. Fingers crossed that your second opinion visit goes well.

You're right. thank you. How do you keep going? I felt like I was moving through this pretty well until recently and now I feel like I'm on the verge of completely falling apart. (and I haven't even been through what you and many other ladies have been through)

 

[Dill]

I definitely have my breakdown times. Sometimes I'm completely blindsided at the worst moments -- on the long drive home seems to be a common one for me. I just try to remind myself that what is meant to happen will happen when it is meant to, and I keep my eye on the prize. Every day is another day closer towards fulfilling the dream.