Anxiety after miscarriage

[Las78]

I just wondered if anyone else became really anxious after their m/c?

I m/c just over a week ago at 17w+5, I gave birth at home and was then rushed into A&E, placenta wouldn't budge naturally so ended up having a D&C. This last week I feel like I've been on a rollercoaster of emotions. The hospital and support from my OH and sister have been amazing so I haven't had to go through this alone.

I do feel now that I have to be strong for my 2 other LO's and my OH but inside I feel lost and empty.

I have to go back to work tommorrow and I'm dreading it, I just want it to be over and done with and hope no-one says anything to me about it, I'm still not ready to talk about it.

The past couple of days I've been getting a pain in my right shoulder and neck, like I've slept funny but a deeper ache. I've also had chest pains on and off and rapid heartbeat, I am putting it down to anxiety but at the same time I really don't trust my body anymore, feel as if I don't know what to expect from it anymore and am scaring myself thinking am I ignoring a sign that there really is something wrong.

Just wondered if anyone else had similar feelings, just need a bit of reassurance right now.

Thanks

Lisa

 

[Omi]

Im sure feelings of anxiety are perfectly normal. Also, you had a rather traumatic go of it as well so naturally you would feel abit out of it not just mentally but physically as well.

Maybe you;re being too hard on yourself? Maybe what you need is to have a good chat with oh once the kids are in bed..sharing and unburdening are equally important parts of the greiving process and are not to be minimised. It might be good for the both of you?

If you're really worried something is wrong a little trip to the doc for reassurance is never a bad move.

Give yourself time, hun..2 weeks is not long at all. And from personal experience, I was very positive and up the first 2 weeks after my d&c's..and then one moment id be quite emotional and feeling quite crap about it all- it hits you at different times and can be quite overwhelming. You've gone through a seesaw of emotions and hormonal ups and downs...its natural to feel anything and eveything you are feeling...you've had a blow to your body, your mind and your heart..they're all gonna need some time to re-adjust..

Take good care Lisa, and dont be a trouper all on your own, ok..here's a hug from me in the meantime

All the best, , Omi xxx

 

[UKMummy]

Sounds to me like anxiety or mild panic attack, both of which are very common after a major traumatic experience.

Have you been offered or are you having counselling? May well be worth it as you really have been through it.

Take care.

 

[bklove]

Anxiety is common and I think to different degree's for each person. I felt more anxious after getting pregnant again, but that has improved which took a conscious effort to be well. All I can say is take your time and take care of yourself, even if that means getting your symptoms checked out. and i'm sorry for your loss.

 

[RobenR]

Anxiety is very common. I was 18w 3d when I lost my baby and going back to work 5 days later was very difficult. My focus was split and I was apparently "in the clouds." What you're feeling is very normal.

I'm so sorry for your loss.