Any advice to stop the anxiety!

[Babygray2]

Hi there. I am currently around 5 weeks pregnant. I will know for sure early next month. I can't seem to stop worrying about having another MC. As I have had 3 MC and 1 ectopic pregnancies in the past. I have only had 1 full term pregnancy. I was worried about it being an ectopic but was relieved when I had my second U/S they saw the gestational sac in the uturus! So that's a very very good sign! But I can't seem to stop worryin and being anxious over having another MC. I'm so happy for this pregnancy. Any advice on how to calm my nerves? I have been trying to think positive and hope for the best. But it's been hard especially being so early on. It just doesn't seem real and I don't want to get to excited in case something bad happens. Any advice would help and be very mug appreciated!!! Thanks in advance
XOXO

 

[momy2angel]

I don't have any advice, I just wanted to say hello, wish you luck and let you know that I'm praying for our babies! I totally understand how you feel. I'm 5wks 5 days pregnant. I jump back and forth between "This pregnancy is going to go well, I know it!" to "oh no, another mc." One minute I'm optimistic, the next I am not and I'm absolutely terrified of going to my first ultrasound (this Friday). I know a lot women on here feel the same way. I have heard from others to take it one day at a time, one week at a time, which is what I'm trying to do. Many say we will feel better about the pregnancy after the first tri. I have been feeling mostly optimistic until now that I'm approaching an ultrasound date. We gotta hang in there! Hopefully this is it for both of us!

 

[Babygray2]

Thank you for sharing your feelings. I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling like this. I just hope it all works out! I'm sure everything will be just fine for the both of us! Thanks again!

 

[ncmommy]

It is so hard not to worry! It seems a lot of women who have never experienced a loss are very worried too. Really all you can do is take it day by day. I don't think DH and I even really talked about our future baby til after our 12 week scan. I had to learn to let go of the control I thought I had and just go with whatever happens is going to happen no matter what I do. I hope this is your sticky bean!

 

[Kestersed]

Im so sorry for your loss... It's heart breaking, I actually got diagnosed with an anxiety issue after my m/c. It plays on your mind so so much, Im frightened what the anxiety and stress will do to this new pregnancy so I've really hard to retrain my brain to process information differently... But what helped me, and what might hopefully help you is a story a friend told me. His mother sadly miscarried just before he was conceived, but if that hadn't of happened my amazing friend who is the kindest soul I know wouldn't be here now. And he wouldn't of gone on to have a beautiful daughter..
Im sad I lost my little bean and he or she didn't make it. I don't ever want to forget them and I won't ever, and now I'm nearly 5 weeks preggers with this new little bean shortly after what happened before.
I trust that nature knows what she's doing. That there's a grand design and when I get to hold the final result of all this anxiety and upset I wouldn't regret a day in the making of it all.

 

[mummyjayne]

oh luv im so sorry for your heart break
your not alone in that sweets, i m/c 5 months ago, and now im only 5 weeks i have no symptoms so that worries me alot!
its not nice that you are worrying but it is nice to have someone to worry with
when a beautiful wee soul is taken its because it just wasnt ready.... try and be calm and happy and celebrate your honey. Because all that tring has resulted in that beautiful double line we were soooo desperate to see for so long u can always pee on a stick daily for reasurrance if u need lol. take it day by day. xx

 

[Babygray2]

Thank you all for your support. I have been trying to just take it day by day.thanks again everyone. I have another ultrasound coming up this Thursday. I hope all goes well.

 

[ncmommy]

Thank you all for your support. I have been trying to just take it day by day.thanks again everyone. I have another ultrasound coming up this Thursday. I hope all goes well.

Will be thinking of you on Thursday! Let us know how it goes.

 

[vegazbaby]

It is so hard not to worry! It seems a lot of women who have never experienced a loss are very worried too. Really all you can do is take it day by day. I don't think DH and I even really talked about our future baby til after our 12 week scan. I had to learn to let go of the control I thought I had and just go with whatever happens is going to happen no matter what I do. I hope this is your sticky bean!

thank you, i found this comment really helpful, i lost my first at 6 weeks, and really did spring back well and my dh and i coped very well. it was hard getting past that crucial milestone, then looked forward to my scan i booked for 8 weeks which showed a blob, my beautiful blob heart beating away, that was 2 weeks ago and knowing i have 2 whole weeks to see if all is ok seems so very hard. my symptoms arent as strong as they were, and im so scared. but like you say there is nothing i can do, im going to try not to think about it too much keep myself busy.

 

[ncmommy]

It is so hard not to worry! It seems a lot of women who have never experienced a loss are very worried too. Really all you can do is take it day by day. I don't think DH and I even really talked about our future baby til after our 12 week scan. I had to learn to let go of the control I thought I had and just go with whatever happens is going to happen no matter what I do. I hope this is your sticky bean!

thank you, i found this comment really helpful, i lost my first at 6 weeks, and really did spring back well and my dh and i coped very well. it was hard getting past that crucial milestone, then looked forward to my scan i booked for 8 weeks which showed a blob, my beautiful blob heart beating away, that was 2 weeks ago and knowing i have 2 whole weeks to see if all is ok seems so very hard. my symptoms arent as strong as they were, and im so scared. but like you say there is nothing i can do, im going to try not to think about it too much keep myself busy.

I'm so sorry for your previous loss. I really hope this is your sticky bean! It took me multiple losses before one day I just let it all go. I've been so much at peace with this pregnancy.