any body else

[m nonie]

Ok is it just me that find themselves having to explain their decision to have a elective c- section, I'm finding myself trying to justify it as a lot of folk really are judgmental about it. I never want to go through anything like I had with DS, no control, no family support as the midwives kept telling me I wasn't in labour they sent DH home, I had to Watch as DS heart rate dropped, I phoned DH from the labour suite while the consultant was there saying about what they had to do, there was so many more issues but eventually it was a emergency section which has left me with no memory of the first three days (although only DH knows that bit). On top of that I have a heart condition that seems to be passed on to the girls in our family.
I'm so fed up of trying to get people to understand I know it shouldn't bother me but I've had comments from so many folk, I know for me and bump a C-sec is our best option I just want people to understand its not taking a easy option but trying to protect bump.

sorry kinda turned into a rant

 

[whigfield]

Surely what you've explained is reason enough - it's your choice at the end of the day! If they don't like it, too bad. They don't have to have your baby and go through it all. And a c-section, as you know, certainly isn't a walk in the park! I was in agony for weeks after mine and had a rough recovery. I couldn't go home the same day or look after my LO without help. A caesarian is not an easy option in my opinion.

I don't know why so many people get so involved in how people give birth. Some people seem to take it as a personal offence that you're not going to push a baby out of your vagina. What's the beef? It's not their body OR their baby! And all that matters at the end of the day is a healthy, living baby and mummy!

 

[pink_phoenix]

I'd have to have a c section if I was ever to be pregnant again. My body won't go thru labour, 3 days in what MW kept saying was early labour, wasn't untill my body started to try and push baby out at only 3 cms dilated they realised there was an issue, 2 days after my waters broke I might add, I had 3days of back and fourth from the hospital, horrific pain and arguing with every medical profesional I saw!
Wasn't until a registrar I'd seen 3 times put her foot down and demanded there and then I had an emergency c section that everyone seemed to listen. And I'm afraid my experience of a c section wasn't much better
If at any point you have needed to go for an 'emergency c section' I don't understand y u would be expected to take a risk with any following pregnancies. I was adamant I wasn't having a c section but me and baby would have died in child birth If not and is certainly not a risk I'd take again.
No one and I mean no one not even docs and MW'S can tell you what's best for u and bump. When shit hits the fan u know what's best. It's just instinct.
And as for justifying to other people..........fuck em! They haven't been thru what u have, u should never have to feel like ur wrong and need to explain. My response would be have u been thru child birth?? Was it like my experience?? We're u and ur baby at risk??? No?? Jog on then.
Hope everything goes well for you this time round and little one arrives with no fuss

 

[m nonie]

Thank you guys, I'm glad its not just me that gets annoyed. I can't imagine how you must have felt, 3 days..... it was bad enough arguing that my waters had broken before I left the house because the pads weren't soaked. They only examined me me because they were planing on discharging me . I just wish folk would stop trying to tell me what would be best, to me the only folk who get a say in it is Me, DH(hes 100% behind me) and a very good consultant everyone else can go do one.
Thank you guys

 

[Christie2011]

I had a c-section, but I don't get any beef from any one. Though, I haven't felt the need to share with many people. When asked directly about my DS birth I don't mind telling them I had a c-section. I don't see any issues with a c-section. As long as my baby is healthy and so am I, then that's all that matters.

Mine wasn't an emergency, but by the suggestion of the MW and Doctor, who saw I was stuck at 6cm. I wasn't progressing and my DS heart rate was already having a hard time coming back from my contractions. They were extra long, strong and nearly overlapping at times. They were afraid if my contractions started getting really consistent he wouldn't have time to recover and we'd end up in an emergency situation. My water had not broke yet, so we made the decision to go ahead with a c-section before it became an emergency. I felt better with a non rushed surgery situation than one where the doctors felt they were competing with the clock.

Besides, I hadn't slept in a week (contractions every half hour at night) so I was sooooo ready for DS to be here already

My adopted son was born via c-section as well. He got stuck in the birth canal for too long during an induction due to his birth mother's pre-e. C-sections are not taken lightly (in most cases) and people not involved in the decision to have a c-section need to not have an opinion. IMO anyway.

We are the parents and we know what's best for our LOs.

 

[coz]

OMG It drove me mad, i felt like all the time people would ask ohh why are you having a planned section? why cant you just try a natural birth? natural would be better... blah blah blah. I felt like i was trying to justify myself to everyone. I had my second section 4 weeks ago and i dont regret it at all Just try to think you shouldnt have to justify your reasons, you do what you feel is right x

 

[Bug222]

Yup! So tired of having to justify it! I had a booked section with DS1 due to a spinal malformation i have that causes my pelvis to twist as baby grows. Multiple drs felt it was far too risky to both myself and baby to try a vaginal birth... So i dont know why random people think they know better. I am having a other section this time and am already getting the judgemental comments.