Any moms Preg w#2 and scared that..

[Jcliff]

They won't love new baby as much as first?? This baby was not planned but we are taking it as a blessing. I'm so in love with my daughter I can't imagine loving something just as much!! Also I feel like I haven't connected with this baby yet. Im so busy with #1 i keep forgetting I'm pregnant!

 

[mommy2be1003]

You took the words right out of my mouth. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around loving another child I love as much as my daughter who is my sunshine and best friend. I don't feel as attarched to this pregnancy as when I was when I was pregnant with her. I am hoping that this baby is a boy because it will be something different and a different kind of love to have a son.

 

[Bakebino]

I literally said this same thing to my hubby the other day. My daughter is the coolest person I know...best thing that I have ever done and I love her more than I ever thought was possible. So now I wonder how I can love my second kid as much?! I have no doubt I will...but I do wonder that quite often Glad I am not alone!

 

[hotslinthesun]

I worry about this too, all the time. And sometimes I feel guilty because this new baby will take away some of my time from my daughter. But everyone assures me that it does happen, and that you will love the new baby just as much. I don't know how, but apparently it works that way!

 

[Bmama]

I literally just posted in my journal about this same topic! I felt way more attached/bonded with my ds at this point in pregnancy than I do now. But I think that stems from my mind now being focused on my ds 24/7 (he crawls everywhere and is into everything) that I don't have time to focus on being pregnant! I think once I start to feel kicks the bonding is going to kick into high gear

 

[Jess19]

I know the feeling too, I was just talking to my husband the other day about this. The mix of emotions that I feel is so overwhelming at times. I also feel like I havent bonded with this baby as I did when I was pregnant with DD. I want to savor every minute of this pregnacy because this is my last pregnancy but I have found it dofficult to do that.
Im hoping that once we have our 20 week scan and find out the gender that DH and I can decide on a name and it will be easy to bond with LO better.
I get worried that DD will not fully understand and become angry or jealous with LO as she is still so young She is such a mammas girl

 

[Spiffynoodles]

As a mommy of two, I can say that you will absolutely love your second baby just as much! The room in your heart doesn't get divided; your heart just grows bigger to accommodate more love.

 

[Jess19]

Thanks Spiffy beautifully said!

I have 2 already, Its just SO different because there wont be a 7 year age gap between children this time.
Something about taking care of 2 little ones scares the carp out of me lol

 

[wanna_baby]

I feel exactly the same way. I feel guilty about it that I am not being fair to this baby.

 

[YoshiPikachu]

I feel like that sometimes.

 

[tamina800]

Both my husband and I are only kids. So we haven't seen a mom love more than one kid from close quarters. The whole sibling thing is new to us. So yep I worry about this all the time.
I don't feel I have bonded with the baby yet but I attribute it more to the fact that this is a pregnancy after a miscarriage and I'm very paranoid. But there is a bit of guilt that my son will not get 100% of my attention.
On the other hand, I am so thrilled about my son getting a sibling. Then i feel guilty that so far I've been thinking of this baby more as a sibling to my son than my child. Lol. So you see- there are lots of conflicting emotions

 

[dlj2]

Oh phew it's not just me then! It's leaving me quite anxious at times!x

 

[Citycroft]

I think it's a totally natural reaction; I know I've worried about it a bit. But I know that as soon as this baby is here I will never think about it again!

 

[Hoping4Four]

Don't worry ladies, you will love your new little one just as much as your first child! You fall in love all over again when you see him/her for the first time and your heart only gets bigger the more kids you have.

And don't feel guilty for giving less attention to your older child, most kids love having a younger sibling to play with/look after. You can involve your firstborn in a lot of things anyway; they can "help" with nappy changes and bottle-feeding, or even just talking to baby and keeping them happy for a few minutes. Babies love other children

 

[Jcliff]

Thanks all!

 

[mmMlm]

Yes you will I was worried about this too when I was expecting #2. But your love only grows. You will love them for the person that they are (you don't realize how different two kids can be until you have the second )
I almost felt like I was cheating on #1 when loving #2, as she was so jealous... but we all got used to it and I love them both more than anything, and they love each other so much too even though they fight like crazy.

 

[Spacey]

I worry about this also. I honestly haven't been as interested in this pregnancy as I was with my DD. She was our first after 4 years of thinking we couldn't ever have kids. I am extremely grateful for her. I feel guilty about not giving this pregnancy as much attention... but I'm sure once LO is here, everything will be different! I'm trying my hardest to feel excited. Maybe once we find out gender/pick a name, I'll be able to really get into it.

 

[Claire788]

Exactly the same here too!

 

[NotNic]

I worried before trying but I know having number 2 is the best thing for our family even if we won't be the three amigos anymore. My son is such a dude - so cheeky, funny and clever. I do worry that I'll compare this one to him which isn't fair. I struck gold with my son!

I also commented to another second timer that I don't feel I've bonded this time but it feels like a common thing. You're so busy and its not such a new experience that you end up googling all the time.

 

[shinona]

It is true that your heart just grows bigger and there is all this extra love. You will also fall in love with your first child even more when you see them with the new baby for the first time; they suddenly look so grown up and you realise how much they've grown. The love between my two is the most beautiful thing in the world to me xx