I dont think anyone here has judged you

it sounds like you may be dealing with your own judgement and guilt...The ppl that have shared their experience with you were being honest. They wern't trying to guilt trip you or terrify you- they are just being honest about their experience. If you want to read some positive inductions, there are a slew on BNB about that.

The ladies that share their story or their view are not trying to belittle you in any way. They just have a heart bc of what they went through or learned and just want you to have a great experience, is all. and they dont want you to go through anything traumatizing, so they share. It's not to invalidate you or make you feel bad
at any rate, most US docs (and i know specifically in PA as i used to live therE) will induce early if you ask. Though i know recently the ACOG came out with new statement saying, without medical issues, that OBs are highly encouraged to decline induction until at least 39 weeks (40 would be better). So i dont know if perhaps some have changed their philosophy bc of this new stance or not, but at any rate, really all you can do is ask and see how it goes. They will let you know if they agree to such or not. As a whole, i find PA OBs to be pretty lax about it..some actually encourage it. Although they will have to do an exam (when you are closer) to see if you are even a canidate for an induction. Your cervix has to meet certain markers and such before they will agree, but generally speaking it seems that most ppl i know from the area have been induced, many at the moms request, but it will come down to what your doctors own personal beliefs are about such a thing.
I wish you the best of luck no matter how it goes. As long as you are making a truly informed decision (which is sounds like you are), then thats whats right for you
