Anyone having problems with their nanny/nurse?

[PinkLady17]

Hey girls...

Dont want this to sound like a rant lol... but are any of you having problems with their nannies or nurses?

This is incredible... I don't even open my mouth to the woman and have always been kind, generous, respectful and fair with her.

anyway, two weeks from now she's been acting really strange.. like if I ask her to please do something she will backtalk or question my decision (about my child). Anyway last week I caught her telling my kid: "Your mommy doesn't pay attention to you and you should tell her to stop buying you sh*tty gifts"
anyway, i called her the attention and told her: "Excuse me, I will ask you the favor to please stop telling lies to my child and stop teaching ugly things"
she proceeded to backtalk at me.. and I told her: "My child's education is not a topic of discussion, thank you"

then today, I had my dinner ready in MY personal plate in the fridge to later warm it up...anyway, i felt like taking a bite and went and picked on it lmfao.... the woman came up to me and started to tell me: "you are nasty, you are gross for doing that" .... I told her: pardon me? it's my plate, not yours. its not like you're gonna eat from it" then she insulted me again, and I told her: "Im sorry, this is my house; you don't come up to me and tell me what i can and cannot do, even less disrespect me and I wish to know the reason of your attitude these past phew days because Im not liking it considering that I respect you and treat you nicely".... and she was like: "I quit and im leaving you with your nastyness"........ wtf?????

anyway I found a replacement,... but even though they are a huge help for us single parents, they can always teach the wrongs things to our kids when we are not watching.
Often parents think kids learn bad words at school because they hear other kids saying those things... but sometimes the nannies are the ones who teach bad things to our kids (note: i have seen nannies insult people on the street while walking with the kids)....
just something to analyze a little and how do you control it?

 

[Dream.dream]

Yike that's scary. My son goes to daycare . I don't have issues as there is 2 caretakers at least in every room, they only hire staff who had education for early childhood , and the day care has cameras where I can log on at anytime and watch my son and the worker ( so even if I'm not watching I know another parent must be)

I would have fired her after the first incident it was completly out of line .

For next time is it possible to get an interview and references ?

 

[Seren0613]

Ridiculous! You're more patient than I would have been. I'd report her to her agency, if she's from one. If not, then if she's dumb enough to list you as a past employer, I'd be truthful to future employers about her. Hope your new nanny is tons better!

 

[PinkLady17]

Yike that's scary. My son goes to daycare . I don't have issues as there is 2 caretakers at least in every room, they only hire staff who had education for early childhood , and the day care has cameras where I can log on at anytime and watch my son and the worker ( so even if I'm not watching I know another parent must be)

I would have fired her after the first incident it was completly out of line .

For next time is it possible to get an interview and references ?

I Have camera in my child's room too and all over the house as well..I've had her for seven months and never gave me problems until these last two weeks...
She has references, 10 years of experience and she has worked with people I know.


I heard her talking to new boss last night...phew days ago I heard her say she got offered a job (maybe they offered her more money?), either way she told me she didn't accept the job (lying maybe?)..... so i think she was doing all of this on purpose so I would fire her and pay her extra; but I didn't (cuz my inner gut told me: "not yet" lol)...so she had to quit because apparently she's starting her new job today.... so i dont get to pay her extra. (she didn't get to say other nasty things to my child cuz I didnt leave her sight these days)

 

[PinkLady17]

Ridiculous! You're more patient than I would have been. I'd report her to her agency, if she's from one. If not, then if she's dumb enough to list you as a past employer, I'd be truthful to future employers about her. Hope your new nanny is tons better!

lol i know, I've been really patient with her... (and patience is not one of my qualities, I'm the type that if someone disrespects me they're fired right away). But I knew she was having lots of personal problems, and im humble as well..... ... when she quit, I also told her: "look, I know you have your personal problems, but I dont think it's appropriate that you take it out in your work place, meaning me and my child"... You know trying to be mature about it....anyway, she proceeded to backtalk and continue with her insults and fits like a 10 year old, so i grabbed my child and just turned around and left her by herself...

totally, If someone calls me in the future I will say the truth... this attitude is unacceptable.