Aidan's Mummy
Mummy to Aidan and Oliver
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I am SO angry right now it is unbelievable, as some of your know my OH isn't allowed to live with me or have unsupervised contact with Aidan due to him assaulting me. This happened in early september and since then he has come on leaps and bounds with regards to admitting he has a problem, going on a domestic violence course, anger management, counselling. My SW arranged a meeting for the 8th March, she arranged this around 4 weeks ago and we are now days away. Brandon went to his meeting with strength to change (domestic violence worker) and they are currently assesing his risk level which is at the moment low. The meeting on Thursday was arranged so my SW and the domestic violence worker could discuss his assesment and look at bringing him home in time for Olivers birth. My health visitor, Aidan's nursery worker, my domestic violence worker, my midwife and someone from the childrens centre is also meant to attend. Today when Brandon went he mentioned the meeting to his worker and she knew nothing about it and as a result she can not attend as it's too short notice I had a MW appointment today and again I mentioned it and she said she couldn;t attend as it was too short notice. I rang my domestic violence worker and she said that she can't attend as she knew nothing and it was too short notice. So at this point I am in tears because the WHOLE point of the meeting was to discuss Brandons risk and put a plan in place etc. So I rang my SW and she said it was MY responsibility to tell people about the meeting and invite them as it's my choice who is there. I was astounded and ended the phone call sobbing. I wasn't convinced and rang my HV (she knows about the meeting because I told her at her last visit) and she said that it is the SW's job to invite professionals not mine, I can choose who I wnat there to support me but professionals should be invited formally by the SW in good time so people can arrange it in their diarys. So now on thursday there will be me, Brandon, Aidan's nursery worker, my mum and dad and my HV the rest can't make it. The main professional that needed to be there can't make it either, so what the hell is this meeting going to achieve? I am so down right now because nothing seems to be getting solved and I really don't know how much more I can take. It's like I'm being punished for reporting domestic violence and the support/organisation is just so frustrating x