at what point is it considered ” long term”?

[Helena_]

I've been ttc to conceive for almost two years (half ntnp). I never knew if I belong in here and I always felt weird posting because many have been trying longer and I don't want to offend anyone. So what exactly is long term?

 

[Helena_]

btw in my sig we were ntnp a little longer than that...we just can't remember, when we last used condoms

 

[BeantownBaby]

Long term is considered ttc for 1 year +. For women over 35 it is normally 6 mos.

 

[fisher640]

I have absolutely no authority whatsoever to be answering this but:

I always generally assumed LTTTC was when you've been at it for more than say a year (just an arbitrary number), and have started seeking treatment, testing or diagnosis and have moved beyond the basics of TTC. I'm not sure there is an official firm definition or even an unfirm definition of LTTTC. -- I think most of us move to the LTTTC forum because at a point you start to have difficulty relating to the people that are starting threads with "I threw out my birth control! This is it!" because you start to rack up months and months of "... well, no this is not it. again" and look for people who are under going similar tests or treatments, or just generally dealing with a type of mourning each month when AF shows and you need support of people going through something similar.

-- that's just my take though.
Welcome!

 

[Helena_]

Thanks girls! I've found that I'm having a hard time seeing new faces in the ttc section (I was stalking BnB way before I joined) and have been coming here way less than I want to because of it.

 

[Jennifer01]

You are ltttc when you want to smash your head against a wall when a random person in your life announces their pregnancy
For me, about 4.5 years if ttc and ntnp are combined

 

[wannabemummyb]

You are ltttc when you want to smash your head against a wall when a random person in your life announces their pregnancy
For me, about 4.5 years if ttc and ntnp are combined

Wow that says it all for me.

To the op i have been thinking the same, i find i dont quite belong in the ttc section, especially when people are frustrated after one cycle, but wasnt sure if i could class myself as ltttc. Its been 20 months for us, so guess we need to accept it

 

[Helena_]

You are ltttc when you want to smash your head against a wall when a random person in your life announces their pregnancy
For me, about 4.5 years if ttc and ntnp are combined

yep, Guess I belong in here now. hahahaha my friends friend just had her twins yesterday and my friend is like I want one now! Meanwhile, she had an abortion a year ago and I just want to shout that I am trying and so fucking excited to finally be on clomid and could you please stop going on about babies because it's making the wait so much more unbearable. I, of course, can't say any of that and need to smile and agree that babies are just wonderful.

Well, here's to long term trying to conceive! :sigh:

 

[Skoer1360]

Hii... I just wanted to jump in real fast and ask if 12 cycles means the same as 12 months? I have short cycles so I'm on my 12th cycle since Jan If I don't get a bfp this cycle, I was wondering if this would be the place for me? I feel kind of in-between

no offences intended, I now it hasn't been a true year for me

 

[Helena_]

12 cycles isn't 12 months but while I'm no authority on this, I'd say you belong. In 8 months I've only had 4 cycles

 

[carelove07]

I feel like I have been trying forever and I have been trying almost 1 1/2 years. I was also Diagnosed with pcos in July. Not that my brother and his wife is pregnant...I am ever having a hardertime...

 

[polly1984]

I think I may have to resign myself to the fact that I belong here also, no offence girls I am sure you are all lovely! : )

We have been TTC since may 2010, seems like forever and a day I have no decided to resign myself to the fact that I am probably never going to conceive, if anything to stop myself Obssessing!

I can't even imagine myself pregnant or with a baby, I am the last of my friends to get pregnant. My husband has a child from a previous marriage so I dont suppose that he is as bothered as me- he says he is but all said and done he has that magic!

We now have an appt at the specialist however I am not sure what they cand o as I now we will be refused IVF due to him having a child. I was haveing really unregular periods but for the past 6 months they have been regular, not what i would call normal but maybe a new normal for me??

I bought a CBFM and that states that I am ovulating however no + for me!! I gave up using it in december as i was getting so disheartened and stressed!

Sorry just has a big old whinge, just had to get it off my chest!!

Hope you are all having more success than me!

Px

 

[Rachiebeth]

We now have an appt at the specialist however I am not sure what they cand o as I now we will be refused IVF due to him having a child.

Have you been told this hun? Don't get disheartened if not.. Your DH has a child with someone else, so it was a different partenership.. FS see you as a completely new partnership and if you are infertile as a couple then they will treat you.
It's only when you have children together then you get refused because obviously you've been fertile as a couple.

HTH

 

[polly1984]

We now have an appt at the specialist however I am not sure what they cand o as I now we will be refused IVF due to him having a child.

Have you been told this hun? Don't get disheartened if not.. Your DH has a child with someone else, so it was a different partenership.. FS see you as a completely new partnership and if you are infertile as a couple then they will treat you.
It's only when you have children together then you get refused because obviously you've been fertile as a couple.

HTH

Thanks Chick,

It was my GP that told us that? However what do Gp's know? We are seeing the FS on the 1st march so I suppose I will have to wait and see!

I try desperately hard not to think about it but I am convinced that there is something horribly wrong? probably being daft, but I am 27, I never thought that it would take this long?

I was waiting to do lots of stuff and not book anything in case I was pregnant but now I'm past that I'm just going to do it! So am looking for new jobs, have bought a horse and am booking holidays! : ) All of which I was going to wait in case!!

How long have you been TTC?

Px

 

[Rachiebeth]

Sorry you were told that hun, but you're right, what do GPs know really? lol.. I hope your appointment goes well and you're FS can give you some hope.

Good on you for getting on with your life, it's hard isn't it?

and to you.

We've been trying for our 5th for nearly 3.5 years xxx

 

[Helena_]

hey! Sorry for you feeling so down. I promise that it will pass soon. I'm usually just lurking the journals but the girls in here are great! I honestly like this section so much better than the main ttc section. I feel like the newbies in there don't know much and are constantly giving false information (not knowing much is fine! I wish I didn't know so much but it just annoys me when I see all this false information....if you give advice then know your stuff!)

I wouldn't worry about IVF yet. First, there are a ton of things you can try (and in most cases, have to try). I imagine your doctor will probably put you on clomid (in which case join us at the clomid club!). The drug itself is a miracle worker for actually making me ovulate. I do get a bit down in the dumps but I don't know how much that has to do with the drug or just from being a long term trying to conceiver. If you happen to go on it then we can give you a million tips about taking it. If not then I'm sure I'll see you around! Good luck!!!!!!

 

[heavenly]

Thanks Chick,

It was my GP that told us that? However what do Gp's know? We are seeing the FS on the 1st march so I suppose I will have to wait and see!

I try desperately hard not to think about it but I am convinced that there is something horribly wrong? probably being daft, but I am 27, I never thought that it would take this long?

I was waiting to do lots of stuff and not book anything in case I was pregnant but now I'm past that I'm just going to do it! So am looking for new jobs, have bought a horse and am booking holidays! : ) All of which I was going to wait in case!!

How long have you been TTC?

Px

Hi Polly, glad you are seeing a FS. My GP, whilst has been brilliant over other things, was totally useless with me wanting to become a mum, I could tell she thought I was too old, she told me not to bother going private, having any tests done etc, said it would be a waste of money, and I believed her for ages....but then on the advice of a friend, went to see a FS privately and he is wonderful, he has put me on Clomid and it has helped me to ovulate this month, I will be looking at IVF this year if the Clomid doesn't get me pregnant, but I am yonks older than you, so I am sure there are lots of things you can try.

 

[uwa_amanda]

I can definitely say that my husband and I fall in the LTTTC section. I get a little disheartened myself that all of my friends have two to three children each and I have none. We've been TTC for five plus years and am currently on my fifth cycle of Clomid. I get annoyed when people constantly nag us about babies, children, etc. I want to just shout it from the rooftops for people to leave us alone!!! LOL

 

[kitcatbaby]

I think I belong here too just 1 year of official ttc but our FS has warned us we may have a long journey ahead of us due to tubal problems. I also feel like bashing my head against the wall when I see posts in general ttc from girls who are worried after 2 unsuccessful cycles. I honestly think I know more about fertility than any normal person should! Hoping I can belong here!

 

[Foxybabyhg3]

We were NTNP for 5yrs and TTC since 2005-although secretly I was TTC from the moment I came off the pill He said he didn't mind but I knew he really wanted it too So technically at it since 2000

I've got PCOS, a BMI of 40 and am 37yrs old-OH is 37 in March. Neither of us have children from previous relationships. At the moment I'm so angry at myself for leaving it this late in the game to lose the weight to get IVF privately-I have to be in the system before I'm 38 (so August).

So Hi to all the new LTTTC and hopefully you won't be here long-In the nicest possible way