Baby after loss of daughter, obsessive thoughts

[barbikins]

Hey Ladies,

I'm reaching out today because I need a bit of support and guidance.
I lost my baby girl 5 days after birth when she was born at 32 weeks.
I recently gave birth to my son and since his birth, I have horrible thoughts about all the things that could go wrong with him and convinced he may die too. I have an emotional wall up and find I'm not fully enjoying him because I'm so scared to loose him. I hate feel that way & want to connect with him the way I'd imagined so badly. It breaks my heart looking at him. He's incredibly precious. He also resembles my daughter quite a bit.
I'm always concerned I'm not doing enough for him to keep him safe and alive

Anyone else been through some thing like this and have some thoughts?

Thanks!

 

[sarahmomof2]

I don't have any words of advice. Congratulations on the birth of your son. Just do the best that you can each day. I'm sure you are already doing that. I think what you are feeling is completely normal after such a terrible loss. I noticed this was posted awhile ago. I hope things are going better for you now.

 

[LaceFace88]

I can relate to this a little. I lost my son in april less than an hour after birth he was born prematurely at 20w. I am not pregnant with a daughter that i have so longed for i have four living boys. I feel guilty being hapy for havin this pregnancy and wish if had my son still with me and i fear as you do that i will feel disconnected to her because of the guilt i feel for my son. Everyday i want to be excited but my son comes straight to my mindand i get overwhelmed with guilt and sadness for the loss of the my son. I hope it passed and i hope you are feeling better and can connect with the baby soon i am here if you need to chat xxxx