back problems and and sister has just made me cry!

[Dancingkaty1]

hi girls....

i woke up feeling so happy today as have made it to 31 weeks today and getting sooo excited bout meeting my twin girl & boy...altho obviously hoping they stay in few more weeks at least!

my sister phoned just now & basically had a go me saying she is going to see our nan today who is 82....

i really could do with a lazy day 2day 2 b honest....well if you call a lazy day being 31 weeks preg with twins, having severe problems with bk pains and cant walk far, housework to do, & looking after a busy 4 year old daughter lol...but do you know what i mean i could really do with a day of not going anywhere & just chilling a bit

we have been sooooo busy lately getting daughters now room decorated and the twins room sorted, we havent really stopped, i had physio last tues again on my pelvis & back as babies are getting bigger and playing havoc on bk, in such pain all the time as bones are coming out of joint constantly so havent slept well since then...well havent slept well since 20 weeks preg come to think of it!!

i explained to her this & she said well u are the nearest to nan & we all need to make the effort & muddle in & go and see her..

she made me feel so crap and i said to her what do you want me to do?? im really struggling at the min just to even get up dressed ect...i felt like saying its hardwork carrying twins you know. she hasnt any children so she just has no idea! her dh works away half the week so she only has her self to think about. i used to have my nan over once a week for dinner, it only lasted a few mths as i fell preg with the twins and on top of that i was childminding 8am-6pm i had my 4 year old too....it got too much really....plus i wasnt driving so my dh had to pick her up which in traffic would take an hour after he had been at work all day and then take her the 20 mins bk to her house at 10pm at night...he found it exhausting as he had to be up at 6am for work too. we then decided to do our kitchen to make extra cupboard space for twins things so basically had no kitchen for bout a mth...was like living in a building site so it just wasnt possible to have nan over every week...altho i would phone her instead and always check on her....

my sister said oh you only had her 2 or 3 weeks....

i ended up hanging up on her...why should i have to explain myself to her???

i wouldnt mind so much but i phone my nan regularly ...just tues night i spoke to her on phone for an hr and she said she completely understands the pain im in as she has had hip and pelvis problems....we had a lovely chat.


now i feel so down and crap....my dh phoned her and apparently she said i had a go at her!!! omg i sooo did not!! he said that he doesnt care what was said but at the end of the day he is looking out for his wife who is 31 weeks preg with twins and doesnt want any stress bought on as you never know it could make babies come earlier and be premature! my sister hung up on him!

aggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh sorry this has been very long had to have a rant!



xxx

 

[kelz87]

hello, wow u have been busy!!
sorry 2 hear your sister isnt being very supportive of u and your situation.
like u said she hasn't been through it so has no idea of the pain they can actually cause (i had really bad back probs with my last pregnancy so kind of no what ur goin through except i only had 1 baby inside).
just think that your nan had spoken 2 u and told u she understands y u cant visit so much, and your talking over the phone its ot like you've completely abandoned her!
dont stress 2 much as u dont want your twins 2 be born early.... stress bought on my labour with my 2nd.
good on your husband 4 ringing ur sister and havin a word and sticking up 4 u... as some men prefer 2 "keep out of it" - chicken out more like hehe!!
what a cheek 2 blame it on u.... like u havent got enough stress and worries 2 deal with at the moment!!

hope u hve time 2 relax soon b4 the twins arrive!
chin up... think of u and your little family. x

 

[Aus_Amy]

Don't stress about it.. If really bothering you call your nan again and have a chat.. Talk to her about what your sister said.. Also your sister could be feeling guilty if she hasn't been to see your nan in awhile and is trying to force the guilt onto you..