Been FF for 2 months and still feeling badly

[socitycourty]

I had to switch my LO to FF after 8 weeks because she was just having too much trouble with reflux and lactose/milk protein allergy etc. she couldn't sleep and was constantly vomiting (not just spitting) and very very unhappy and unwell...

weaned her onto the formula slowly for a week and she was just fine. She's about 1000 times happier than she was. Dr says she's doing great, I made the right choice, etc.

however every time I end up coming across a ff v. bf thread or website I end up feeling horrible again, I feel like I've ruined her life and just like a shit mom again. And I also have PPD so I'm sure it doesn't help

 

[MrsButterfly]

don't feel guilty - you are a great mum making the right choice for your lo. I understand the guilt tho - every so often I feel bad as I had to stop bf at 4wks - lo couldn't latch and so I expressed but I found that so tough to keep up with his appetite so decided to stop but now feel like I should have kept up and was being selfish. But then I look at how well my baby is doing and realise I'm not a terrible mother! Can you talk to your oh about how you feel? Mine really helped me put everything in perspective

 

[socitycourty]

My Dh thinks I'm being silly. He was FF from birth as I was too so he thinks it's no big deal. I think I invested too much in it while I was pregnant and stuff and then it didn't work out and was kind of a blow.

 

[ravenmel]

Hugs to you honey. Don't feel silly, I felt bad at first I stopped bf about 3 and a half ago because of issues too. This is my 2nd and I didn't except problems because I BF my 1st which is where my guilt comes from, not doing the same for both babies. Also some people are idiots and don't' know when to keep their opinions to themselves. Someone made me feel like I was also doing bad by my 2nd lo but she's 100 times happier on the bottle. What you have to remember is there's more to being a good mum than just milk. Sure bf is a good start but it's not the only way and not for everyone.
Be the best mum you can be throughout little ones life and you'll see that child thrive.

 

[smileygurl85]

Raising a happy, healthy and well-adjusted child is the goal! Kudos to you for BF'ing for 8 week!!! I barely made it to 2 weeks and cried every time that he cried for food. Then when we switched to formula I felt like a horrible and cruel mother. I do still regret FF'ing sometimes - but I know that it's better for him in the long run.

 

[socitycourty]

^ my sister stopped relatively early too because she was in so much pain. Nothing helped her and she was in pain every time her LO was on the boob. She was on the boob a lot as my sister had a low supply. she took some supplements and pumped, etc. and she was just in too much pain to do anything else. She was feeling pretty badly for a while but once baby was so happy on the FF she never looked back

I wonder if BF issues can be hereditary as my grandma had absolutely no milk with either my dad or my uncle. she also had several miscarriages so I'm curious if it was hormonal or something. of course it was the 1950's so they didn't worry too much about trying to BF as hard as we do. But it's a curious connection.

thank you ladies for the responses. I'm just having a rough time lately I guess.