Been referred for ivf today and asked how i feel!!

[alison011177]

Well, six cycles of clomid later and still no bfp!! Seen my consultant today who has referred me for ivf due to anovulation, one blocked tube and dh slightly reduced mobility. My friend said oh thats great news, i said is it?? I feel a bit confused at the moment, how can i feel happy that I am needing IVF? all i can think is why cant I have a bfp! is this normal?? I think i need a huge crying session on my own! I need to loose 3 st now with pcos. Cant seem to pick myself up today. Cons gave me 1 more cycle of clomid but said dont get my hopes up! sorry for going on ;(

 

[Trying4ever]

Aww sweetie just relax. I know it sounds awful...but if you have tried all avenues possible then having IVF is good news in the sense that there is still hope of getting your BFP with a little extra help.

Chin up.

 

[alison011177]

Thanks, I didnt think of it that way-i think im just taking it all in i really really thought clomid would have worked, i never thought i would have go to ivf x

 

[maz]

I've just gone through my first cycle of IVF with unexplained subfertility, and am just waiting to POAS. I was very frustrated at not finding out why we hadn't conceived, but delighted when we were told that IVF would be likely to work.

So far, I've only had a few days where I've been up and down - one was when I injected my thigh and hit a vein (that hurt), and then the couple of days between egg collection and embryo transfer were pretty emotional. I'm quite an impatient person and now just want to know - if it's negative that's fine I'll go again, but obviously a positive would be just wonderful.

Focus your attentions on your weight loss now hun. I have a friend who was told to lose 4stone. Reason apparently fertility drugs love fat, and if you're carrying too much fat, the drugs make a beeline for it and not the ovaries, so there is then an increased risk of treatment cancellation before egg collection.

Good luck for your last cycle of clomid, and if it doesn't work, at least you know that there is a more high tech treatment that may well work for you.

 

[rachelle1975]

Big Alison,
It does make you feel like you have been hit by a truck and you do have 'why me' moments but on the positive side at least you have far greater odds now and you can start planning more. Besides, who says it won't happen in between now and starting treatment? You never know.
I also have to lose 3st for my IVF but it is coming off and i know that when my cycle arrives i'll be fighting fit and ready to get fat again... this time with a bump

 

[alison011177]

thanks girlys your replies have just put a smile on my face!! It doesnt help me workin with pregnant women and babies, just rubs the salt in the wound a little bit at times but hey like you said there is a positive way of looking at it fingers crossed x

 

[pixielou]

Oh Alison, you are not 'going on' at all! I can understand how you feel. I have also had 6 months of clomid with no BFP and at every stage you keep thinking that it will happen now. My consultant wants to try us next on IUI or IVF but I'm having a lap and dye under another consultant as the first one said no as it's too expensive and risky.
So if they can't find anything after this then I will be going down same route. Yes, I think that its great that we get this free etc and I feel guilty thinking that is it too much to ask for a natural BFP. Then I feel ungrateful and should want to accept everything that comes my way!

Keep us posted!

 

[CareBear]

It is disappointing when clomid doesn't work, I'm like pixielou and have had 4 months of clomid and HCG jab and no luck. Am now going in for a lap and dye in a couple of weeks however today I o'ed by myself so I am keping my fingers crossed! Please don't lose hope you never know what is going to happen, I haven't o'd by myself for a believe over a year so I am hoping this is a lucky sign. Good luck with the weight loss and this cycle of clomid

 

[JASMAK]