Been told to look at my options

[flw]

Hello,

Im new to any kind of forum but thought this would be the best place to talk to like minded people about conception issues. I hope i have picked the right thread catagory!! Heres my situation....

3 years ago i was diagnosed with Pelvic Inflammatory disease. Till this day it continues to come back 3/4 times a year. At the time i was advised to try for a child, i was engaged to the man of my dreams so we got straight down to it. Unfortunately we didnt make it for non pregnancy related issues.

A year into my problems i was taken to hospital and a laproscopy was performed. More problems were discovered....An ovarian Cyst and a small case of endometriosis. Both of these problems could not be removed or treated due to the sensitive areas they are in. I was put on the pill and told to stay on it until i was ready to try for a baby again this has releived some symptoms i was having.

I got a new boyfriend. From day 1 i was honest about my problems. A few Months ago i was referred to a top dog gynecologist. I had irregular bleeding. I have been told i now have an abnormal patch of cells on the side of my womb. Cells like a scab which even when healed or calm a baby would not be able to attach to that part.

Despite these problems i stayed optimistic and have taken it in my stride. My boyfriend left me after being together for two years as he thought he was to young to deal with my fertility problems. This was only a month ago.

I am now under care with the gynecologist and have been told i need to have children as soon as socially acceptable. Easier said than done. I have been told to access my options.

I was hoping by talking to some likeminded people may help me find some clarity.

Fran

 

[Springflower]

Oh gosh Fran you poor thing. I don't have any wise words. I just wanted to say how sorry I am. Big hugs. I'm not sure what your dr means by asking you to have children as soon as socially acceptable? Did he did you any idea of timescales?

 

[flw]

Hello Springflower,

Thankyou for replying it means alot

Im nearly 25 so he has said i should ideally have a child by the time im 30 and 35 is the cut off point. He means i need to try as soon as i can as more and more problems are arising. Once im 30 my chances are statistically halved. But he urges me to try as the sooner and the quicker then the more chance they can go in and help me.

I just dont know what to do. I have someone in my life i could let back in but i have to know im doing it for the right reasons. I have to get over the boyfriend leaving me lol x

 

[seoj]

Sounds like you just need to take some time hun. I really wouldn't let anyone into your life right now... you've been through so much. Try to take the time to decide what is best for YOU, period. Sounds like there IS time... obviously having a doctor give you a time limit is not ideal and I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.

But there is that chance you could still meet the right man and build a family. Or you could decide, screw it, why wait when I'm ready now? Whatever decision you make- just do what feels right in your gut. Sometimes listening to our head or heart can lead us down the wrong path- but I've learned (in my 37 yrs) that the gut, it usually just knows. Obviously that's a simple answer to a much larger delima... but you'll know in time.

That's just my two cents...

Wishing you ALL the best of luck hun!!!!!

 

[crystal443]

So sorry..always go with your gut (I'm 36) , i was supposed to have IVF in January but I kept getting the feeling the timing was off I hadn't come to terms with having fertility issues so I ended up not going ahead with the cycle. Well, my dad passed away last week and had been really sick a few weeks before that so had I went ahead I don't know that the cycle would have even worked with all the stress, we're looking at March or April now depending on stress levels here at home.

My point is go with your gut, think about things and what feels right is usually the best road to take...best of luck !!

 

[flw]

Thankyou very much for your replies. I am very reluctant to trust or let people in. I had a chat with my mum today (were not close) she says the same thing.....someone may come along and sweep me off my feet any day. But she has always rooted for the ex fiancee i mentioned. She said i should stop with the head and go with my gut and she thinks i should spend some time with him. A family friends dad died today so were all upset but she kept telling me lifes too short.

I am very sorry to hear about your dad crystal443. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. I know stress can be a big factor. But i have always been a firm believer dreams come true x