bfp after mmc at 12 weeks... so scared

[pinkbloomers]

Hi,

I had a missed miscarriage in November, went for the 12 week scan but the baby had died at 8 weeks. My period was due on Sat but didn't show. I did a frer and got a very faint positive so did a clear blue digital which said pregnant 1-2 for the conception indicator, would have been 4 weeks pregnant on Sat, now 4 + 2. Since Sat complete paranoia has taken over, I must have done about 10 preg tests they have all been positive but not dark positives tho I took another digital today n it still said pregnant. I'm now 16dpo and I just thought the lines would be darker, the only dark one has been a supermarkets own brand. Should I be worried that the lines aren't dark? going to go to the doctors tomorrow hopefully to get some reassurance. I know it's early days but I'm so worried something will go wrong like last time and I don't know if I'm strong enough to get through something like that again, I want my baby so badly. I have a couple tests left so gonna test again in the morning with fmu then my husband has said to stop testing. A positive is a positive and I have had at least 10! I've just been so low and stressed when I should be so happy

Thanks for taking the time to read xxx

 

[mwaah]

Big hugs honey and sorry for your loss.

I think once you have a suffered a loss you can never truly enjoy a pregnancy again.
I'm 15 weeks now after 3 losses I'm still too scared to tell friends yet.

Congrats on your rainbow baby and good luck at the dr's xxx

 

[chelsealynnb]

I also discovered a MMC at my 12 week scan. My baby had passed away at 7+3 weeks. With that baby, I didn't get a faint BFP until 21DPO, and with my first m/c, I didn't get a faint BFP until 24 dpo. I have also been obsessing over the darkness of the lines. It's driving me crazy! I have 3 tests left, and I'm going to use them over the next 3 days but after that I am NOT going to buy anymore tests. I hope you have a sticky baby

 

[loulou1979]

I had my mc at 11+4 and thought I was safe so close to my 12 week scan. Even though I had an early reassurance scan at 8 weeks, I'm still so worried that something is going to happen. The scan went great, bubs was measuring two days ahead and had a strong heartbeat, but I won't feel right until I get to that 12 week scan and everything is ok. Lots of hugs xx

 

[Jessabelle]

The very same thing happened to me two years ago. I am now cautiously and nervously 8+1 weeks pregnant. I totally understand what you are going through and it must be even harder as your loss was so recent. I wouldn't do anymore pregnancy tests though. You won't get very dark lines because you aren't that far gone. My Mum used to be a midwife and basically she said, and the pharmacist told me, that any line, whether faint or dark is fine. It won't show up dark yet as it's still early days. Mine wasn't dark this time around either but baby is fit, well and healthy so far. Like you, I tested around 4+2. It is such an anxious time and if you need any one to talk to then I'm here for you!

 

[george83]

Congratulations! I'm so sorry that your not able to relax and enjoy your pregnancy, the pain of a miscarriage is never ending. I'm sure everything will be wonderful and this pregnancy will be totally healthy

 

[Starry Night]

Hi. I've had two miscarriages at 12 weeks. The first was a spontaneous so was not expecting that and the other was a mmc. It's tough because you spend the whole first trimester feeling unsafe with no real milestones to pass to break that time up.

With my first rainbow baby I spent a lot of time in the first tri pretending I wasn't pregnant. I wouldn't let myself think about it except when I had to (I had loads of bleeding so was at the ER a lot). It was the only way to keep myself sane. I may try that tactic again.