Birth

[Mrs_Wright]

I don't really feel like I belong here because altho my daughter was premature, she did incredibly well and didn't have to go to nicu, she was allowed the special care in a private room with me on the ward.
But I just wanted to ask a question.
With my son, I loved labour. But with Alyssa, I was hooked up to monitors because they needed to keep an eye on her heart rate because of being prem so I just had to lay there instead of being free to move around like I could with my son. Then with the resus table being brought in and all the neonatal paediatricians coming in and out, it made my labour so much harder and I didn't enjoy it atal..
When will I stop dwelling on it?

 

[Dinah93]

It takes everyone a different time I guess. For me I don't dwell on the birth itself, I wanted a natural water birth, I got a crash c-section at 28 weeks, but the hard part for me was not getting the new mum experience of holding my baby. I still am not over this part after 2 years, the idea that we may end up in the nicu again for weeks on end terrifies me, so I do understand how you feel. I guess the reason I don't dwell on the birth is I'm just so grateful she got out safely the manner of it doesn't matter, I always looked at the birth I wanted as a hope rather than a plan or a promise, no one can control birth so getting the one I wanted was always going to be luck rather than anything within my control.