bonniessis
An Angel, A baby & A Bun
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Just a little update for a few of the b&b ladies. If you want to know my history, read my thread titled "4 years ttc, stillbirth then cp..." Or something along those lines. This update is mainly for the ladies on that thread who've been really supportive.
I had a scan today at 15+2 (need to change my ticker). Everything looks great and growing on target. Consultant tried to have a wee peek between the legs but no such luck. I'm having a hard time bonding with this pregnancy so thinking that knowing the gender might help with that.
Discussed birthing options today, will still be around the 35/36 week mark with various different options but I have until 30 weeks to decide, even then if I'm not comfortable I can change it.
The options at the moment are, c-section which he would prefer to do at 36 weeks as apparently any sections done before 36 weeks automatically go to the neonatal unit and he would prefer if that didn't happen. Ideally he'd like to be in charge of mine and the baby's care after the birth but if the baby needs neonatal care then it's out of his hands. He thinks that neonatal time might delay my bonding time with the baby and he'd like to see us go home as soon as possible to start being a family, obviously only if we're both perfectly healthy and as long as I feel ready to go home. On that note, he'd rather that I have a natural delivery. Firstly for the baby's lungs and secondly for me physically (so we get home sooner). He said that if a baby is born before 36 weeks naturally then it is not automatically taken to the neonatal (unless needed) which gives me a better chance to bond. If I do give birth naturally he had said that it will be on my terms. He said I can have the closest room to theatre incase I need an emergancy section. The first sign of trouble, even if it's nothing too serious, he'll do the section ASAP.
All options will include steroid injections at 32 weeks.
Apart from that, I'm thinking about getting back to work in January. I know I've been off for a long time but between losing my son, then health issues and an operation, then my wedding...now this pregnancy. I feel like I'm only now being able to actually grieve. I suppose that's the reason I'm not bonding with this baby but I'm worried that if I don't use this time to grieve and come to terms with the loss of my son then I'm going to be a prime target for pnd if/once this baby comes. Minds a bit messed up at the minute.
Anyhoo, will keep updating this post from now on.
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I had a scan today at 15+2 (need to change my ticker). Everything looks great and growing on target. Consultant tried to have a wee peek between the legs but no such luck. I'm having a hard time bonding with this pregnancy so thinking that knowing the gender might help with that.
Discussed birthing options today, will still be around the 35/36 week mark with various different options but I have until 30 weeks to decide, even then if I'm not comfortable I can change it.
The options at the moment are, c-section which he would prefer to do at 36 weeks as apparently any sections done before 36 weeks automatically go to the neonatal unit and he would prefer if that didn't happen. Ideally he'd like to be in charge of mine and the baby's care after the birth but if the baby needs neonatal care then it's out of his hands. He thinks that neonatal time might delay my bonding time with the baby and he'd like to see us go home as soon as possible to start being a family, obviously only if we're both perfectly healthy and as long as I feel ready to go home. On that note, he'd rather that I have a natural delivery. Firstly for the baby's lungs and secondly for me physically (so we get home sooner). He said that if a baby is born before 36 weeks naturally then it is not automatically taken to the neonatal (unless needed) which gives me a better chance to bond. If I do give birth naturally he had said that it will be on my terms. He said I can have the closest room to theatre incase I need an emergancy section. The first sign of trouble, even if it's nothing too serious, he'll do the section ASAP.
All options will include steroid injections at 32 weeks.
Apart from that, I'm thinking about getting back to work in January. I know I've been off for a long time but between losing my son, then health issues and an operation, then my wedding...now this pregnancy. I feel like I'm only now being able to actually grieve. I suppose that's the reason I'm not bonding with this baby but I'm worried that if I don't use this time to grieve and come to terms with the loss of my son then I'm going to be a prime target for pnd if/once this baby comes. Minds a bit messed up at the minute.
Anyhoo, will keep updating this post from now on.
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thanks so much for inviting me over to your new thread. I'm so very pleased all is well with the baby and you've had a great scan, when I was pregnant with Brooklyn (now 1) I was scared the whole way through after loosing two pregnancies before at 12 weeks then 11 weeks, I was so scared to believe but it got easier and I felt him moving so early too so that really helped
