Breaking Point

[bootyb]

I think i have reached the bottom! Im jes so fade up! I have been trying to stay on top of things but its all too much!
Im at college full-time trying to finish my course before baby here, a course that actually finishes on june. I have worked my arse off, nd now its half-term im still having to go to work placement so i can make up the placement hours required on the course nd i have been bombered with course-work which im trying to complete as well.
Then i have SS on my back because of my mental health problems, nd the mental health team are not supporting me at all, im having to do everything by myself. i.e. benefits nd money. Im nearly 31 weeks nd i havent bought anything for the baby because i have no money nd i have no support frm the father. I have applied for income support but they keep asking for letters from college nd college keep taking ages to send the letters to me so my claim hasnt even been processed. So i cant claim the maternity grant. Nd wen im home my mum expects to look atfer my 9yr sis nd clean,cook nd wash.
I have stuck it out at college because i want a better life for me nd my daughter nd dont wanna be on benefits all my life! But it seems like everwhere i turn their are obstacles! Everyone keeps saying they are their to support me but they are doing fuck all!
I think im jes gonna pack everything in as i jes cant do it anymore.

 

[aidensxmomma]

Hey hun. I know things are hard now, but everything will get better. You just have to keep pushing through everything for you and your baby. One day everything might just go through and it will all be done at once and you can have a nice relaxing day. I don't really have that good of advice, but I hope everything gets better soon. I know where you're coming from.

 

[leeanne]

It must be terribly tough on you. Keep strong and you will get through it hon. I know it's no consolation right now but one day you will look back and take a deep sigh of relief.

 

[Minimummy]

I know its really hard cos they're nosey buggers, but try to work with ss instead of against them, if you tell them you're finding things hard, they won't automatically take bubba away hun, they'll help and support you as much as they can, contrary to popular belief, ss aren't in the business of taking babies away and I'm sure they'd bend over backwards to help you if they new you were struggling so much. Its already been said but please don't jack college in, just think, a few more months and you'll be qualified! Bubba will appreciate it in the longrun, think of all the nice things you'll be able to buy instead of making do at primark. Try explaining to your mum how hard your finding it, I know parents aren't the best of help in times like this but sometimes it helps to know that atleast they know your feelings. Talking about it will make you feel like your making progress instead of going backwards xxx

 

[nikky0907]

I do applaud you for sticking with your education, keep going and honestly it's best for your daughter and you in the long run.
Have you filed for child support from the father, he doesn't get to dodge this responsibility just like that.

 

[ampersandme]

Keep strong and stick in there. with detirmination and a good attitude you will be surprised how things will just fall into place, I also have mental health problems and I know how deabilitating they can be.
Stay strong for your child, they will be such a source of inspiration and joy to you.
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[navarababe]

hun, please keep ur chin up, You are stronger than you think, Just take a deep breath, lift your head and say to urself that you CAN do this. xx

 

[Beth_18]

 

[AppleBlossom]

 

[Webbykinskt]

You must be one strong lady.... I can't even keep up with college when i'm not pregnant! I know what you mean about ss and mental health... my mom's having some right problems with them... She had to sit the woman down for about 45 minutes to explain exactly what's happening until they understood the full story. Apparently information wasn't shared between the different people so they all got mixed up. I think your best bet is to ask to speak to someone involved and just explain everything in one go to ensure the message can't be broken up.

Be honest with your mum and tell her you need a break... and can't she get a babysitter instead... maybe you have a friend who would help out?

I hope everything gets better for you and your LO... Good luck

 

[Laura--x]

 

[bootyb]

I do applaud you for sticking with your education, keep going and honestly it's best for your daughter and you in the long run.
Have you filed for child support from the father, he doesn't get to dodge this responsibility just like that.

Havent filed yet...didnt know u cud do that b4 baby is born...nd i jes dont have a strength atm. But thanks

 

[bootyb]

I know its really hard cos they're nosey buggers, but try to work with ss instead of against them, if you tell them you're finding things hard, they won't automatically take bubba away hun, they'll help and support you as much as they can, contrary to popular belief, ss aren't in the business of taking babies away and I'm sure they'd bend over backwards to help you if they new you were struggling so much. Its already been said but please don't jack college in, just think, a few more months and you'll be qualified! Bubba will appreciate it in the longrun, think of all the nice things you'll be able to buy instead of making do at primark. Try explaining to your mum how hard your finding it, I know parents aren't the best of help in times like this but sometimes it helps to know that atleast they know your feelings. Talking about it will make you feel like your making progress instead of going backwards xxx

Cant really tlk to my mum atm as she has her own stresses atm....nd she is not well mphysically. But thanks hun.