c-section booked for 19th, having doubts re planned

[weebun]

I am booked in this coming wednesday for c-section (didn't really get an option) my 9 year old was long labour failed to dilate past 7 cm and he was facing wrong way to come out so due to his distress I had a emcs with him

Last year I was induced at 39 weeks with an attempt at vbac got to 8cm cm and my daughter was distressed I ended up emcs again. I have scar tissue in there and I got a bladder tear also when they were cutting through the scar tissue to get to uterus....ten days with a catheter and very depressed.

Got pg with 3rd when daughter was 6 months old. My official due date for no 3 is 26th December

It's Christmas, & the nearer my booked in date comes 19th, I don't want it, I just want to be left alone, to be induced maybe or at least given a chance at second thoughts, the risks are now higher with another c-section due to the scar tissue, and there is a chance if i did try vbac again I could end up emcs there is also a chance with it being my 3rd that I could make it to 10cm this time either way whether I end up emcs or planned the risks due to scar tissue are there, how can a c-section in the first instance be my best option without even giving labour a go...

MY partner is like, they know best, well I disagree I am depressed before I even have the op not looking forward to the birth this isn't really how I want it to go!..... another operation right on christmas without a real option of trying induction, c-section could go wrong again, either way... I just feel like ringing the consultant secretary and saying could you let her know I am having doubts about c-section in first instance and I need to chat to her when I am admitted before I go to theatre....

It's like you're a planned c-section that's that! There advice is best and I am like, well I actually either want to be induced or I don't go in and get left alone and let nature take it's course. It's late in the day now I know, but now the date is here, I've realised that it's not really what I want in the first instance

I don't mind having c-section, if labour fails, but I want a go at labour.

I don't know what to do, who to talk to, what consultants response will be! I just think I'll be made to feel bad either way. I was thinking if I could ask if I could be examined on admission to see how ready I am and if I was viable for induction could they induce me and see how things go again.

Failing that I am still praying baby decides to get things moving before the 19th!!!!! They did say that if I go into labour I should go straight to hospital and they will take me straight for c-seciton!!!! again I don't agree with that!

My head is a mess, I'm sick of my partner talking about how excited he is, just happy for me to not have an option to be cut open again with high risks as long as he gets baby on wednesday, GRRRRRR

RANT OVER

 

[weebun]

blimey do I sound that manic LOL x maybe my vent has left some confused x I am happy to be having my baby, just confused about how I feel about planned c-section.... anyone get me LOL x

 

[confused87com]

i understnad. i wanted a vbac this time. Just had a consultant appointment and my baby has stopped growing. they examined me and i am unfavourable for any sort of induction so i have to have steroids and a c section....now i know i will never get to have a 'normal' birth. I just worry because they havent found any reason for her to be small but hubby and i were born at 5lb 4 and she is estimated at 5lb 3........so i wasnt gonna have a huge baby. I know they will know best but i cant understand the hurry to get her out just because she is little.

 

[weebun]

thank you for you reply, I don't get how a high risk c-section is best for me in the first instance, just because the consultant wants more time to get baby out !!!

 

[ITS2012]

Hi

Here in the uk most hostipal trusts wont allow a trail of labour after 2 sections. I don't think your scar tissue has anything to do with your high risk. It is just the fact you have had 2 sections before.

I too felt like you do when I was pregnant with my 3rd child. I was so frustrated that they gave me a section date at 20 weeks and refused to allow me to change it.

A planned section is less risky than an emergency as they can take as much time as needed to cut you open and delivery baby as safely as possible.

My bladder was also damaged during a planned section but it was section number 5 and it was attached to my womb. I am know 18 weeks pregnant, I know I will have a section at 39 weeks so I am trying hard not to think about it until nearer the time.

I can understand you are angry that the decision has been made for you and with christmas so near it will be hard work, but is it not better for you that everything is planned.

I don't mean to sound like your husband but I am sure he may find it difficult to know what to say.....afterall he will want you and your little treasure to be safe,

Sending you a big hug cos I know exactly how you feel.

 

[weebun]

that's exactly what happened to me my bladder was stuck to my womb and as they cut through the scar tissue my bladder got cut too.
Glad you ok x
It's now it is nearer I am wobbling like hell x
I should know better I work as a HCA for the NHS I know this stuff but when its you all your knowledge and wisdom goes out of the window, along with my sense I think LOL x

At the beginning they did mention that trial wasn't out of the question, however like you said they don't want to risk and emergency situation again where time is of the essence which could result in damage again due to the speed in which they have to work to get baby out x

I've decided to ring them today and just speak to someone just to vent off and get it off my chest and sort my head out x I'll be a blubbering wreck in the morning as it is saying good bye to my baby girl and 9 year old son, so I want my head to be clear x My friend said I'm probably not the first to wobble or have doubts and she said I bet they have heard this before x

 

[ITS2012]

Hey, you definitely aint the first and I know you won't be the last to have doubts. It is only natural to worry. I try not to think about mine next year as I will be a nervous wreck if I do.

I always feel so deflated when I have said goodbye to my other children on the morning I am booked for. It is so difficult, you say goodbye and I always wonder on the way to the hospital if I will ever say hello to them again. I can't say anymore because if I start to think about it now I will spend the next 21 weeks thinking and worrying about it.

So today was the BIG day, I hope you and you little one had a safe section and all went well. Thinking of you and wishing you a speedy recover

 

[weebun]

Had my little girl on 19th december weighing 6lb 13oz, the c-section went really well, unfortunately my little girl was very very poorly at birth and required resucitation and an emergency transfusion at 2 days old she was transferred to alder hey and underwent an emergency laparotomy with a view to further surgery but thankfully internally she was normal, she is a little mystery and is almost fully recovered she was so poorly when born and we were close to losing her, but she is well and due home in a couple of days, we may never know what happened to her to make her so ill at birth she was fine till they cut the cord and then things went from bad to worse... she's made leaps and bounds and we are so happy xxx

 

[ITS2012]

Congratulations on the birth of your little princess. Sorry to hear she was poorly but trilled to know she is making a speedy recovery.

Glad you went ahead with the section, life is far to precious to mess around with it. Yes, as women we all want to be able to deliver our babies ourselves but sometimes nature just doesn't want it to be that way. I feel like I have missed out many times but at least our children are alive and well and at the end of the day that is all that matters.

Bet you are really looking forward to having your little one home soon.

Wishing your little girl a full and speedy recovery. May you all have a fantastic 2013.

Take care xx

 

[weebun]

She came home on new years eve x so we have had a fab start to 2013 x thank you xxx