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[toonlagoon]

baialy cuting a hugely long story short my ex and broke up shortly after fidding out about the babay
now he has found a new gf now i was upset but delt with it
but mewile imbertween him fiding her and leveing me he never rly seemed to care never realy text me asking if i was ok neveer had much respect for what im doing
then after 2 days of fiding her he disided he wonted her to be a called mum i meen come on tell me if im over reacting but that bang otu of order so my reltion was untill i no her i dont wnt her to be anythign t do with the babay
thne she added me on msn chat and started being serosly imature and having a go at me you the usual just leve him alone its you beign the bxxch you no wich wound me up but i did for the best to keep carm and agnored it then he terned around and sedi unles she is fully involved and can be called mum sorry but to me thats mad and extramly imature hes 22 not 2 you no
so i seid no im not cofterbull with that not yet not untill i no her etc but now has bloke dmy number bloked me on msn chat and face book so no contact at all helpp !!!!

 

[tinkabells]

Ok i dont wanna see rude, but i cant understand what your saying?
Are you saying your ex's new girlfriend wants to be part of your babies life and be called mum? then no i wouldnt stand anything like that
And if she's been rude to you, then block her on everything xxx

 

[toonlagoon]

sorry i have delexier
bacily im having my ex babay
and his new gf wonts to be involved and called mum
i obvo seid no
so she started being rude to me
and he seid that if i dont let her he dont wont anything to do twith the babay
as i dont wont her involved until i no and trust her and would never let her be mum
and so he bloked me out of his life and seid i dont wont it then
hope that more clear for you i could realy do with some advice

 

[karamel]

Personally ; i wouldn't stand for him saying that he wants his new gf to be called mum.
That's ridiculous!
And if he's childish enough to say that if you don't let that happen then he wants nothing to do with the baby, then I'd say you're better off without him in your and your baby's life.
That's my personal opinion ; but it really doesn't make sense why he'd be doing that.
Basically putting his new gf before your child? He's no good.

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah i wouldnt stand for her being called mum, and if he will only have that then his not worth it, try and explain to him, would he like your baby calling someone else there dad?!

Also for her getting rude to you, let her know she has nothing to do with you and him and YOUR baby, she is just a bystander, and she needs to back off, if she dont then say you will report her?!
Hope might of helped? xxx

 

[toonlagoon]

yh see thing is he seid if she cnat be involed you cnat have nay round the babay i was liek thats fine if i have to be singal for this babay for ever i will !! that put him off the track
also i seid that its nothignt o do with her and she started saying dont come back with out a dna talking for him and wouldnt let him talk for him self so they both then bloekd me out and i cant get hold off ether off um now so its realy hard but what can i do expept be the best mum i ever can be and do the role of both mum and dad and i have my mates and fmaily round me extemaly lukyly agien sor about bad spelling its imbarising

 

[karamel]

Don't worry about the spelling ; it's still readable

 

[toonlagoon]

i just wish he could see past what she braine washed him into
you no if i was her i woudl be saying dont worry about me im happy to stay out the way so you can see YOUR babay you no realy upsets me

 

[karamel]

i just wish he could see past what she braine washed him into
you no if i was her i woudl be saying dont worry about me im happy to stay out the way so you can see YOUR babay you no realy upsets me

I completely understand. But you have to also consider that it's not necessarily all her fault. He's obviously childish; if he wasn't, it wouldn't matter what she said ; he'd still be there for you & baby.
Some women just can't handle the fact that their OH has a child with another woman. And some men just can't handle the fact that they're going to be a father.

 

[toonlagoon]

but hehas 2 kids with his ex wife yes maby partly puting my self in a sitution with a gye liek that but i trusted him and he has his kids all the time so its not liek shes dosent have to deal with that and also he can handel having kids you no wich makes it worse for me i feel liek evry time you try help i shoot it back in youre face lol

 

[karamel]

It's alright. The more i learn, the more i can help, ya kno?

It could very well be her then ; but honestly, with the kind of man he's being right now, do you want him around? Either way ; this baby is obv not on the top of his priorities, this new gf is. And she's obv not a real winner to begin with.
If i were you, i'd find a way to contact him ; not sure how seeing as he's blocked you and all, but I'd find a way. And I would tell him that he's being completely ridiculous ; how would he feel if you had the bubs calling your new bf "daddy" i bet he wouldn't like that very much. Just explain your feelings to the situation ; and leave his gf out of it as much as possible. And if he's still staying behind his "if you don't let the baby call her mum I want nothing to do with it" statement ; then tell him to shove it.

 

[toonlagoon]

youre so sosooo right

 

[karamel]

its all about the baby.
the only important party.
what's best for it ; that's whats best for you.

 

[toonlagoon]

soundsrealy bad but i feel its better with out as if she 1st priority is he relay worht it is taht relay bad

 

[karamel]

thats one message im having trouble reading.

if you're saying that its bad that his gf is his priority, then yes, its really bad.
If he can't stand up to her and take responsibility for your child ; he's not worth having around.

 

[toonlagoon]

top and bottom yes thats what im saying lol im so sorry for spelling

 

[karamel]

It's alright ; that was really the only message i was unsure about!

 

[toonlagoon]

wish he was a better man lol

 

[karamel]

Don't we all..

 

[toonlagoon]

thank you so much for youre help hunii if you woudl liek to privat messge me your msn or e males feel free and have a chat