can i come in here for a little bit??

[MissyMojo]

hey girls, i had a scan on 7th may thought i was bout 8 weeks but gestational sac was measuring 6 weeks, had a follow up scan today and no change, im gutted, my oh is trying to put on a brave face n joking it off , im sat home alone crying i just dont know how to feel, why didnt my body tell me there was something wrong?? why give me feelings and craving n sore boobs but no hint my baby wasnt there??

todays scan showed no change from 2 weeks ago, the gestational sack is very irregularly shaped and very low down,

ive decided to leave things to nature for a week or so, if my body doesnt miscarry naturally i'll go to hospital for the tablets to losen my cervix n pass the clots

 

[Laurenj22]

Hi

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss I know how you feel as I went through a similar thing earlier this year.

It is hard to cope with and I refused to take time off of work so I would get in on a night and just cry.

I had my dating scan and was told there was no heartbeat, I was booked to go back in for a follow up scan however I naturally miscarried before I was due to go.

It was very painful and scary and I wasn't prepared for hard it was but I would not have been able to cope having a medical procedure as I wanted things to happen in their own time.

If you want someone to talk to then just pm me I'm on most days.



xxx

 

[rachjim98]

Sweetie, I am so sorry for your loss.

You are more then welcome in here. I know this is not the place you wanna be as none of us do. It is a good place to come for support and hugs and to get things off your heart. I am sorry for your body deceiving you, as a lot of us on here have had the same. We think our life is just great and then we get smacked in the face with this news.
If you wanna talk we are here or feel free to pm me I will help anyway I can

 

[MissyMojo]

the hospital didnt say how long it would take for my body to catch up with whats happend n pass it all naturally, i hope its soon tho,, i think im going to give my body a week then look at going the tablet route

what im finding hardest is why didnt my body tell me? why give me all the preg symptoms y not let me know some how

 

[LeaArr]

I agree, if it doesn't happen on it's own within the week, you should take the tablet. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. HUGE

 

[Laurenj22]

That is the worst bit that you get no warning you can't even prepare yourself it just comes as a huge shock.

Once I was told that there was no heartbeat I knew my dates couldn't be wrong I think my brain realised and told my body to let go.

xx

 

[rachjim98]

The term for this is called a Missed Misscarriage, here is a link with some info if you would like to take a look. Again so sorry

https://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/scans/missedmiscarriage/

 

[Janiepops]

Hey chick, I haven't been on here in about a month, and the first post I read was yours.

I just want to say how much I feel for you right now. I went through the same thing 5 weeks ago, a scan showed the baby hadn't grown past 6 weeks, although my sac had carried on growing to 11 weeks. I still felt pregnant, all my symptoms were still there, so I coudln't believe it when i was told this. I decided that I would go down the surgery route, as I couldn't bear the thought of this carrying of for weeks still, so I think your choice is a very brave one, but I agree, a week is long enough before you should think of other options.

The pain isn't as raw with me now, most days I get through with no problems, but I still wonder how nature could be so cruel. If you need a shoulder or even just some advice or someone to listen to you, don't hesitate to PM me.

My thoughts are with you

 

[babytots]

so sorry for your loss sweetheart really wish you weren't having to join us over here. post as much as you need to even if its the smallest thing as we are all here to help and support you. i really hope the next week goes as gently on you as possible and you dont need to take the tablets. x

 

[MissyMojo]

im getting some cramps already, after scan on the 7th i think i knew deep down, i just needed them to confirm it,

 

[borntobeamum]

Hey honey, sorry that you are joining us here.

We are all here to talk to, any time.

xxxLauraxxx

 

[Fluxuspoem]

I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost a baby back in December by a missed miscarriage and know how painful it is.

My thoughts are with you, be good to yourself and give yourself and heart time to heal

Big hugs x

 

[MrsJD]

Hey hun,

So sorry to hear this!

XXX

 

[MissyMojo]

my oh has taken this soo hard, he wasnt really into ttc jsut agreed cos id been waiting and wanting so long, then once i was pregnant he never seems to show any excitement, but today after we go bk he went to the pub with his mate cos i wanted to go to bed n cry for a bit n when he came home his eyes were all bloodshot and he clung to me for half an hour, he wont talk about how hes feeling or anything, will he open up to me later on ?? im worried about him which is soo daft rel cos right about now as selfish as it seems i need to be worrying over me nd this probalby doesnt even make sense i just needed to get it out!

 

[Barneyboo]

I am so so sorry x x x x

 

[AP]

Missy its likely he will open up later. Men have a strange way of dealing with it. Just be there for each other babe. xxxx

 

[MissyMojo]

my body has caught up now i thnik

im spotting n feel really uncomfortable im tooo hot and i forgot how much sanitary towels feels weird n sound like nappies xx

argh y couldnt ive gotten hammered n passed out like my oh??

 

[Jessa]

I'm so sorry to hear this news. I've found in my experience that your body starts to let go quickly after you found out that the baby has died, even if the baby stopped growing weeks earlier. It seems as though as soon as our consciousness knows, it starts doing what it should have done so much earlier.

I hope you and your OH can grieve together and grow closer as a result of this experience.

 

[AP]

my body has caught up now i thnik

im spotting n feel really uncomfortable im tooo hot and i forgot how much sanitary towels feels weird n sound like nappies xx

argh y couldnt ive gotten hammered n passed out like my oh??

I cannot agree with this more, hun! I know that feeling! I went on holiday and had to wear towels for 4 weeks. Of course with my miscarriage i didnt know when i'd have a full on flow and get caught out so it was big ones for me.(did it naturally)

So out came the alcohol. Naturally too....(personally i felt it helped clear my body out too, but i duno if that would have been very advisable by the midwives."Have you been drinking plenty?" "Oh yes...." I replied.....

 

[catfromaus]

I am so sorry that this happened. I know how scary it is, it happened to me recently as well, and it is hard to believe that the baby could have been gone and you never knew it. It does help to post here, and also reading about missed miscarriages helped me as well, helped me know that I wasn't the only one.

Cat
xxx