Can you change it???

[MilitaryMummy]

I was married at the time of my daughters birth (getting divorced soon)
She is now 2 1/2.
Her father is obviously on her birth certificate and has "joing parental responsibility"
Is there any way that i can change this?? He only see's her once a week for several hours if he can be bothered. Pays nothing towards her and doesnt even text inbetween seeing her to see how she is.
xx

 

[Jade--x]

You can but he either needs to sign to say he doesn't want it anymore and agree to it or the court would have to take it from him, with him seeing her though and you being married when she was born, I can't see them agreeing to it and taking it from him x

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Youd have to go to court. Keep records of all of it and then present it to the judge.

 

[MilitaryMummy]

I've got loads of records and stuff. And proof of him being on drugs.
I've got lots of things. The thing is i will never stop her seeing him but i dont think he should have a say in schools and stuff when to be honest he doesnt even know what her favourite things are does that make sense? xxx

 

[Ceejay123]

From what I've seen, it can only be revoked by a judge and they'll only do it if there's a good reason. For example if he was violent/abusing drugs while caring for the child/threatening. However, if he did disute your schooling decisions etc, you could then take that decision to court and I'm sure they'd back you up.

Parental responsibility is a big deal, it's not something they revoke very often, only under certain circumstances. I know it must be hard, he has a say in her leaving the country, school and medical decisions. I doubt he'd dispute this though , if he considers himself a good dad? Courts are very pro- fathers rights. It wouldn't hurt to get a free consultation from a family solicitor though.
Technically permission is even needed to take a child on holiday... But without a valid reason a judge would throw out the father saying no x

 

[MorganEvans]

From what I've seen, it can only be revoked by a judge and they'll only do it if there's a good reason. For example if he was violent/abusing drugs while caring for the child/threatening. However, if he did disute your schooling decisions etc, you could then take that decision to court and I'm sure they'd back you up.

Parental responsibility is a big deal, it's not something they revoke very often, only under certain circumstances. I know it must be hard, he has a say in her leaving the country, school and medical decisions. I doubt he'd dispute this though , if he considers himself a good dad? Courts are very pro- fathers rights. It wouldn't hurt to get a free consultation from a family solicitor though.
Technically permission is even needed to take a child on holiday... But without a valid reason a judge would throw out the father saying no x

Yes, that's true. It's the only way to change it and since you can prove your theories, i'm sure your plea will be heard.

 

[Ceejay123]

From what I've seen, it can only be revoked by a judge and they'll only do it if there's a good reason. For example if he was violent/abusing drugs while caring for the child/threatening. However, if he did disute your schooling decisions etc, you could then take that decision to court and I'm sure they'd back you up.

Parental responsibility is a big deal, it's not something they revoke very often, only under certain circumstances. I know it must be hard, he has a say in her leaving the country, school and medical decisions. I doubt he'd dispute this though , if he considers himself a good dad? Courts are very pro- fathers rights. It wouldn't hurt to get a free consultation from a family solicitor though.
Technically permission is even needed to take a child on holiday... But without a valid reason a judge would throw out the father saying no x

Yes, that's true. It's the only way to change it and since you can prove your theories, i'm sure your plea will be heard.

I doubt they'll revoke his parental responsibility if they judge him capable of seeing her though/being her dad. While they're having contact I don't think (I may be wrong) that they'll take it away, as he's in her life and they class him as a good enough person to be there. If they revoked access maybe they'd consider it?

 

[MilitaryMummy]

Thanks Ladies... Thought i would ask.
He's not always there thats the problem.... And in all honesty i wish he knew what parental responsibility actually means!!! lol.

But like her school for exampl.... i've been and viwed a school for her to start in September. (near where i live now him obviously) and i havent told him the school i've applied for, for the pure reason that he hasnt asked???
He doesnt even ask how she is let alone care what she does when she's not with him for the 6 hours he has her if he can be bothered.

I just think it's unfair that someone like him can potentially have so much control when he doesnt actually care... if that makes sense???

xxx