Can't get over it :(

[CoachingBeef]

It's been over a month now and I still can't get over it I feel so sad and angry. I tried to do everything right..
I know I shouldn't but I keep thinking back to when I was pregnant and remembered things that I shouldn't have done.. Such as forgetting to take a couple of folic acid pills, drinking a pint of diet coke, getting my roots done, working in the garden etc etc. I know it's silly but if I hadn't done that stuff would I still be happily pregnant?

There is a woman at work who is 21 weeks and she smokes.. Seeing her standing there making her baby breathe in her disgusting smokes feels like a smack in the mouth to me. Does anybody else feel like this?

Sorry, I just needed somewhere to rant..

 

[xxCarolinexx]

Hi CoachingBeef,

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss

I was in a similar position to you. I had two miscarriages and both times I tried to do everything right (especially the 2nd time as I was distraught after what happened first time round). I don't smoke, I didn't drink when pregnant, tried to eat healthily, took my folic acid, got plenty of rest etc etc..
They just were not meant to be I had some tests carried out and there was no explanation. It's just really unfair!

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know not to beat yourself up about it. You can do everything right and sometimes baby will still not survive And it's so annoying and frustrating to see somebody else take a pregnancy for granted or doing stuff (deliberately) that they know is not good for the baby!! And they still get to hold a healthy baby at the end of it all.. it doesn't make sense

There's nothing I can say that will make you feel any better but I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you. And that you are not alone. And there will be light at the end of the tunnel for you someday, even if it doesn't feel like it right now! I went on to have a healthy baby third time around. I didn't do anything different to previously. And I still think about the babies I lost. You will never forget the baby you lost. And time won't heal you but it will help you cope. Stay strong hun xxx

 

[samzi]

i felt like that for the first few months, but it DOES get better

 

[Makeupdubai]

Im really sorry for your loss, i no how u feel, its a month for me and im still so heartbroken. I hope things will get better for you xxx

 

[kinny]

So sorry for you, know how you are feeling at the minute. Seeing the girl at work must break your heart.
We lost our twins at 11weeks 10 weeks ago and I am still struggling most days. Really thought was preg. this month (4 days late and nausea) but AF started today
Desperate to be pregnant again, waiting a long time to try again after son and now terrified it won't happen again. Hubbie and I fighting about it which adds to stress!
Hope you are getting lots of support and cuddles.

 

[buffycat]

wish i coud take your pain away...

i hate to say this, but i don't think we ever get over it......we may learn to live with the pain, but we will never forget.....it makes us who we are.

When i think of mine, i just say that my were just too good for this world......my way of coping i guess.

take some time to heal, both physically and emotionally.......