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[welshcakes79]

Does anyone else find it hard adapting to parenthood or is it just me?? i love my little girl, but cant seem to get my head around how much my life has changed, and how much i have changed... i find im too scared to take her out by myself in the car, i have to have someone with me and im constantly asking my family "is she ok?" "why does she do that?" or "why is she crying?" whereas before i babysat for OH'S niece sooooo many times that taking care of her was second nature, but with Rhiannon im constantly unsure of what im doing is right for her, like when she is sleeping should i leave her sleep or pick her up to dress her so we can go out, i feel like im constantly dithering and a pants mum

 

[Simon'sMum]

I don't think you're alone. I felt that way for a little bit at first. I felt confident for some things, but chicken for others. For example, I kept worrying that I'd trip near the stairscaise and drop the baby over the rail. Or just stumble down the stairs with him. I was also worried about how things would be once OH would go back to work, that I'd be incompetent. But the worse, for me, was I kept worrying that although I recalled putting him in the car, that I'd actually forgotten him at the store! It may sound completely stupid, but it made be avoid going out alone. Finally, after about 2 months, I began telling myself that everything was fine last time and that it would be ok this time too. I think part of it is hormones for the first few weeks but also just confidence. Recognize your good moments and try to be proud of what you accomplish. Also, try to hear the compliments and approval you get from those around you. I'm sure you'll feel better soon.

 

[Samantha675]

I think what you are feeling is totally normal and natural. You have never had a baby before. I was just thinking during my shower, that I have no idea how to care for a baby. I know it needs to be feed, changed, kept warm and clean. But how often do I feed my LO, how often does it need to be changed, how warm it too warm, or too cool, how often do I bath it, how do I bath it. I could go on and on. I think we can only do our best. It is good that you ask your family for help. I am confident you are doing your best for your baby!

 

[Wobbles]

All of a sudden BOOM huh!


I was like this at the start as for going out - get her up and go out I was the same now Ive learnt if shes fed and healthy & I need to go out I have to get on with it.

Still have moments now where adapting to being a parent is challenging

 

[welshcakes79]

feel better knowing others are going through the same "unsure-ness"... i guess it must be a confidence thing but i always think im a right dithering idiot when it comes to making a decision, especially when i have my parents saying things like "shame to wake her just to take her out for a walk" or " wonder if you have a upset tummy" every time she has a dirty nappy and cries... guess thats getting me down, especially when they pout when i ask them not to do it..

 

[Wobbles]

Baby having wakeup time is not a bad thing - baby having fresh air is not a bad thing. We had Caitlin out seeing family at 3 weeks the bus driver look horrified! My HV said try to get baby use to day & night at the start as my curtains were always closed when she came

Thats really not nice about the nappy situation either babies cry & there dirty nappies change in texture/colour.

They should really respect you adapting to be a Mum because its ok taking in ideas of other peoples way but YOUR MUM and your way is the right one for you & LO ....you both learn together x

 

[welshcakes79]

thanks wobbles, i feel better just being able to come online and rant a bit x