Christmas Dilema

[krissie1234uk]

Girls I need advice. Bit of background:
My granddad has been really unwell this year, he has had bowel cancer - had it removed and a colostomy bag (sp?) put in, he is starting chemo in the new year, he also has an abdominal aortic aneurysm (basically the walls of his aorta have weakened and he has a balloon affect going on, this could potentially burst) and to top it all he has skin cancer which they are removing constantly all over his body. It just seems like a lot for his body to deal with, and although he is still as quick and as determined as ever the whole family is coming to terms with the fact that this could be his last christmas.
On to my problem. My brother suggested to my mum that we all have a Christmas meal together. The obvious place is at my mums as she is the only one with a house big enough for us all to fit in! Now she doesn't want to cook dinner, which I understand completely and I wouldn't want her to. My brother suggested we all get a takeaway, which everyone else agreed to.
Now this is not how I want Dylan to have his first Christmas. I want the whole lot for him, I want him to be able to enjoy the same food as us and be showered with attention . Also, we live a few towns away from the rest of my family so OH would have to drive as taxi's would be crazy money, which means he wouldn't be able to have a drink. He didn't get one last year as I was pregnant and he was being supportive. He wants to have a drink with dinner this year.
What do I do? Not go and be the only one not there on what could be my granddads last xmas? Go and not have the 1st xmas I imagined for my son and make OH unhappy? Decisions, decisions...

 

[Babydance]

oh what a pickle hun! Sorry to hear about your Grandad! If it was me.. i would have christmas dinner at mine let LO eat his christmas dinner and then go round say 3 or 4pm then you still have some time. Also can anyone pick you up? xxx

 

[krissie1234uk]

Thanks hun x They could, but then we would have to get back home and it wouldn't be fair to expect anyone else not to drink either. I suppose we could always do it the other way round and put the turkey in the oven before we go, then get back and have a xmas tea. Don't know what time everyone is meeting though, hmmm.

 

[Eternal]

yeah, that could work, my husbands family always have christmas dinner at tea time (which i find very strange) but you could do that this and keep everyone happy. I am sure your hubby would be ok without a drink until the evening and then can have a traditional proper family meal just the 3 of you!

 

[Blah11]

You could always suggest that everyone does a dish? Someone can do the starter,
sometone else the main and someone the dessert? Or just buy it all pre-done from m&s that you just need to bung in the oven.
It just wouldnt be the same with a takeaway IMO plus as it might be ur grandads last christmas wouldnt it be better to go all out and have a traditional dinner?

 

[mrsraggle]

You could always suggest that everyone does a dish? Someone can do the starter,
sometone else the main and someone the dessert? Or just buy it all pre-done from m&s that you just need to bung in the oven.
It just wouldnt be the same with a takeaway IMO plus as it might be ur grandads last christmas wouldnt it be better to go all out and have a traditional dinner?

That's what I would suggest too.

 

[Vici]

You could always suggest that everyone does a dish? Someone can do the starter,
sometone else the main and someone the dessert? Or just buy it all pre-done from m&s that you just need to bung in the oven.
It just wouldnt be the same with a takeaway IMO plus as it might be ur grandads last christmas wouldnt it be better to go all out and have a traditional dinner?

I agree, all chip in

Just another question, where on earth do you get a takeaway from on xmas day? x

 

[Blah11]

You could always suggest that everyone does a dish? Someone can do the starter,
sometone else the main and someone the dessert? Or just buy it all pre-done from m&s that you just need to bung in the oven.
It just wouldnt be the same with a takeaway IMO plus as it might be ur grandads last christmas wouldnt it be better to go all out and have a traditional dinner?

I agree, all chip in

Just another question, where on earth do you get a takeaway from on xmas day? x

You gotta remember that Christmas is a Christian holiday. Chinese, Thais and Indians are still open.

 

[krissie1234uk]

There are lots of takeaways in my home town, I don't think they ever close!
OH suggested we all make dinner, he even suggested we make the whole dinner, but mum was worried about seating everyone and I think they are all quite happy with the idea of the takeaway apart from us.
I think we will just visit in the afternoon. OH has been very considerate and has said that he doesn't mind not having a drink at all if that's what I decide to do, which is so lovely of him. I'll see what time they are all meeting and work around that.
Thanks for the advice ladies xxx