Co Parenting with FOB? Does it work?

[jaytee146]

I've noticed the mothers around me all have horrible relationships with their fobs. I would like for fob and I to be civil enough to do joint birthday parties, and some holiday's with lo. as I feel like it might help her if she can see we are doing this as a team and not just I send you here or there.

At this point fob and I did lo's first birthday party together.. we had a big discussion because he invited his eldest son's bff to my daughter's party. I wouldn't have had an issue if it weren't for the fact that I'm not allowed to bring up his son or his mother. I found out that fob had once again been lying, the mother of his eldest stayed 10 minutes from the party, but he didn't invite his son because he didn't want me or this young lady to be in the same room.. Am I the only sane one here? I would figure she'd like her son to know his sister as I'd like my daughter to know her big brother. But it doesn't look like this is going to be a reality in this situation. He wants to take my baby around her and her son but I'm not allowed to go. and she doesn't let her son go anywhere without her.

To me it's a bunch of people calling themselves adults and are acting like little children running around lying and playing childish games. To say I'm the youngest of the three of us you wouldn't know it based on their behaviors. anyway.... I hope this coparenting thing works out but I'm prepared for the worst and if something wonderful happens that's good too.

 

[Kate&Lucas]

It is working for us so far
We do have our issues but tbh, but I've learned to completely ignore what goes on when I'm not around, what he says about me and the absolute lies he tells me and just let it go. We act with each other as if we were old friends and any problems are ironed out over the phone or by text, never infront of Lucas. We spend his birthday together and co-ordinate on gifts. It definitely can work but everyone has to be mature about it and willing to co-operate.