Constantly Worried

[bamagurl]

Hello ladies! I was wondering if anyone had any good ideas about how to relax and enjoy pal! I am 5 weeks 2 days pregnant & if I start feeling good, my mind constantly starts worrying that something is wrong. I was pregnant last February went to the 8 week appointment, heard the heartbeat, saw the baby went back for the 12 week appointment and our baby was gone ;( It was the most devastating thing I have ever had to go through. It was very helpful that our daughter was with us though because she was such a comfort throughout the grieving process. Now here I am pregnant again & terrified I cannot trust my own body! My next appointment is September 28th and it is going to be a LONG 3 weeks if I cannot get a grip on this fear.

 

[Erinsmummy]

I feel the same. I have had 2 mc, 1 in feb an one 2 months ago, I'm 4 weeks 4 days now and terrified!! Xxx

 

[Erinsmummy]

Also I have a daughter too and I agree they really help get u through! Xx

 

[bamagurl]

We can try and help each other through it all! I was a poas addict but have told myself I won't test any more!

So sorry for your losses!

 

[rooster100]

Hi I was similar, had a scan at 12 weeks due to a small but of bleeding and it turned out the baby had died a few weeks before. I was deverstated. Pregnant again now and terrified of it happening again. Just don't think I'm strong enough to go through it again.
The only thing I can say to you is that you said you have a daughter....so your body can produce a wonderful child and it can do it again! I know it's frightening but so many women m/c and go on to have healthy pregnancys. Xx

 

[jojo23]

hi girls just offering some hope i lost a little girls last year at 20 weeks and got pregnant again in september and was petrified!! every day i was scared and to be honest it never left me although the further along i got the more i enjoyed it! my little boy is asleep next to me at the moment snoring i might add lol he was born in June!! all i can say is take one day at a time and dont ever be afraid to stand up n say ur worried or scared thats what the doctors are there for! enjoy and happy n healthy 9 months to u all xxxxxx

 

[Erinsmummy]

Yeah we can def help each other! Thanks jojo we will all b fine I'm sure, suppose its just natural to worry after losses. I never worried at all with Erin, pregnant was easy an normal apart from a bleed at 9 weeks that turned out to be nothing, i didn't even worry than really! Mad!

 

[baileybubs]

Hi ladies,

I feel exactly the same, I panic about things I didnt even know about last time I was pregnant, first was the possibility of ectopic, then blighted ovum, and of course the dreaded mmc! I also cannot trust my body, its so unfair! I know other women who are less pregnant (if thats a correct term) than me and they are happy as larry telling everyone but I cannot believe its going to be ok, and I dont think I will until I am holding my baby.
I think the only way to relax I have found is to think that there is nothing I can do, as sad as that sounds, and I think about how much I enjoyed my time with my angel before I found out she had passed away. And I want to be able to say the same thing about my hobbit. If it does go wrong I want to say that I at least had these few weeks with him (I guess the genders by the way, I dont know lol) and I chat to him about my day and about his daddy and family. I also tell him about what we will all do together in the future. Its sometimes hard because sometimes I think taht future may nbot come around as I may lose him, but I want to show him how much I want him and how although I am afraid of losing him, it doesnt mean I dont love him more than anything in the world, just as I love his older sister who was too beautiful for earth.

I know it all sounds very cliche and cheesey but I just find that doing this helps me stay focused on what the future may be and how I dont want to forget my little hobbit no matter how long I am blessed with him.

 

[Babybeanjan27]

I truly hope all goes well! Best of luck and tons of sticky rainbow dust!! *hugs*

 

[sandrab]

I feel the same

Had 3 previous MMC in past year last one in may now pregnant again and constantly worried, trying not to be thought I was 6 weeks today but had a scan today and measuring only 5w4days so go back in 1 week for another scan to see if we can see heartbeat this time x

 

[yoyojojo]

i haven't told anyone not even my husband

 

[mannymoo]

Hi Ladies - I found out on Sunday that I'm pregnant again after a mc at 8 weeks in Jan and one at 11 weeks in May. I'm totally freaking out already. I think I'm a wreck because I just don't feel pregnant. Did any of you feel like this the first few days of finding out you were pregnant?

I would love to stick it out with all of you - we're all going through the same thing and its nice to know other people know how I'm feeling right now.
xx

 

[Sarena]

Hi,

I am in the same boat, just found out today I am pregnant for 4th time, 3 early losses before this one, can't stop hoping for something different even though i know odds are against me. I guess all we can do is take one day at a time, and enjoy every day we are pregnant. Fingers crossed for you all.

 

[sandrab]

Hi Ladies - I found out on Sunday that I'm pregnant again after a mc at 8 weeks in Jan and one at 11 weeks in May. I'm totally freaking out already. I think I'm a wreck because I just don't feel pregnant. Did any of you feel like this the first few days of finding out you were pregnant?

I would love to stick it out with all of you - we're all going through the same thing and its nice to know other people know how I'm feeling right now.
xx

Hi I have had 3 previous MMC at 8 weeks do feel the exact same as you, I don't have much pregnancy symptoms but had 2 scans and baby is doing fine don't think I will start to settle until 12 weeks x

 

[baileybubs]

The worry always continues for us PAL and PARL ladies, I have just had my 12 week scan and everything was fine but now I am worrying that something will happen between now and my 12 week appointment! Its never ending!! So I have invested in a doppler to ease my mind which should arrive tomorrow....eek! I think its so hard for us to believe everything is ok when we cant feel or see anything happening. If only we could all have weekly ultrasounds so that we could see our babies progressing and getting stronger!!