contacting ex

[precious-gift]

im feel like im going mad, how do i stop myself from contacting my ex, he has got on with his life and forgot all about me, why can't do the same?
its pathetic, but i just can't help myself, iv asked him to change his number, which he hasn't done and why does he keep replying.

i wish i had more willpower!

 

[xJG30]

Delete his number's etc from your phone..

 

[kimfrye661]

I did that with my ex. I wasn't pregnant at the time but it went on for a good year....even when I had a new bf. I would call him, myspace him, it was really bad. You just have to be strong!

 

[precious-gift]

i know, need to be strong and have some respect for myself! have deleted number, unfortunately i know it anyway

xx

 

[edinsam]

aw hun I am the same, he doesnt respond to any of mine though so its even worse and makes me want to reply even more!

I just cant let him go - its a killer!

You would think I would take the hint as he doesnt reply to me but I dont

 

[Serene123]

I think we've all had someone we can't get off our minds before

Every time you want to text him go and do something else?

 

[MummyMummy]

think of your pride/dignity/self respect.

it takes time to 'get over' someone, but soon enough you'll notice that wanting to text times have dropped before you know ityou would have stopped altogether.

xXx

 

[precious-gift]

thanks sam, helps to know im not the only one, it is so hard though, i just can't let go! been one day now since i texted him just have to take each day as it comes!

recieved legal papers today to sell our house, just seems so final.

won't it be awkward if i don't speak to him or see him until baby is born, then i have to let him back into my life, and see him every week, i feels as though i would just go back to where i am now emotionally. oh i just wish he would come to his senses, it makes me so mad that he left for a girl who constantly has affairs, but he thinks she will be faithful to him after seeing her for a month, he obviously can't see past his infatuation, oh it makes me want to scream

xx

 

[edinsam]

aw hun I know I know. One thing I do know that on my side at least is that Iknow I will never see mine once the baby is born - he wants absolutely nothing to do with it at all - doesnt want to know when its born, what is called nothing. Never ever wants to see it. I find it so sad as all a long the thing he has struggled most with in life is that he has a daughter with his ex and that moraly he says that killed him to leave her all those years ago. I said to him oh so its alright morally to leave me then? and he was like well its different as I wont have gone through this pregnancy with you and I wont have been involved when its born!!! Wheres the bloody logic in that!!

I think you are doing the right thing taking it a day at a time. One of the things that helped me stop texting each day was that I knew she would be sitting there saying ah poor Sam still texting you - it killed me to think that she would be laughing behind my back!

It however doesnt stop me emailing him at work - aaaarrrrggggghhH!!

 

[laura3103]

i know this feeling to as mine left me when i was 12 weeks pregnant!!
I would text and call him all the time but he would never reply or pick up! i still have the hurge to do it now and my LO is 6 weeks old but now it is just to tell him she is here and she is beautiful!

I did send him a text from my labour room!!! and thanked him the best gift in the whole world my little girl but then i realised i need to stop this and haven't texted him since!1

( But i will admit that last week i had some photos printed off on my LO and stuck them to his car windowscreen!!! naughty i know but i just need him to see her and acknowlege he has another little girl now.x.x

Fingers crossed i wont be doing this again and i have deleted his number from both my mobiles so i cant ring or text him GOD ITS GOING TO BE HARD

 

[bjshooter]

Imin similar situation and i am also stopping smoking, its amazing how alike the two things are. Every time you feel the need you need to distract yourself and eventually the need will come less and less.

 

[Welshcob]

Girls
I just wanna give you all a big hug. Your messages really helped me. I feel the same and am struggling to cope with not contacting my absent FOB. Hes just stopped contacting me and thats that and I am left confused and feeling hated by him...why I am not sure, but he sure does seem to hate me. I am struggling whether to ask him if he wants to come to my next scan on the 27th May. Do I do that and then if I don't hear from him stop all contact? I just don't know. I have called and he never answers, I have texted and he never replies and I invited him to my earlier scan and have said I want him there with me to raise this baby, but I never hear anything back and I just feel so alone and confused. Your messages have given me a bit of a boot up the bum and made me feel a bit stronger and I know I am not the only one that feels weak!

 

[precious-gift]

hey i didn't let my ex go to my 20 week scan, took my mum, but what he has done hurt too much and it still does. its slowly getting better for me, but my ex seem to hate and blame me too, in my case solicitor says thats common when a man commits adultery, as they are trying to justify what they did and feel guilty, but its not nice.

still find it difficult not to contact him, i just want him to care, or to be the man i fell in love with and married, but i know i have to let go

xx

 

[Welshcob]

hey i didn't let my ex go to my 20 week scan, took my mum, but what he has done hurt too much and it still does. its slowly getting better for me, but my ex seem to hate and blame me too, in my case solicitor says thats common when a man commits adultery, as they are trying to justify what they did and feel guilty, but its not nice.

still find it difficult not to contact him, i just want him to care, or to be the man i fell in love with and married, but i know i have to let go

xx