cross posted on tww. im sooooo fed up.

[kittycrazy]

so this is cycle 8. im fed up of ttc. we really want another but are both fed up of fertility monitors and bbt and opks and pre seed and the whole thing. im now 4dpo and have decided im not temping any more this month. i had an alcoholic drink last night for the first time in 8 months and am seriosuly considering giving up trying and doing the not trying not preventing thing. but im paranoid about having a break due to my age. im 38 in a couple months. arhhhhhh.
anyon else have these feeling.

 

[dimmu]

I'm 38 next week, cycle 3 ttc#2.

I decided against temping, OPKs and the lot, just thought the whole thing would be too stressful and we all know that stress ain't good. Well if I'm honest I wanted to start temping but hubby was very much against it saying it will just make me obsess about things, and he certainly has a point.
So I'm tracking my cycle on FF but not temping, and aiming to BD roughly around the right time based on EWCM and dates only.

Trying to take it easy, and I'm writing this whilst enjoying a glass of red.

Perhaps just take a step back from the more tech approach with temping and all that, and just enjoy yourself and your hubby and see what happens.

Good luck!

 

[Nikki_d72]

Im so sorry you are feeling like this, I know how frustrating it is. We just finally managed to get out BFP on cycle no 18, I said every month I was giving up, it takes over your whole mind, doesnt it?! Hopefully this one sticks, Im only just past 6 wks and have had a couple of chemicals in the past. Anyway, I just wanted to say good luck and that I had great success with using CoQ10. I had been taking it along with Maca for the last few months as well as feeding it to hubby, and upped the dose for me to 600mg this month. Within a month of starting it we got a bfp but it was chemical, at least it was a sign that we could actually get pregnant though so although it was upsetting it gave me hope IYKWIM. I had heard it can take 3 months to take effect and it certainly seems to be the case with us. We are both 43 and were really just about to draw the line and give up hope. It is a bit expensive but worth a shot maybe? A lot cheaper than medical intervention for me, was my justification.

I didnt temp either as I knew it would make me crazier, but did monitor CM and used OPKs. After all this time and loads of TTC prior to Mr 2 I know my signs quite well - do you think dumping the temps would maybe help?

All the very best, chin up xxx

 

[penelopejones]

I'm 38 too and like NIkki just got a bfp after trying for well over a year. I think we started when dd was 9 months old and now she's 2. I started taking CoQ10 as well but did use IUI this round. After a bunch of testing, we found DH has low sperm count/motility/morphology. Are you willing to do any testing?