Dating..reasons you'd rule a guy out? and crappy dates..lol

[PinkLady17]

Basically, what the title says lol

I was talking last night to this single dad for first time...everything was nice, until he started to make like this really direct sexual questions to me.. (not what I have in mind if i dont know you hehe)...anyway, I figured since he's a man, he wants to make sure I'm not lousy at it lol answered some and then changed the subject.

I didn't rule him out because of the sex talk... I ruled him out cuz the a'hole asked me....wait for it.... "Are you rich??".....

 

[Dream.dream]

The sex one would be a deal breaker for me . I made the last guy I dated wait 6 month so if he's making direct comments that soon he'd be gone

Some other things
- does he have a job? no job is a no go for me
- does he have plans for the future , if he's content where he is with no plans that's a deal breaker for me because I'm a very driven person
- does drugs , or drinks , I don't do either and want that in common with someone
- if they don't want a lot of kids
- if my family doesn't like them .
- if they show any signs of controlling Behavior or warning signs thy could become abusive.

 

[babycrazy1706]

a smoker is a definite no-no for me
as is a heavy drinker
a party goer (like every week) is a no

and he:
has to have a secure job
not be too into himself or too groomed (waxing/fake tan etc) no way
be sensible with money but not tight

 

[Kate&Lucas]

I am ridiculously picky I'd rather stay single than be with a guy who doesn't tick every box... which explains why I've been single for the past 2.5 years
Being unemployed wouldn't necessarily put me off depending on the situation. Living at home is a big downvote. Owning a pet. When one of the first conversations we have is them trying to tie me into some sort of commitment (I actually detest being asked "do you want to be my girlfriend?" - Are you 12?? If you have to ask, then no, I don't).
Smoking, having shit mates, being too nice, wanting to play Dad to Lucas, talking shit about exes. I'm quite open about sex and don't mind talking about it, the worst is when a fella wants to steer the conversation that way, and he's making really pathetic attempts to sound sexy but it's just like way awkward. Deal breaker

I'm clearly going to be single forever

 

[babycrazy1706]

i agree with pretty much everything you've said. i too will be single for a while im sure!!! lol. Xx

 

[Dezireey]

I have a completely different criteria now for a new man and I am glad because it is dependant on the future of my son and ( unlike the previous single me) I am not cutting corners or accepting crap or expecting a loser to become nice. Any guy I get serious with must have the following;

- loves my son like his own
- secure and good job
- positive outlook on life ( negative men can go jump)
- kind and thoughtful
- no mind games
- balanced view on things
- admits his mistakes
- empathy

I could go on, but basically the complete opposite from my ex!

 

[PinkLady17]

I agree with all you girls have said...

definitely smoking, drinking, and drugs are NO NO for me...
having sh*tty and clingy friends...and being a momma's boy is a deal breaker too (they say that if a guy is nice to his mom he will be nice to you too.... lol BS, if he's a momma's boy you will always be second to his mom)..... and what I said at the beginning, the money issue, what kind of question is that? "are you rich?", a total turn off because it made me feel he wanted someone to maintain him and his son as well. ridiculous.

 

[babycrazy1706]

I have a completely different criteria now for a new man and I am glad because it is dependant on the future of my son and ( unlike the previous single me) I am not cutting corners or accepting crap or expecting a loser to become nice. Any guy I get serious with must have the following;

- loves my son like his own
- secure and good job
- positive outlook on life ( negative men can go jump)
- kind and thoughtful
- no mind games
- balanced view on things
- admits his mistakes
- empathy

I could go on, but basically the complete opposite from my ex!

agree with all