Death in the family.

[FayDanielle]

Sorry for such a morbid post.

I was just wondering if anyone had a death in the family whilst pregnant?
If so how did you deal with it?

Found out earlier tonight that my great nanna passed away in her sleep today and im feeling obviously upset but dont want to work myself up into a state as im almost 35 weeks pregnant and dont want to cause any stress on the baby.
She was 96, so had a very long and fulfilled life, which im very happy about, regardless its still not nice to lose a family member.

Im afraid its going to cause me a bit of upset/worry as obviously it was my mums nanna and shes upset and my nanna herself is almost 80 so is very old herself and I'd be absolutely devastated if it were to cause her a breakdown or something even worse

I know its gonna be hard for a while, especially losing her so close to the 5th generation being born into the family...so was wondering if anyone has gone through it and how you dealt with it

Thanks for listening to my ramble girls
xx

 

[FayDanielle]

i lost a family member last week hun, i know im not pregnant anymore but i can relate to how you feel

it was my nanna and she was very close to me, its devastating. Im always here if you need to talk x

Im sorry for your loss hun
& thank you
xxx

 

[emmylou209]

sorry for your loss hun and a big for u n lil 1 xxx

 

[abbSTAR]

I haven't experienced a death recently, but Last Sunday I found my nan laying on the floor opposite my house.. She had fallen over and stumbled down hill. it was awful I ran out to her she was in such a mess my mum came running out aswell and I went and rung an abulance, my heart was racing and I was just a wreck of emotions... She's 86 and it's just awful feeling so helpless. But in hospital they found it had caused a bleed on the brain lucky she had not broken anything but she was so so brused and cut you could hardly tell it was her.. The doctors told my mum and the wrest of my nana children that it was fifty fifty on wether she was going to make it and they had to make all kinds of decision on whether to resusitate IF anything happened etc. It was a stressful time for the whole family my nan is very much loved and we are from a large family so there was lots of support all her children stayed around her bed side day and night. She was so looking forward to meeting my son... I just prayed she would pull through, I mean all she was doing was coming for Sunday dinner bless her. Now a week on she is doing amazingly well we are so proud of her.

It's awful to loose someone you love...
I know how your feeling to an extent, and I'm really sorry for your loss
but you just need to think positive now...don't think of what if and maybes think of your little girl and focus on all the good things you still have, your great nan is in a better place now and I'm sure she will be looking over you and your little girl
honestly positivity is what got me through last week! Your little girl needs you to be strong...Don't think of all the bad things and you'll be alot better for it xx

 

[lizardbreath]

I havent experienced a Death while Pregnant but I will always Remember the day Jaymee turned a Month old One of my friends was killed in a Horrible car accident and It was so tragic and hard to Deal with because I was trying to take care of a one month old and show that I wasnt torn up as bad as I was..... Im so Sorry for your Loss though

 

[SophieGrace]

I Lost My Grandad When I Was 16 Weeks Pregnant... He Was Only 69 And Still Sort Of Blame Myself For It Because They Always say A Death In A Family Is A Birth In A Family If You Know What I Mean. I Still Cant Beleive He's Gone And The Fact That I Never Told Him I Was Pregnant Hurts Me Even More.

It Will Be Really Hard Babe But Try Not To Get Too Stressed About It Cause The Last Thing Your Nanna Would Want Is For You To Be Getting Your LO Stressed.

If You Wanna Talk Pm Me At Any Time Babe BUt I Know What Your Going Through xxx

Sorry For Your Loss xx

 

[LoisP]

I haven't lost anyone while being pregnant, but my heart really does go out to you and your family, i understand the pain of loosing a loved one and it's tough. Glad your thinking of your girl, and staying strong for her

 

[Carlyp1990]

didnt want to read and run. Sorry hun i dont really have any words of advice just wanted to send you xx

 

[MissMamma]

I dont know what to say hunni but didn't want to read and run
I can imagine that a death is especially hard to handle at this time when your trying to concentrate on bringing a new life into the world.
All you can do is mourn for your nana but make sure you lok after yourself. I lost my grandad just before i fell pregnant so i wasn't aware at the time of his death but this would have been his first great grandchild and it's so upsetting, however your LO will keep you going ..xx

 

[FayDanielle]

Hey girls, I just want to say Thank you very much to all of you for your words

I've sort of come to terms with it now, gotten my head around it and the fact that I know shes in a better place and is no longer suffering is keeping me going.
I know she'll watch down on my little one and keep her safe
xxx

 

[lesleyann]

not while i was pregnant but not long after Lo turned 1 my grans stepmum died while i was on holiday and it was very upsetting we did get to do a 5 gen picture before however but she was very ill.

So sorry for your loss hun as you said above she will be watching over you and baby xx

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

I'm so sorry for your loss hon
My aunt passed away in May, so while I was 7 months pregnant. It was really hard for me to cope with the fact that she wasn't going to be here to see my daughter, etc. as she was so excited about her. I, like you, accepted the fact she was gone fairly quickly and easily. But the funeral set everything off. I was heavily pregnant, couldn't find anything nice to wear to it, and then everyone kept asking me, "Oh how's the baby? When's she due?" etc. while I was trying not to lose it over my aunt passing.

I felt so horrible that everyone kept asking about Olivia while we were at my aunt's funeral, like they weren't paying attention to her or something! But my mom explained to me that it they were just looking for something to lift their spirits, and my big ol' belly was the easiest target.

 

[Breezy]

My grandmother is going to be released from the hospital tomorrow to go home so she may pass away peacefully in her home in the next few weeks.

Sorry for your losses, ladies.

 

[Happy]

I'm not a teen i'm 29 but I lost my Grandmother to cancer 3 hours after Phoebe was born. I found it really difficult as I was so upset but at the same time I was so happy I had a new baby, only now 17 months later am I coming to terms with her passing on. As someone else said your LO keeps you going.

 

[stephwiggy]

Hugs

I lost my grandad while i was pregnant with my son and i was living in N Ireland so could not go to the service.

it was very hard but i tried to concentrate on the good..

and my son is called Kieran "Arthur" after grandad.

the pain will lessen just concentrate on bubs hun xxx

 

[EmyDra]

My Great Nana was a very special person to me. She died at 93 when I was 11.

If I am carrying a girl then her middle name will be Blanche, after her - Mary Blanche Cooper. She always went by Blanche instead of Mary x. As a child I was always fond of two little green plastic unicorns she kept over a doorway (just cocktail stirrers I think) They are now over my nursery doorway.

I'm sorry for your loss, but it is wonderful that she lived such a long life and got to be with you as much as she did. You will surely have a load of amazing memories, as do I x

 

[Jemma_x]

Im sorry for your loss When i was pregnant with connor, 2 of my aunties died. I was so upset and i felt like i couldnt grieve properply because i didnt feel right going to the funerals as i was pregnant and bringing a new life into the world when we had just lost someone if that makes sense